Do you tell?
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Topic: Do you tell?
Posted By: busymum
Subject: Do you tell?
Date Posted: 06 July 2007 at 8:16am
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I'm curious to know if you tell your friends and rellies about OB? Or are you too embarrassed? For me, when I relay info from people on here I say "a friend of a friend said..." (or a friend if it's someone I feel I know kinda well). And there's NO WAY I'd point my rellies (sis etc) in this direction because it's my "safe venting/talking spot" LOL
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Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 06 July 2007 at 8:22am
I tell people. LOL, hey I met my huby online... people know I am a geek!    ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 06 July 2007 at 8:32am
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Yep. I mainly go to an American forum though, everyone knows I have my online friends haha. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: peachy
Date Posted: 06 July 2007 at 8:35am
I only talk to my Mum and DH about OB as everyone else would think I am some kind of freak to be on an internet forum! You know how with some people tehy think the internet is a dodgy place  ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Bombshell
Date Posted: 06 July 2007 at 8:39am
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Dh knows the site (bugger!!!)
Mum knows i chat online...but not sure of sites Friends and work etc know i talk to other "mums" online but not sure of sites... dont really want to share with them cause i like some anonymity on here and being able to vent... I also met DH online - something about his love of water / sea attracted me....back when it was all scary and new and getting engaged meant we told everyone the truth of how we met - had told a few oldies at my work etc that we met in a coffee shop and they couldnt work that one out at all....when truth came out they didnt really care cause everyone knew him and knew we were a perfect match!
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Posted By: Bubbaloo
Date Posted: 06 July 2007 at 8:41am
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My friends know that I talk to people online but they don't know the name of it as this is a place were I feel comfortable talking about stuff that I don't want other people to know about. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  Was danni-chick Mum to James My Angel 28/07/08 |
Posted By: my2angels
Date Posted: 06 July 2007 at 8:50am
| Im the same as you teresa, I dont really tell anyone. Not because Im embarassed but because i dont want them coming online and seeing what I write, its a place I can vent and gossip. Its almost like an online diary, I know you guys are reading but dont want others to if that makes any sense at all. |
Posted By: .Mel
Date Posted: 06 July 2007 at 8:50am
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Yep I tell people, they know that I used to be on NZWP and that I met heaps of girls from that site, and they know that some of those girls are now on this site. I'm not sure if they've ever come on to find me though... it wouldn't worry me if they did. ------------- Mr Mellow (16) Miss Attitude (8) Destructa Kid (3) 
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Posted By: baalamb
Date Posted: 06 July 2007 at 8:52am
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Ditto, Danni!!!
And ditto, Ana and BS - DH and I met online and my mum felt she had to lie to her family about how we met as she was afraid how some of them may take it. I told her that I didn't want to have to keep up that lie/fib and told them the truth. They were fine with it! I admit, I'm still a little bit embarassed to admit it to people I don't know well, but most people take it fine! We're happily married with a baby, so things worked out well didn't they?! 
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Posted By: Bombshell
Date Posted: 06 July 2007 at 9:07am
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yeah my mum was ok but DHs parents werent so hot on it...and have to say anyone who didnt already know soon realised when we were on Holmes for wedding stalkers and i think it clicked for a few people then too - cause i metioned that heck why would i worry about online people when i met DH online...LOL!!!
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Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 06 July 2007 at 9:16am
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yep, I love telling people that I met my IRL friend Ana "online" I say "we hooked up online" and watch their faces... ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 06 July 2007 at 9:30am
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I tell some people but like you a few of you I don't tell them the name of the site as this is my home and I don't really want them to see what I have to say. I still remember that Holmes episode BS the txt's that got sent in were nasty. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: pepsi
Date Posted: 06 July 2007 at 9:35am
Another ditto here as to how I met my DH!! Initially I was embarrased about it because it wasn't really the norm back then, and so I told a couple of porkys about how we met to a few people  But now, I just spit it out and people either say "oh me too" or they don't bat an eyelid cause it's pretty common now. Plus, I'm a geek and people often expect me to only be sitting in front of a computer all day anyway..
