I am so upset (rant)
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Topic: I am so upset (rant)
Posted By: 11111
Subject: I am so upset (rant)
Date Posted: 19 July 2007 at 6:54am
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Oh and we now know why Mikey as not been well he has just popped abig tooth which no doubt she would have seen when she looke in his mouth. ------------- Deborah Mum to:   
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 19 July 2007 at 7:52am
whata bicth i relly hope you are going to complan about here i would ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 19 July 2007 at 7:58am
| what a cow. just because someone is a doctor, doesn't give them the right to act all superior. and as for a 20month old never going to the doctor - well, technically it goes all the time as it's mother IS a doctor. so of course it doesn't need to go into a clinic. stupid woman (her of course not you) |
Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 19 July 2007 at 8:02am
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What a horrible person! Time for a new dr I think! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Bombshell
Date Posted: 19 July 2007 at 8:07am
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was this a doc at an a and e and not your usual doc??? if so complain....
I have to say i find some of the immigrant docs the worst...esp asian female ones...they are so clueless...and i had to complain about one DH went and saw at ascot last year...her bedside manner and diagnosis left a lot to be desired!!! Complain about your treatment....that is so not on! |
Posted By: Bombshell
Date Posted: 19 July 2007 at 8:09am
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btw - i got a written response from the clinic manager after they looked into it and an apology in the letter and on the phone and coupons for free next appt...not that we were ever going back there again after that!!!
DH had gone there aft being injured on the boat on duty and had neck injury so was serious...like your bubbas - they needed to be treated seriously!!! |
Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 19 July 2007 at 9:23am
Write a complaint - no health professionals should talk to you like that. Dont be intimidated by the fact that she is a doctor, the cllinic needs to know about stuff like that.  ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: verity
Date Posted: 19 July 2007 at 9:27am
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COMPLAIN COMPLAIN COMPLAIN!!!!!! that is so not on..... what an idiot!! i wouldn't put something on my childs head for nits that had to be left for 12hr!!! not good...what kind of doctor is that, obviously a Pharmac doc... i feel sorry for her, that she has a 20mth old and obvisouly doesn't stay at home and care for her kids, no wonder it's never been sick, she probably fills it up on drugs all the time..... sounds like a jealous cow who probably had kids as an accessory!!! Your a mother, you know when your kids are off, you are with them 24/7..... she has no right, i mean for goodness sake, if you don't take them to the doc you get criticised, for not being a caring mother, but if you don then you still cop it... I would so complain and make a big stink... what ever happend to patient confidentiality!!! she can't discuss your case with others!!!! Get in there babe and complain!!!! Just an example...my girlfriend went the the after hours medical centre when she was 4mths preggy, as she had some cramps and bleeding....her first and she was rightfully worried....saw this idiot male, who didn't even check her, no ultrasound nothing and said" you are having a miscarriage, go home and wait for it to come out"... bill ..$75...thank you ver much!!! No miscarriage, beautiful baby, she was so distressed, he was such an ass, so i took her the monday to her GP at the time, no miscarriage, emergency ultrasound, reason was the had a bit to of a hard relations that night!!! she complained to the afterhrs, and medical board, it was removed from the after hours registra as he had apparently had several complaints.... it pays to complain, i mean you pay her!!!! she works for us!!!! |
Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 19 July 2007 at 9:29am
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Def write a complaint, if she was talking about another patient to a different patient she has broken the confidentiality agreement that dr's are meant to live by. The clinic mananger will act on it and if not write again till you do get a response. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 19 July 2007 at 9:38am
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Complain, Complain, Complain.
As for nits in kids, its pretty normal if they are going to school/pre-school. She obviously doesn't know much about kids if she expects the stuff to stay on for 12 hours and not get touched. Got to the chemist they have a shampoo which will kill any nits, then you do need to get a fine comb for them. My friend whos a teacher does this at the start of every term. As least you know Mikey's hair is clean. And go to another doc, if she's not willing to listen to you find someone who will. And of course you aren't a bad mum, sound like a normal one. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">   [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: porcelina
Date Posted: 19 July 2007 at 10:51am
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Oooh that makes me so angry too! As a nurse I ALWAYS listen to parents, how the heck do we know if the child is behaving in its normal way or if things are the same or not? There's no excuse for doctors not to be the same!
The good news is that all health professionals are accountable for their practice, under the code of patient rights you have the right to be respected, and under the Health Practitioners Competence Assurance Act anyone can complain about a health professional. I would definately write a letter (the only letter I ever wrote after a bad experience I never got a reply to!) and if you have no reply then go in there and ask to see their manager, and if there is no manager and you feel brave enough talk to the doctor you saw. It is most frustrating when someone has a problem and they don't tell you - perhaps they aren't aware that their bedside manner is lacking, or they were having a particularly stressful day (even though I know that is no excuse!). Talk about your feelings, how disrespected you felt and how you thought their behaviour was inappropriate (especially talking about health issues where everyone else can hear as they came out with the script). If you don't do anything now then someone else may end up bearing the same behaviour from them. -------------   
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Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 19 July 2007 at 11:13am
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That is a disgusting way to be treated Deb, it doesn't sound like you are overreacting to me.
