When you are so tired
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Topic: When you are so tired
Posted By: Rachael21
Subject: When you are so tired
Date Posted: 16 July 2007 at 9:33pm
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Hey guys
At the moment I'm not getting a terrible amount of sleep and don't get a day nap. I know there are probably quite a few of you who are in the same boat so my question is what do you do to keep your energy levels up? Also how do you keep yourself from getting angry when things don't go your way? I've been getting really angry at ben for stupid things like not putting the right socks on jack. I think I also get jealous that he can come and go as he pleases and I always have a child on me so I pick a fight. The thing is I know I'm just being a b*tch I just can't help myself poor Ben I need some ways to cope so any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. TIA |
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Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 16 July 2007 at 9:37pm
I don't know, I am the same  I hope you get some more sleep really soon!------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 16 July 2007 at 9:41pm
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aww its tough isn't it.
I would say try and take 10 min out for yourself just to relax - even if it means leaving some of the house work till later. Shame you can't have a power nap when Caprece sleeps. I would also talk to Ben about so he understands. Its not easy being a new mum and sleep deprivation is the worst. ------------- Ann 
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Posted By: Bubbaloo
Date Posted: 16 July 2007 at 9:41pm
 Rachael I don't have any suggestions for but I can come over sometime to give you a bit of a rest if you would like during the day let me know k.------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  Was danni-chick Mum to James My Angel 28/07/08 |
Posted By: Jennz
Date Posted: 16 July 2007 at 10:27pm
I am exactly the same! If you find something that works let me know  I can't even have a drink of coke in the middle of the day to give me energy because Kate screams for hours after the next feed as it really doesn't agree with her  ------------- Jen, Charlotte 7 & Kate 3 
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Posted By: Glow
Date Posted: 17 July 2007 at 7:41am
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Newborns & toddlers ARGH!! I cant sleep during the day either..
Ive been taking Clements iron tabs & that Boost stuff you put in water like Berocca(sp) to beef up my energies Seems to be working coz last week I would be grumpy as at my Ben & headachey come 5oclock ------------- Mummy of Two Boys B: 2004 K: 2007 |
Posted By: Bombshell
Date Posted: 17 July 2007 at 8:17am
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well i can sleep but i do totally understand feeling stuck with a cling on....can you perhaps express for a feed so he caa take her and Jack out - even to the shops or to a friends place??? or just so you can go back to bed for a lie down....
I found going back to bed when gabriella was 6 weeks even just to watch tv, or read a mag (whats a book?) relaxed me sooo much i was refreshed for days...I had to hand her over to DH or mum to do so which was harder than i had imagined....but it worked....and then i expressed two bottles and Dh and I went to movies and lunch leaving her with mum one day around same time...was soooo nice to get out just for a few hours without having to do car seats and stroller and feed etc.... give yourself a break and make sure DH or someone else helps out too ok? |
Posted By: Bombshell
Date Posted: 17 July 2007 at 8:18am
btw - no solution im sorry to not be a bitch - Im still doing that from time to time - its pure frustration of being stuck at home, stuck with a cling on 24 / 7 and being the only one who can feed her etc....frustration comes out in all forms.....bitchyness is one!!!
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Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 17 July 2007 at 8:22am
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Just a though, could you look at putting Jack into daycare/creche for a day or two a week? That way you might be able to catch up on a little bit of rest when Caprice sleeps. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Lissy
Date Posted: 17 July 2007 at 9:22am
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I am happy to help out too. Danni and I could do it together then we can keep all our monsters under control! LOL ------------- Harlan Drew DOB: 06.12.06 & Stepmum to Ethan & Christian, DOB: 25.02.99 |
Danni-chick wrote:Posted By: my4beauties
Date Posted: 17 July 2007 at 10:14am
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Eek! I'm starting to freak out now!! Sleep deprivation!! Thankfully the older 2 kids have great afternoon sleeps at the same time, so if I can get the baby to sleep while they are then I may be able to have a rest myself.
But I know how you're feeling rach! I get very aggitated when I'm tired & find I snap at Dh for the smallest things as well. Take each day as it comes & only do what you can - don't stress if things are left - as much as that's easier said than done!! ------------- My babies: R (9),G (7), J (5) http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 17 July 2007 at 2:07pm
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I have the same age gap as you - twice! - so I'm trying to think back 5 (or even 21) months and rattle off some things that helped me. Might be kinda long but hopefully you can find something that works for you!
