What am i doing wrong!!???
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Topic: What am i doing wrong!!???
Posted By: BaAsKa
Subject: What am i doing wrong!!???
Date Posted: 08 July 2007 at 7:19pm
Astin is 4 days old now and has been a great sleeper until last night, we had a total of 1.5 hours sleep inbetween the screaming!! he didnt have wind and it seemed as if he just had an upset tummy which i put down to me eating some chocolate yesterday so anyway hes been fine today eating and sleeping like clockwork and then tonight all he wants to do is eat!! So is this an indication of another bad night!!????? Am i doing something wrong????......i never BF my first boy and he was an awsome sleeper so this is all new to me BUT running on no sleep i am now a huge mess!! so need some advice or reasurance PLEASE!! ....
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 08 July 2007 at 7:26pm
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Awwww sorry about the rough night and the screaming!
About the suckling... he's probably a hungry bubba and wanting to get your milk in properly. He will be wanting to feed off you lots and lots over the next couple of weeks. Then you'll leak everywhere and it will settle after a month or so. What he's doing is commonly called "cluster feeding" - he's gobbling up as much as he can in the evening so he has a full tummy to sleep on. I don't like the screaming though, if that continues talk with your mw. Krystiana was really unsettled her first night because she had swallowed some liquid. Once she had a good tummy massage and burped a whole lot she was ok. -------------  |
Posted By: Leish
Date Posted: 08 July 2007 at 7:27pm
 Baysmum. I'm not one for advice - sorry but I can give you some reassurance. I know that Bombhsell's Gabriella has a hard time when Bombshell's has eaten some chocolate so it might just have been that and today - he might just be super hungry. Hope that he settles for you though and that you manage to get some well deserved sleep tonight.------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 08 July 2007 at 7:33pm
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your not doing anything wrong at all... sometimes they seem to want to feed more at night. its all new for him too and he will settle down. has your milk come in yet? ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 08 July 2007 at 7:38pm
i hope so cos DH and i are running on nothing he certainly is a pig!! and feeds for half an hour each side 4 times!! (so he feeds half hour right boob then half hour left then swaps back to half hour right and so on...) and i know hes getting heaps of milk cos he struggles to swollow in time and the milk starts comming out the side of his mouth!! then when he pulls off it squirts!!! and when he waits longer than 3 hours to feed my boobs turn into rocks!! ...im not moaning about the BF thing though cos its such a huge relief to be able to feed after failing to do so with Bay.
This no sleep thing and not knowing whats wrong is a killer though
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Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 08 July 2007 at 7:40pm
| whoops just saw the last post - yup milk is definately in! it came in the day i left the hospital (friday) |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 08 July 2007 at 7:43pm
Breastfeeding makes you tireder as well, cause your body has to prepare all the milk. Hang in there!  ------------- |
Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 08 July 2007 at 7:48pm
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They usually do sleep really well for the first few nights, so he is probably just recovered from being born and is hungry now. Sometimes they scream cos they are having too much to drink as well. I was told to feed every 3 hours during the day - so around an hour for a feed, quick awake time, then a couple of hours sleep, then feed time again. Hope you have a better night tonight ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 08 July 2007 at 7:49pm
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i had a break down moment last night when i got into bed too and i hadnt even had the bad night yet! - DH said that i looked tired and then i just burst into tears!! and now every time i look at Astin i cry cos i think hes so cute!!!...how stupid is that! and it doesnt help that Bay is being very jelous and acting up like you wouldnt believe!! - today he threw a tantrum at the inlaws and i almost lost it again and my MIL could see me welling up so she sorted Bay out for me ......god i sound like a sook!!
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 08 July 2007 at 7:54pm
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Don't forget you probably will have baby blues around now too. See if you can get Bay to "help mummy look after our baby" and spend some time with him when Astin (hopefully) sleeps in the morning. You'll find your own routine in time but I've found that the older children wake early and babies sleep lots in the morning. ------------- |
Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 08 July 2007 at 7:57pm
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unfortunately he gets carried away with helping now with the jelousy and ends up hurting astin or it ends in a tantrum
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Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 08 July 2007 at 8:03pm
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Don't worry.. Daniel did the same thing on day 3-5.. one of the hospital MW's warned me to expect him to wanna go to the breast and basically camp there.
To help with the tiredness though is there any chance your DH (or someone else) could look after Astin for a couple of hours so you could get a couple of hours of sleep? DH did this and told me that he would wake me if he needed feeding but it allowed me to get a couple of hours sleep and felt better for it |
Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 08 July 2007 at 8:17pm
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DH is trying to do as much as he can for me but when it comes to Astin theres not much he can do cos he only has 1 hand now after his accident so he cant pick astin up or burp him etc but he tries to take him as much as he can like when i eat he holds him on the couch and he also takes full care of Bay now too which is a load off my mind!
