Should I take the job or not?
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Topic: Should I take the job or not?
Posted By: AnnieB
Subject: Should I take the job or not?
Date Posted: 15 July 2007 at 4:54pm
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Ok on Friday night I got a phone call from the hospital I used to work for in Spain, they are doing research in to something (haven’t been told yet) and need a psychologist. It would be a great opportunity to get my name out there. But the down side is we would have to move to Spain for the next 2 years, put TTC #3 on hold and basically uproot our whole lives. Hubby is ok with it, its just me, I mean before babies I was career driven and would have taken the job in a heart beat, but that not me anymore. So what do you think I should do? ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: MILF
Date Posted: 15 July 2007 at 5:11pm
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hmm thats a hard one. i would consider a few points: will you be likely to get that sort of opportunity in NZ?
do you think you would get an offer like that again? how close did you imagine your kids would be in age? and i guess your age would need to be taken into account also, if you would put off having another baby for another 2 years. without trying to sway you, how cool that you get the chance to go live in spain for 2 years! good luck making that decision. (and by the way, my girls at 3 years apart, and so far so good. i keep getting told they will be friends, then wont be friends, but will be friends again when they are adults) ------------- Lyla - mum to Xanthe -  my big 4 year old 
and Jordis - 1 year old 
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Posted By: Bombshell
Date Posted: 15 July 2007 at 6:58pm
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i would go - i have friends who had a transfer to belgium with two wee ones (one was a bubba!!) and the kids will get so much from the experience...they speak french etc now and have travelled sooo much...and with kids you arent so self absorbed in your travels you open your eyes little more....
i would love to do what you are being offered....what an awesome opportunity! my vote - GO! |
Posted By: arohanui
Date Posted: 15 July 2007 at 7:23pm
Hmm it's a hard one! If it was me I'd probably think... would I regret it if I DIDN'T go? And would I regret it if I DID go? And then think about which one I'd regret more... lol I dunno  ------------- Mama to DS1 (5 years), DS2 (3 years) and... http://alterna-tickers.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: Konagirl
Date Posted: 15 July 2007 at 7:36pm
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I'm with the others I'd go!
Just other things to think about: Do you get lots of support from family/friends here, would you cope without it? Do you speak Spanish? Would you have to pay to transfer yourself there, if so would it be manageable for you? Houseing ok to come by? Think that's all I can come up with. Oh and your photo with your baby is beautiful. Think that every time I see it. Goodluck making a decision. ------------- Angel babies Mar '04, Oct '08 and Sep '09. |
Posted By: pepsi
Date Posted: 15 July 2007 at 8:22pm
My magic 8 ball says "without a doubt" 
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Posted By: Chovynz
Date Posted: 15 July 2007 at 8:27pm
If i were in your position id go. But then Id ask my wife first too.  "Opportunity knocks once in a lifetime, don't ever let it go." - MNM------------- Defending the male species since 1980
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Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 15 July 2007 at 8:37pm
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I'd go...how many times would you get an opportunity like that?? ------------- Ann 
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 15 July 2007 at 8:45pm
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Well I'm like you - I used to love my job completely but now my heart's just not in it. Just because I'm enjoying being a mum so much and I can see this will be my 'life' as it were for a while yet. So, I'd actually vote down (if it were me). But the big question for me would be to consider what work you want to get into after the kids are older, and if that will be anytime in the near future or this thing will be kinda outdated experience by the time you get back in the field? ------------- |
Posted By: Bombshell
Date Posted: 15 July 2007 at 9:07pm
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but teresa if it was DH offered the job would you go??? I bet you would cause your kids would gain from the whoel experience...
and you know true NZers always come back.... |
Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 15 July 2007 at 9:23pm
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I would say go, Lucy would get to learn Spainish and you would be doing something you love. My boys are almost 3 years apart and its great that Andrew is that little bit older to know to wait for me to finish up with Josh and is also old enough to do things by himself. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: Leish
Date Posted: 15 July 2007 at 9:30pm
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I'd go - without a doubt. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 15 July 2007 at 9:41pm
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Yep I would definitely consider it if DH was offered the job. And especially if he had already been there (language, culture, all that). IMO that is different though, since I am the primary caregiver of our kids. ------------- |
Posted By: AlyAyde
Date Posted: 15 July 2007 at 9:51pm
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It sounds like a fantastic opportunity, but from reading your post it does sound like you have already made up your mind to stay at home.
Go with your gut instinct. And whatever your decision have no regrets. ------------- Jayde 25/12/04 Alyssa 08/04/03 http://Alyayde.bebo.com |
Posted By: Rackhell
Date Posted: 15 July 2007 at 10:16pm
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I don't know how long it's been since you worked for that spanish hospital the first time, (you don't mention if DH is kiwi or spanish) but if you liked it then perhaps your family would like to experience it (or experience it again). You know what it's like over there so it wouldn't be entirely 'foreign' for you ...
Two years isn't such a long time. NZ and your OB buddies will still be here while you're abroad and when you're finished. I'd take the opportunity. |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 16 July 2007 at 9:57am
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could you do a trial?
I lived in japan and so did Jake for a year and he loved it BUT he was very little and some things were made very difficult due to the language barrier (and I can actually speak conversational) - going to the doctors was very hard, getting appropraite baby foodwas also difficult as I couldn't read the packages and ingrediants list. aside from this, the experience was awesome. jake was fawned on everywhere we went - so much so that he actually cried when we got to NZ and someone didn't smile at him on the train. He even modelled there a couple of times (skiting mama now) the experience we had had many more highs than lows. oNe of the reasons we came back (aside from being pregnant with taine) was my hours. i left at 7:30am, got home at 6:30pm and basically saw Jake for only a few hours a week. He hurt himself once and refused to come to me, prefering his Dad and that hurt me a lot. My hubby worked, but will yours be able to? sometimes suddenly being a SAHD can effect guys a lot - macho things like not "bringing home the bacon" and stuff - not my hubby but hey, he's happy for me to earn more money - in fact he encourages it, but i do know he struggled with staying at home with the boys. a lot to think about. good luck |
Posted By: AnnieB
Date Posted: 16 July 2007 at 4:05pm
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I have talked about it with family and friends and DH and I excepted the job this morning thanks for you replys its kinda one of those jobs if I didnt take it I wouldnt get offered another one ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 16 July 2007 at 4:11pm
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Wowwee! Well done on making the decision. When do you start? Got a lot to organise before then? ------------- |
Posted By: AnnieB
Date Posted: 16 July 2007 at 4:13pm
Have to be over by end of jan nex year But we already have a place to stay until we find somewhere------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 16 July 2007 at 4:22pm
Hi Annie! I was just about to vote for go and then I see you have already accepted anyway  Congrasts! SOunds like a great job and Lucy is young enough to make it easier on you guys! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: my4beauties
Date Posted: 16 July 2007 at 4:24pm
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Wow Annie how exciting!! I think if my dh was offered an opportunity like that he'd take it for sure (I'm not in a position to work, nor have those sorts of qualifications). Good on you - spain is a lovely country, I'm jealous. Your little girl can learn 2 languages, how great for her. ALL THE BEST . ------------- My babies: R (9),G (7), J (5) http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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