Day naps If Jack is sleeping some and Caprece is awake when he sleeps, see if you can take her to bed (maybe even feed her there) with you. You could put on some kind of movie for Jack, either lay on the couch and watch it together (albiet through closed eyelids ) or put it on and go off to bed - set the alarm clock for in 30 or so minutes or you might keep on sleeping
Time out It's amazing how great it is after you have a toddler, to sit on the loo and shut the door! LMAO! Even if you just need a few seconds for a breather, put Caprece in the cot (out of Jack's reach), and just take off there for a couple of minutes. My favourite time out spot is the shower! When I had two, I had them both in the bathroom with me - I'd put the baby in the bouncinette and the toddler would have a couple of toys to play with (and the baby to talk to). It was a fairly short shower but it made me feel somewhat human to have my hair washed etc! Otherwise do a movie (Jack) and sleep (Caprece) while you're in there. It's a bit cold at the moment but going for a walk with the kids in the stroller (do you have a double?) can really help. The kids are involved in looking all around while you have some space to think "by yourself"... almost. Make an arrangement with your DP that he has the first 15 minutes of getting home all to himself. Then you have a 15 minute break after that while he sorts out the kids. Have a shower or a change, go for a short walk, have a bubble bath, just sit in the garage for a bit (out of earshot) or lay down. It really helps. Dinner time is late in the day but when you have a new baby, 3pm is about the halfway point of your day!! Eating Get into the routine/habit of having 5 meals a day. You'll need it for bf and Jack will need it at 18mos too. Have healthy, nutritious meals and they'll make a lot of difference! Make sure you snack on things like toast, cheese and pineapple, cold meats, yoghurt, drink of milk, cheese on crackers, fresh fruit... they will give you energy for a lot longer than biscuits. (If you like to bake, make up some ANZAC biscuits because they are not too bad - full of oats etc!). Keep up your water intake, especially when bf. If you find that hard to do, have a drink of water with every meal. On the tough days See if Jack can go to a friend's place for an hour or two. Use that time for sleeping and NOT housework! If you can tell the day is going to be hard work, schedule an outing. It may help yours and Jack's spirits improve to just be out, or with other people. Music/play groups, just the supermarket, to a friend's house... and then tomorrow you can just start again. Talk to your DP Having 2 under 2 is hard work. It's important for Ben to know how you're feeling, how you're coping, etc. Hopefully he is already relaxed about the housework, is he able to help in any other way? My DH is really good with being available to help with pj time after dinner. After a lot of begging he has made himself available on a usual basis, to help out with the kids - or at least stay in the lounge with the tv off - from dinnertime through to bedtime. That may not be the way things work out for you guys, but it's one idea.
Time with Jack I found that if I could spend 1/2 hour with Hannah (when she was 19mos) each morning, that her behaviour would be immensely better in the afternoon! Even though I was tired, the housework was calling, Briona was asleep so I had "free time" (for sleep or housework LOL), I needed to spend some time with her then, so that I could see to Briona in the afternoons. Sitting down activities are great too. This may be harder with Jack than Hannah (how 'boy' is he?) and he probably isn't interested in nail polish! But this is when Hannah learned to do shape sorting/puzzles, learn her colours etc - 19-23mos age. If it's a fine day, go to the park and just sit with Caprece while Jack burns off energy! Hope you can find something helpful in all of that.... it's a big job but it gets easier! -------------  |
Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 17 July 2007 at 9:31pm
Thanx for all the suggestions
Caprece is a really good baby its jack that prevents me from sleeping he needs to be entertained all day, he doesn't have the attention span for tv. He used to play ouside with the dog all day but the dog has a broken leg and its a bit cold for outside. Any suggestions for places where kids can play? I can't take him to the mall cos he has to run and get into everything which is really a 2 person job. Good point about the food Teresa I hadn't even thought of that, I don't have breakfast until lunch when Jack has a nap so I might start maiking an effort to eat and drink more. Thanks for the offers Danielle and Lissy even if we just have a meet up somewhere jack can run wild would be great. Ben is really good he takes care of Jacks bath or Caprece when shes unsettled. He cooks tea too and does a lot of cleaning. I bought him a car magazine to say sorry today and he was really good about it. I just can't wait for it to get warmer so I can let him play outside
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Posted By: MyMinis
Date Posted: 18 July 2007 at 6:49am
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I know how you feel, esp since once Im awake Im awake until bedtime, Ive never been able to really sleep in the day.
So if James is up from anytime after 4am for his night feed then I wont go back to bed cause I cant sleep. I jsut find drinking lots of water, and eating, and the odd coffee helps me. i have noticed though i do forget to eat at times though when im busy with both haleigh and james time jsut seems to go so fast and befor ei know it its dinner time. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: hailstones
Date Posted: 18 July 2007 at 7:11am
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I find that I can be somewhat the same on the food front, either forget to eat, or just can't be bothered making something, I have been buying up and go's though and will just grab one of those to drink (or try complan - something like that), they are good for getting some protein/fibre into you when you just can't be bothered doing anything else. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: 11111
Date Posted: 18 July 2007 at 8:13am
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I was thinking the samething you can get 9 hour's. Partly paid for by winz even if you don't work. I don't like daycare all that much so it was something I had to force myself into to but it was great for my very active 2 year old made a huge difference. I have now got both boy's in one afternoon a week and will look at increasing it slightly when i have another baby. You could alos use bonardos which is great too. As far as not being a a b***h not sure what you can do my DH and I have a deal now if i am going nut's about little thing's cause i am tired stressed or what ever he take's himself to anotehr room or goes out for a smoke it defusses the situation. I also really start counting to 10 before I respond that way I get a chance top think beefore i speak. ------------- Deborah Mum to:   
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 18 July 2007 at 9:01am
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We go to Plunket rooms (new space, new toys...) and to the library: free indoor activities available basically every day. ------------- |
Posted By: Andie
Date Posted: 18 July 2007 at 11:27am
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...and as well as all these great suggestions, don't forget to stop being hard on yourself - your baby is only a month old so it's to be expected that you'll be all over the place emotionally. I hope that you can get a break, 'cause that sounds like a great deal of work and very little sleep, but don't hate yourself if you turn into a swamp-monster every now and then - it's par for the course! ------------- Andie |
Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 18 July 2007 at 11:47am
rach you can come to my house and 'the jacks' can run riot together while we scoff choccie bikkies
anytime, you have my cell# i'm usually bored as hell everyday so just let me know ------------- http://www.alternatickers.com"> 
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