He also stays up at night with me so i dont feel like crap alone at night he can handle the no sleep thing way better than me!
my mum will be back from rarotonga on wednesday so she will help too (i hope!) but i guess for now im it
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Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 08 July 2007 at 9:17pm
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Congratulations on the birth of Astin
Jack did the exact same thing when Caprece came home but he did settle down after a week or so and now he loves her and keeps kissing her. I know its hard on no sleep but what really made a difference was being over the top nice to Jack and instead of telling him off for the bad things we just praised him for every little thing he did that wasn't bad. I have also found that Caprece sleeps really well after cluster feeding. You could also get you midwife to show you how to latch Astin while your lying down so you can doze while he feeds. |
Posted By: james
Date Posted: 08 July 2007 at 10:08pm
no adavce here jut a big hug and hang in there it will get better and your not a sook your just in love with your baby and there nothing wrong with that ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 08 July 2007 at 10:08pm
gandt said exactly what I was going to say - your not doing anything wrong. He is encouraging your milk flow and may feed more to build up milk supply ready for it to come in more. Also newborns don't know what time of day things are so make sure you make day and night feeds different. Nite being the quick, quiet time. You are doing a great job. ------------- Ann 
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gandt wrote:Posted By: Bombshell
Date Posted: 09 July 2007 at 7:56am
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ok firstly - yes gabriella reacted really badly to choccy - had heaps over easter and took her over three days to get rid of really bad colic!!! havent reallyhad choccy since...and you reminding me of how hard it was means im now not rushing back to any just yet either..
secondly - as a recent new mum i have to say i felt just like you and would break down in tears as i felt she was "on me" all day and nite....I found it hard to take a break - mum made me!!! so hope yours does too. DH was next to useless! Give yourself break and go back to bed while your mum or DH has him or when bubs is asleep. I found by doing that and just lying there or watching tv or reading a mag (whats a book?) helped hugely. I found the "cloud" cleared around 6 weeks so figure you have probably another 4 weeks or so of this...after that i just found i had a rythym and ella had settled and the world was a much better place...those blues took over before that too.. Heres hoping you have great support and can cry whenever you like, and can keep on feeding through this...BIG HUGS from someone who was just there!!!
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Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 09 July 2007 at 4:32pm
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thanks for all the advice and support
last night was much better - we got 7 hours sleep with 2 lots of screaming matches and yup i realised that it was just because he wanted to feed constantly and not anything wrong ....i feel alot clearer today!! DH has been absolutely awsome!!!! hes been running around after me, looking after Bay, looking after the house, cooking, cleaning yadayada! and all with 1 hand!!! aaawwww hes such a honey!!!. I also had 3 hours of sleep this morning too!!
My MW came today and Astin has only lost 140grams which she said is not much at all really!! and she clarified alot for me which made me feel heaps better! - like i thought Astin had blood in his wees (which is normal for girls but not boys) so i kept a dirty nappy from yesterday to show her and shes pretty sure that it was just..(hhhmmm cant remember the word!)..crystalites???? or something like that!! that makes the urine go orangey! and that happens when they are still waiting for the good milk to come in which is also when they are the most unsettled but as of this morning his wees are a normal colour...YUP!! HE PEED!! ALL OVER ME JUST AFTER MY SHOWER! lol  ..so hopefully the absolute worst is over!
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Posted By: lovingmummyhood
Date Posted: 09 July 2007 at 4:55pm
 Baysmum, glad to hear things were better last night Bet you were glad to get 7 hours sleep :)
Go your DH!! What a you've got there!
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Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 09 July 2007 at 5:09pm
my DH wasnt such a big help first time round with Bay cos he just didnt know what to do plus he was so young! ( he was 18 when Bay was born) and i guess i just assumed he would be the same this time especially with only 1 hand but man hes been such a champ!!!!! absolutely love him to bits!!
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Posted By: Bombshell
Date Posted: 09 July 2007 at 7:15pm
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im so glad to hear you are feeling better.....
and 140 is not a lot to lose...ella lost 500 plus from birth - and we also suspect some was due to three different scales being used!!! |
Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 10 July 2007 at 12:26pm
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i'm glad things look a little better! the first 6weeks are abit of a blur but there is light at the end of the tunnel....i promise ------------- http://www.alternatickers.com"> 
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 10 July 2007 at 3:24pm
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yay glad things are on the up and up ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 12 July 2007 at 6:02pm
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well it turns out that my wee boy is just a huge gutts!!!!! so my MW has put me on some kind of drug to bring in more milk as well as alfalfa tablets and blessed thisle tablets to try and bring in more milk for the little piggy iv been feeding him for at least an hour at a time which she said is way to much so i have a set routine layed out and i have to give him top ups and express until i have enough milk to feed him soley on breastmilk so now he seems way more settled and is waking every 3 hours at night time so at 12, 3 and 6 which i can handle as long as he doesnt scream!!
He was weighed again today and he has only lost another 4grams! so 144grams in total! |
Posted By: Bombshell
Date Posted: 12 July 2007 at 7:20pm
| try the supermilk routine too then...banana a day, oatmeal, yeast (poss what your tablets are?) - will thicken your milk even if you just do the oatmeal! has worked for heaps of us.... |
Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 13 July 2007 at 4:39pm
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thanks bombshell i already woof down the bananas but i will definately give the oatmeal and yeast thing a go
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