I hope you do complain about her, people like that should not be in a caring profession! ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and: 
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Posted By: 11111
Date Posted: 19 July 2007 at 11:35am
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Funny thing about this is she was a kiwi doctor had seh been form oversea's i would have understood abit better. She is not my GP i went into the walk in clinic and my doc surgery Iam planning ot make an appointment with my doc next week. ------------- Deborah Mum to:
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Bombshell wrote:Posted By: Bombshell
Date Posted: 19 July 2007 at 3:13pm
This kind of comment totally annoys me - there are plenty of us on here that work and chose to do so and that sort of comment was totally unwarranted and uncalled for!!! We are no less mothers for working!!! our children are NOT accessories!!! I def dont think this is the sort of forum where comments like that are necessary! |
Posted By: Katherine
Date Posted: 19 July 2007 at 4:21pm
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There are a lot of working mums on this board, myself included, and I think we all need to be sensitive to the fact that mothers face many difficult issues and decisions with regards to whether they want to stay home full-time, work part-time and stay home part-time, work full-time, or any number of configurations of these options. Many mothers who work don't have a choice about the matter, and they are no less women OR mothers because they choose to work -- I don't think anyone would dispute that. Many women do have a choice about working, and make the choice to go back to work after having their children, for various reasons -- again, that does not make them "lesser women" or "lesser mothers". We don't know the circumstances of the doctor's childcare arrangements, and it's not fair to speculate on them. The issue here is that the doctor's handling of her patient's situation was inappropriate, and that is what loadsofkids is posting about. Let's try to give her options and creative solutions rather than taking sideswipes at the doctor's personal circumstances, because they are frankly irrelevant to the topic -- just like the doctor's mentioning her child was completely irrelevant to loadsofkids' situation, and should never have occurred. The moral of this cautionary tale: Stick to the topic! Loadsofkids, I personally feel that your doctor behaved inappropriately, and that you have every right to be upset at the way you were treated. I think it would be totally appropriate for you to write a letter to the practice explaining how you don't appreciate being treated in this manner, and that you expect an apology in writing from the doctor or you will take the matter further. She should never have mentioned her own child's experience in relation to your child's situation, because it is completely irrelevant. Every child is different, and as a doctor, she should understand that her job is to ensure your children's health, not belittle your parenting skills. Besides that, I would definitely consider seeing another doctor next time. Is there another practice in the area that you could switch to? Is there another doctor at the practice that you could visit instead? You deserve to be listened to and have your concerns addressed, not made to feel paranoid and stupid. Hang in there -- your feelings are legitimate! |
Posted By: 11111
Date Posted: 19 July 2007 at 5:56pm
Exactly well said Kathrine. I was not in anyway taking a dig at this woman as a Mother or a woman for that matter her doctoering skills could do wih some help tho. I do not agree with the comment's BS highlighted. I personally chosr to stay home with my boy's at this stage and that certainly does not make me any better then any Mother who choses to go out to work. We all do what is best for us and our families and to be honest if i had a job that made it worth my while to go back and work then i would in a heart beat. ------------- Deborah Mum to:
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Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 19 July 2007 at 9:03pm
I don't actually see how that could be offensive to you? The way I read it was that verity was trying to make Deb (it's Deb, right? sorry if that's not your name) feel better, I don't think she was saying that all mums who work are bad mums..bit of a misunderstanding, I think. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 19 July 2007 at 9:45pm
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I think it was the statement "probably had kids as an accessory" and the implication that working Mum's are to be 'pitied' because we can't stay at home and look after our kids 24-7.
In my case, I CHOOSE to work, and I CHOOSE to have a nanny part time, it's not a case of anyone needing to "feel sorry for me coz I don't stay at home and care for my kids". And I know there are a lot of other working mums in similar situations, where work is not a neccessity, but rather a choice, and our kids are just fine. Deborah - I agree with everyone else - complain! No one has the right to make you feel belittled, especially where your children's health is concerned. And seek a second opinion re: the nits, altho I do recall my GP telling me that the stuff they can prescribe isn't as good as some of the more expensive pharmacy products. -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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Posted By: MyMinis
Date Posted: 20 July 2007 at 6:57am
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i would complain, she had no right to treat you like that.
you did the right thing by your children in taking them into the docs cause they werent well so why should you be criticised or treated like a paranoid mother, if anything i think it makes you sound like a wonderful mother who cares about her childrens health and well being. i have to say i take my hat off to you working mums, you work all day and then come home to a family. ive made the decision to go back to work in another 4 - 6 months, ive had my babies now and have had over 2yrs off work so thats long enough for me ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Andie
Date Posted: 20 July 2007 at 10:06am
Yeah, I think you have every right to complain. I wrote into the hospital after an A&E Nurse had said some really, REALLY stupid stuff to Ella right in front of me while Ella was in anaphylaxis, ("oh no, this is what happens when mummies don't want to feed their babies anymore - that's no good" and "look at what happens when mummy gives you formula"!! - holy crap was she ill-informed of our circumstances, and speaking well out of turn, and NOT helping one little bit. Moral of the story - I felt better for standing up for myself by complaining, because it was written and I was in a good frame of mind when I wrote it (I couldn't reply to her at the time because I'd been shocked into silence by the whole event) I said what I meant and felt like my words were well-considered because I had so much time to choose them, and the hospital spoke to her, gave her a chance to explain herself too, and apologised to me. I felt like some justice had been done! Go on Deb... you know you want to...  ------------- Andie |
Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 20 July 2007 at 10:09am
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OMG Andie, did you get the name of that nurse at A&E? I'm thinking I know which one it is. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: Peace
Date Posted: 20 July 2007 at 12:27pm
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Deb, per chance was that Monique Taylor?
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Posted By: 11111
Date Posted: 20 July 2007 at 2:08pm
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No peace I will PM you her name tho. I not like to name and shame. OMG Andie that is awful I would have been the same stunned into slience.
------------- Deborah Mum to:
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Posted By: Peace
Date Posted: 20 July 2007 at 8:59pm
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It is a shame that you got treated unfairly, I say complain as well. ------------- DD1 May 2006 DD2 March 2011 DD3 August 2012 |
Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 20 July 2007 at 10:55pm
that's so not on!!! i hope you do complain deb, she's got no right to behave like that and make you feel 'inferior'  ------------- http://www.alternatickers.com"> 
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