As for this sort of site, I don't tend to give specific site names just because of the whole not wanting everyone I know to read some of the stuff I type. |
Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 06 July 2007 at 9:42am
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My friends all know I'm a forum geek as does my family....aye Red??? ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: ginger
Date Posted: 06 July 2007 at 10:16am
Hehe ... Just the other day, DH and I bumped into BS and BSDH, and after we went our separate ways DH looked over his shoulder at them, then back at me and said 'They're actual people!' Well, duh!   Now I wonder how many of you exactly he thinks are imaginary!! Heaven knows what he thought I was up to when I told him I was going to the Botany meet ups! ------------- Cuinn Lachlan 23.1.09 - 22:00 Antonia Helene 4.8.11 - 09:41 |
Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 06 July 2007 at 10:31am
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Don't be offended, but mostly you guys are my "geeky online friends" (but meant in the most loving way possible!) it's mostly just to take the piss out of myself
But yeah, I'm often commenting about how I have more friends online than I do in real life. Sad but true. (Except when you take into account who the geeky friends are - you all aren't so bad )
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Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 06 July 2007 at 10:33am
| Oh yeah, and I do sometimes worry that I'm going to be busted for a whole lotta stuff on here.. as like Robyn, this is my online diary - except I'm not so anonymous as I'd like to be! Silly me!! |
Posted By: nuttymama
Date Posted: 06 July 2007 at 10:39am
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See DH and I met the conventional way but I don't really see the difference between normal dating and internet dating.
When DH and I went on our first date we didn't know a lot about each other having only known the other at work. Whereas on the internet so I have been told it's generally a lot of talking before the dating. Therefore providing the person has been honest you actually have an advantage. I personally think internet dating is romantic good on those that have done it. Back on topic I have told a few people about OhBaby but usually just say "a mate". ------------- Abigail 06/01/2005 Jayden 21/11/2001 Micheal 03/04/1997 |
Posted By: Red
Date Posted: 06 July 2007 at 11:23am
| Yep, sure do Paws. But I am also starting to go in that direction as well!! |
Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 06 July 2007 at 11:48am
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I tell some people that I know won't be interested enough to come and read, but generally I just say an online friend.
My DH works in IT and is an online gamer, so no one is very surprised when I talk about online friends too  ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and: 
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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 06 July 2007 at 11:49am
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I met DF via the internet, turned out better than the usual way thru friends and at the pub.
I got onto this site via nz wedding planner. DF uses online forums all the time to discuss his hobbies etc, and usually to buy stuff. Which is his only worry with OB as he thinks it will make me want lots of babies.. haha I haven't brought anything baby related yet! And i have friends babies to buy for, thats my excuse anyways. The latest AWW mentions this site, and other internet communities. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">   [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: KH25
Date Posted: 06 July 2007 at 2:24pm
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I normally just say "a parenting website I use". I don't tell them the actual name though cos I don't want them spying on me!! ------------- Kelly, mum to DD, 19Jun06 (26wks 1lb15oz) DS1, 24Oct10 (32wks 4lb11oz) and DS2, 31Dec11 (32wks, 4lb11) http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: peanut butter
Date Posted: 06 July 2007 at 2:31pm
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Glad to hear we are all the same. DF knows all about OB and always asks "whats new on ohbaby" Mum knows and my workmates know there is a "internet forum with lots of info" but I dont think they know I would consider you guys my friends
I also kinda sorta met my DF online. Actually we met in third form and did high school together as nothing more than classmates but I was being brave and trying the internet dating and so was he and our profiles crossed...the rest is history. We tell people wemet up again through oldfriends.co.nz as it seemed more acceptable
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Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 06 July 2007 at 2:40pm
| I usually say an online friend. I dont care 2 hoots if people think Im weird meeting up with people who I met on a forum, of calling people who I havent met, my friends! |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 06 July 2007 at 2:48pm
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I say "friends". And for those people who met online - it's better than saying "oh, yeah, we hooked up at a pub one night and figured, hey why not?"
my friend met his gf online and now they are expecting twin girls. she is american. He is the sweeetest guy I know (we have always see each other as brother and sister kinda) |
Posted By: Bombshell
Date Posted: 06 July 2007 at 3:49pm
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Becks...yesh they went for the stalkers - was horrid for them.but we were in hawaii so didnt care!!!
Ginger - ROFL...OMG that is funny....poor BBS a mere internet figment??? LOL.....but i know what he means... It has changed things with meetups now tho cause some of you have become "realife' friends and that changes the interaction from being just internet online friends - weird as shouldnt matter how we meet people but in some ways it does.not better or worst just differnt but I love our meet ups - there are some awesome people on here...and getting to know you better and knowing some of our kids will grow up knowing one another because of it is cool... |
Posted By: james
Date Posted: 06 July 2007 at 3:59pm
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yep eveyone knows ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: Leish
Date Posted: 06 July 2007 at 4:07pm
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I usually just say 'friend' if I am ever referring to anyone on here. People that I am close to (mum, sister, RL friends etc) know that I will usually mean someone from here cos you guys are pretty much the only people I "talk" to on a daily basis LOL!! OB is such a wealth of information and there is so much interesting conversation on here about all sorts of things that I can always pop someting in to a RL conversation that I have heard on here. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Bel
Date Posted: 06 July 2007 at 4:10pm
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I have been wondering about this one too - I usually say a friend... or "that website that i go on..."
