How long does it take
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Topic: How long does it take
Posted By: BSDH
Subject: How long does it take
Date Posted: 20 July 2007 at 7:11am
to get your sex drive back..... Sorry but I had to ask I want to fiqure out what's kinda normal ------------- *Act your shoe size once in a while!!!* http://www.baby-gaga.com/"> 
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Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 20 July 2007 at 7:27am
For bloody ever!!  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: AlyAyde
Date Posted: 20 July 2007 at 7:35am
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lol Im so with you there Paws.... I didnt really get mine back totally till id finished BF. ------------- Jayde 25/12/04 Alyssa 08/04/03 http://Alyayde.bebo.com |
Posted By: james
Date Posted: 20 July 2007 at 7:53am
sometime up to a year ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: nuttymama
Date Posted: 20 July 2007 at 7:54am
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Our youngest is 2.5years and I have only just got mine back!! Poor long suffering Dh ------------- Abigail 06/01/2005 Jayden 21/11/2001 Micheal 03/04/1997 |
Posted By: Sarah Beth
Date Posted: 20 July 2007 at 8:06am
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still not around in this household. Think I left it at the hospital ------------- "> 
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Posted By: my2angels
Date Posted: 20 July 2007 at 8:16am
| hmmm for me I was hanging out till things felt normal down there so i could jump my hubby but in saying that, neither of us liked doing it while I was pregnant so it had been a looooong time since we had seen any action! |
Posted By: Bombshell
Date Posted: 20 July 2007 at 8:36am
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OMFG - just cause i was asleep this morn when you wanted to fool around!!! LOL!!!
glad you girls are helping me out a bit here...and also as AF still a no show I need to find other contraceptive methods...for now abstinence is a good one (altho not ideal) - Love ya tho Hon! 
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Posted By: SMoody
Date Posted: 20 July 2007 at 8:53am
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Depends. All my friends were the same. Until we all realised you aint getting it back until you actually do it and then it will come back.
Okay that was now way way way too much information there. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: jaz
Date Posted: 20 July 2007 at 8:58am
Ummm ... 5 days 
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 20 July 2007 at 9:06am
After c/s I was interested at about 4 weeks - actually I was kinda interested at about 2 weeks but that was a bit risky!! After episiotomy/tear down there, it took 7-8 weeks before I was interested at all! Took a few goes to get the hang of it again and not be so paranoid about things bursting or hurting, and 2 months on from that things were ok again. We're back to normal now... and I'm a bit clucky already too Once my AF cycle comes back I get the hormonal fluctuations and that really gets my drive/initiation back  -------------  |
Posted By: BSDH
Date Posted: 20 July 2007 at 9:50am
Sorry but just have to ask the hard hitting questions nobody else will ------------- *Act your shoe size once in a while!!!* http://www.baby-gaga.com/">
I love my wee girl - Gabriella |
Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 20 July 2007 at 9:53am
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After Andrew it was back quite fast but Josh is another story sorry. I think it is down to BF but maybe not. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 20 July 2007 at 9:59am
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I'm still waiting. It's not that I have no mojo, more just that my time is precious, and I'd far rather spend it sleeping ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: BSDH
Date Posted: 20 July 2007 at 10:34am
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So does that mean it may never happen or what? and before it happened ie The beast with two backs did everything get tidyed up I mean did the weed wacker's come out etc.
What can us DH's Dp's and DF's do to try and get you back in the swing(not that sort of swing don't be rude) ------------- *Act your shoe size once in a while!!!* http://www.baby-gaga.com/">
I love my wee girl - Gabriella |
Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 20 July 2007 at 10:36am
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i'm still waiting for mine too...haven't seen it for about 3yrs! poor DH
he keeps telling me, the more you have it, the more you want it babe ------------- http://www.alternatickers.com"> 
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 20 July 2007 at 10:37am
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Give us time to get back into it!!!!!!!! Seriously I feel everytime he bugs me for it I so don't want it at all, but if he leaves it for a bit I do want it. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 20 July 2007 at 10:41am
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I've found the more I have it the more I want it. But I second Emma too, sometimes sleep is so much more appealing! ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and: 
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 20 July 2007 at 11:03am
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Scott the best thing my DH can do is come home and be ready to help with the girls cause it's a very tiring job. Then when they are in bed he can hint to me that he's hoping for some tonight and ask me what can he do to help me get ready? My answer often is something like, when K goes to bed I'd like to have a relaxing shower - a bit of time out - and get changed into something clean/not smelly, and once I've had my little time-out routine I feel mentally recharged and can join in. Sometimes though I have to say sorry, I'm far too tired, but I'll do what I can to make sure you don't have to wait too much longer. ------------- |
Posted By: Peace
Date Posted: 20 July 2007 at 11:54am
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Haha, I was ready to rape Hubby as soon as Lochia and AF had finished! Maybe a side affect of a CS and not boobie feeding? ------------- DD1 May 2006 DD2 March 2011 DD3 August 2012 |
Posted By: SMoody
Date Posted: 20 July 2007 at 12:22pm
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Hubby just asked one day and said what can I do to help you being in the mood. Boy okay what is it today and way too much information. He took McKayla for a walk so I can have a bath by myself and her not crying for wanting to bath with me and I could shave my legs and everything without having to worry about her. That helped a lot. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: BSDH
Date Posted: 20 July 2007 at 12:31pm
And I don't come home tired? I run a company I have staff thats like having lots of kids gotta watch what some of them are doing all the time(Sniff) what about my needs Don't you think it's hard worring about who's paying bills who's not, is there money to pay wages who has just wrecked their company car, cellphone, forklift etc
I understand that Mummy's have busy days but so do Dad's some of our day's are alot more stressful than people relise. Someday's we just want a good old shag with nothing else attached just as I'm sure women do or have I got this all wrong???? ------------- *Act your shoe size once in a while!!!* http://www.baby-gaga.com/">
I love my wee girl - Gabriella |
Posted By: BSDH
Date Posted: 20 July 2007 at 12:34pm
YA know I'm yanking ya chains in some of my previous comments ------------- *Act your shoe size once in a while!!!* http://www.baby-gaga.com/">
I love my wee girl - Gabriella |
Posted By: james
Date Posted: 20 July 2007 at 12:36pm
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sometime all us woman need is a cuddle phone calls from work (from u) helping with bubs when you get home that kind of thing ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: peachy
Date Posted: 20 July 2007 at 12:39pm
BSDH you sound exactly like my DH, except we are at the pre-birth stage, still got to get to your stage yet!! Its not that I don't want "it" I just really struggle to find a comfortable position that I actually enjoy it too! O.k way TMI from me
Edited to say, and I am NOT going to tell him, honey it will get worse, you might not get it for a long time yet......poor men!! ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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BSDH wrote:Posted By: BSDH
Date Posted: 20 July 2007 at 12:51pm
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I do help and ring her too...
Peachy: I understand what your saying all my friends that have kids told me about this but did I beleive them NO (Silly Twit)also got told that pregnant wowen got horneyier with all the hormones but you can tell you Dh not to hold his breath but just to enjoy the whole experance and (sigh) Wait seems to be the answer I'm getting here ------------- *Act your shoe size once in a while!!!* http://www.baby-gaga.com/">
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Posted By: Guests
Date Posted: 20 July 2007 at 1:07pm
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I am still waiting for my drive to come back. I have some but it just isn't the same. I have to say that if DH helps out with Tyrell or just around the house....it seems to help. Maybe because by him helping me it is 1 less job I have to do and means I/we can get to bed sooner... |
Posted By: Bubbaloo
Date Posted: 20 July 2007 at 1:11pm
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I got pretty much back after my PP bleeding stopped. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  Was danni-chick Mum to James My Angel 28/07/08 |
Posted By: nuttymama
Date Posted: 20 July 2007 at 1:28pm
Boy you sound like DH. As I tell him when I get this lecture from him that at least he gets to leave his job. I am on call 24 hours a day 7 days a week 52 weeks of the year, no holidays no paid leave. I don't get to leave at the end of the day or have weekends, therefore when I am given the chance to sleep,I sleep. Lying in dread of the "Muuuuum" in the middle of the night or the cries from night terrors. plus I know three times what the end result of said shag can be and that's not a massive turn on. Be patient, be helpful, be kind and most of all be flattering, it's hard when you have stained clothes, you may or may not have brushed your hair that morning due to memory loss because you had so much to do, and your sure you had your shower but can't quite remember if that was today or yesterday to feel sexy.
And most of all be greatful when you do get it, that memory may have to last a while ------------- Abigail 06/01/2005 Jayden 21/11/2001 Micheal 03/04/1997 |
Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 20 July 2007 at 2:17pm
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I think the way you approach it is important too, there is nothing that puts me off more after a day of meeting little people's demands than more demands!
Try to make it a bit romantic and sexy. Like Nuttymama suggested, compliment her and make her feel attractive. A little bit goes a long way. ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and:
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Posted By: Glow
Date Posted: 20 July 2007 at 2:27pm
Possibly... I couldn't wait for the lochia to finish tho
Mind you- i wasn't keen on it at all while preggers with Kalyx. But preggers with Brae, different story.. ------------- Mummy of Two Boys B: 2004 K: 2007 |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 20 July 2007 at 2:48pm
Yep Scott I know men have stressful days as well but we're not wired the same. You guys compartmentalise and go ahead and relive your stress, but women need to relieve their stress/calm down/take time-out first.
Ummm doesn't work for me ------------- |
Posted By: baalamb
Date Posted: 20 July 2007 at 3:04pm
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If my DH had posted something like this, that's a sure fire way for me to decline even more!
I'm hoping you've discussed this with your wife before posting publicly. Because I would seriously be peeved at you right now! |
Posted By: BSDH
Date Posted: 20 July 2007 at 4:41pm
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baalamb..... See my wifes posts above ------------- *Act your shoe size once in a while!!!* http://www.baby-gaga.com/">
I love my wee girl - Gabriella |
Posted By: BSDH
Date Posted: 20 July 2007 at 4:43pm
Or maybe you missed this one too ------------- *Act your shoe size once in a while!!!* http://www.baby-gaga.com/">
I love my wee girl - Gabriella |
Posted By: miss
Date Posted: 20 July 2007 at 5:46pm
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Well, I would have been up for it pretty much straight away! But still waitign for lochia to finish then...woohoo! Mind you I also had a huge sex drive during pregnancy too. Wonder if it is related? -------------  
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 20 July 2007 at 7:00pm
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I have to say Willie did help his chances in a major way when he wrote "I love my three beautiful daughters Maya, Sienna and Mercedes and their Mummy xxx" on Maya's magnadoodle and left it on the kitchen bench for me to find this morning. Little things like that are unexpected, especially from him who isn't one to be open with his feelings, but it made me feel all warm and fuzzy.
And I've found him a lot more appreciative since he had a week off recently when he hurt his shoulder - seeing everything I do in a day close up opened his eyes I think and he's been helping out by cooking dinner 2-3 times a week and making an effort to have a shower as soon as he gets home so he can take over with the kids. Stuff like that really does help his chances, it doesn't make me any more interested but it does make me appreciate his needs more when he appreciates mine. ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: baalamb
Date Posted: 20 July 2007 at 7:09pm
LOL I'm impressed he can fit that all on there! 
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Posted By: Peace
Date Posted: 20 July 2007 at 8:57pm
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I was to petrified to shag in my first pregnancy, I had a fair few mini bleeds and it put the sh*ts up me. So maybe it is just you miss LOLOLOL! ------------- DD1 May 2006 DD2 March 2011 DD3 August 2012 |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 20 July 2007 at 9:06pm
| for me it is still gone AWOL, but hubby helps by doing stuff without me asking....like dishes etc. it means I can relax in the evening rather than run around so therefore I;'m less tired. i remember reading somewhere that for men they could be on death's door and still feel up for it, while generally women need everything to be perfect. |
Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 20 July 2007 at 9:30pm
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its also an could be image thing... if you complaiment your wife without it having to lead to sex it goes a long way.. even before heading out the door you could compliment how she looks etc...
Carrying a child and child birth plays alot on your body and so just to be made to feel 'sexy' without something attatch to the compliment - if its just before 'it' it takes away the compliment.. IYKWIM? ------------- Ann 
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Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 20 July 2007 at 10:08pm
You so summed up what I was thinking! if I feel attractive or have been made to feel attractive by B saying something with no 'strings attached'....it goes a long way! Also helps if I'm not feeling stressed out and exhausted. What helps most though is that hubby is really understanding, it takes the pressure of so when we do get some action....it's wow! Right...enough TMI tonight. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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