My family know about it, but don't know the name - I like knowing that I can say what I want on here and no one knows me IRL... DH can't even turn the computer on, so I don't think he is likely to be coming on here... ------------- Mum to two beautiful kids
Luke (09.11.2007) Amy (01.04.2009) |
Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 06 July 2007 at 6:42pm
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I say " A friend of mine" if refering to anything on here. And I havent told anyone the nameof the site as its "my community" to come and chat in. Only close friends and some family know that I chat online . ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
Busy mum to Miss 15yrs, Miss 10yrs and Master 4yrs |
Posted By: MelanieAndBree
Date Posted: 06 July 2007 at 7:22pm
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I dont really talk about it. Unless im going to a meet up then i tell people what im up to.
Or if they ask what im doing then i tell them. They all know im a computer nerd and have friends that i met online lol. ------------- Melanie. Mum to Briahna Robyn, 3yrs |
Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 06 July 2007 at 7:27pm
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I usually talk about people on here as my friends - not RL or internet, just friends. If I do mention it, I normally say a parenting website I chat on. I once told someone about this site specifically and that backfired - she told sis about it and then she read everything I wrote and threatened to tell ILs, husband etc, blah blah, got a bit messy for a while! So anyway won't be doing that again! ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: Southlandmummy
Date Posted: 06 July 2007 at 8:58pm
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Interesting how many met there dh's online.. I did too..
and everyone knows about me coming on here.. I dont care what people know.. ------------- Cindy - Princess and Princes Samia Isobel Joy born 9th September 2008 Spencer Graeme John born 29th May 2006 Kaylin Gavin Robert born 19 December 2004 |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 06 July 2007 at 10:44pm
LOL! My DH is on here, I got him hooked when I started quoting all the jokes that went on during pages 85-105 of the due in March thread! Sometimes he just comes on to stalk my thoughts I think But I actually don't mind him being around on here, if I have any probs with him I bring it up with him anyway, and I haven't really needed to 'rant' about him for quite a while.------------- |
bel wrote:Posted By: my2angels
Date Posted: 06 July 2007 at 11:43pm
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I dont mind people knowing I go online and I usually say Im meeting some of my online friend etc... and if i look at any other sites I'll mention them, Im just a bit protective of OB, I dont want anyone else coming on here and knowing my deepest, weirdest thoughts that I tell everyone.
And I think its so cool so many of you have met your partners online. |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 06 July 2007 at 11:48pm
Yea heaps of you!!!! I'm starting to feel weird for meeting my DH IRL  ------------- |
Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 07 July 2007 at 10:30am
Thats how I met the Hot Rod.... (well, not quite as dodgy as that sounds, I worked as a chef in said pub, so "knew" him anyhow..) ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: 11111
Date Posted: 07 July 2007 at 11:17am
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Well i tend not to tell anyone as this is my place with my friend's. I am very aware what I say however mailnly cause so many people know me(man it's a small world). And I will refere to all you guy's as my friend's. Mel My Dh use to play online gaming infact he got me hooked on the thie computer. As for meeting my Dh we meet at work very boreing. Oh and I have meet load's of friend's off the net not jsut this site. If it was not for the net I would not really have too many friend's here in the Naki I knew no one when i moved up here. ------------- Deborah Mum to:   
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Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 07 July 2007 at 1:13pm
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"know" in the biblical sense Annie??
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Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 07 July 2007 at 1:20pm
ROFPMSL I LOOOOVE the "Hotrod" thing...gets me every time ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: MyMinis
Date Posted: 07 July 2007 at 1:28pm
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My family all know about OB not that any of them come in here though, have tried tog et my sister to join but she's slack lol
All my friends I met in Wellington when we moved up here I met from OB and a few other parenting forums so they all know Im in here and spend lots of time online ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 07 July 2007 at 7:37pm
Surprisingly, Liz, no. I actually held out with "hot rod"... He was "breaking up" with a defacto partner (messy story for a rainy day) when we "got together" - well , more decided we wanted to see each other again after spending some time getting to know each other one night over alot of CD beer at work...
AND, yep, Ana, it is funny, cos he's soooooo NOT "hot rod!" lol!! ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |