Role M v’s F
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Topic: Role M v’s F
Posted By: Guests
Subject: Role M v’s F
Date Posted: 23 July 2007 at 3:42pm
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I am interersted to know who does what at your place in regards to the children. Who takes care of bathing them? I do it all, other than the 1 - 2 hours at night when DH gets home before me. He plays with him till I get home. Then I take over....not on purpose, it is just what happens in my house. (sometimes good but also sometimes not so good!) |
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Posted By: FionaS
Date Posted: 23 July 2007 at 3:50pm
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Umm, DH generally gives her dinner (I prepare it though), baths her and puts her to bed while I clean the house and cook our dinner. I do everything else around the house though as that is the way I like it. He is very willing to take over on the weekend and be the primary caregiver but generally we still share things 50/50. ------------- Mummy to Gabrielle and Ashley |
Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 23 July 2007 at 3:55pm
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Bathing - I usually have a bath with Josh and then DH will dress him. Or DH will bath him in the baby bath and then I dress him. Andrew has a shower so does it by himself but either one of us (whoever is not busy with Josh so usually DH) will help him into his PJ's Dinner - I usually make dinner and DH finishes it off by dishing it up. Andrew feeds himself and I feed Josh while eating mine and then once DH has finished dinner he takes Josh and I finish my dinner. Changing - I usually me, but DH will do it when he needs to. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 23 July 2007 at 4:01pm
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Bathing - we both do it at the moment but later on will be DH's thing
Dinner - DH makes it most nights because usually Daniel cluster feeds Changing - Whoever has him at the time does it |
Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 23 July 2007 at 4:38pm
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I do everything being a single mum but in saying that I have an awesome 11yr old always quick to help out. Bathing: I bath with Alize and she gets him out and gives his a massage till Im dressed. Dinner: I cook and she looks after Alize while Im busy in the kitchen. Changing Nappies: I can say that I am the only one that has ever changed Alize nappy so far but that may change tomorrow as Leish is having him while I get my hair done and he may just brew something up for her lol
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 23 July 2007 at 4:42pm
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Bathing - 50/50, I only bath the girls if DH is around.
Dinner - I make it, feed Kryssi, organise the girls' dinner, and DH usually arrives home after then. On the weekends he will sometimes help out and we try to eat altogether (not always possible on work nights). Changing - Whoever holds the parcel when the "music stops" (smell wafts  ) wins the present!!!  But I certainly carry out most of the changes around here. And I do the girls' night nappies when they are older too. Part of us teaching the girls to go to a female friend if they need help with toiletting etc (that's after 2-3 yrs).-------------  |
Posted By: Lissy
Date Posted: 23 July 2007 at 4:45pm
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Who takes care of bathing them? DH does this job. If I do the dishes he does the bathing. I would rather do the dishes as I know they are done in HOT soapy water!! (LOL)
I normally do most around the house, as I am at home with the kids, and DH is working. I don't really expect him to come home and do much. He plays with the boys lots though, and as a male, he winds them all up before bedtime! ------------- Harlan Drew DOB: 06.12.06 & Stepmum to Ethan & Christian, DOB: 25.02.99 |
Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 23 July 2007 at 5:18pm
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Bathing - me most nights but I get Dh to do it when he is home so he can bond with his son..
Dinner - me all me.. although Dh will feed Rhyley if asked and I am busy. Changing - mainly me but Dh does do it a. if he needs it when hes around or b. if I say to. Dh has a knack of blamiing his bad sense of smell to not realise rhyley has done no.2's.. yeah right! I AM A SAHM at present so i expect to do most things around the house but if asked dh will help out (but I do have to ask first he doesn't 'notice' what needs doing) he also is the one that does the dishes - we have a dish washer which I fill some times after tea but he will wash the stuff that doesn't go into the dish washer and Rhyleys bottles. ------------- Ann 
Also Mum to Josh (15) and Brooke (10) |
Posted By: SMoody
Date Posted: 23 July 2007 at 5:19pm
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Bathing- Mostly hubby. He insisted while I was pregnant that it will be his main job as he doesnt need me for it.
Feeding-Mostly me. I am a SAHM so knows what she had already to eat so it is better if just one of us feed her. But he will quite happy spoon feed her if need be and he sorts breakfast out one day on a weekend for me. Bfding-well duh dont need to answer that one. Me. 
Changing nappies- Hubby changed her first few nappies in hospital and whoever has her and she needs a change, change. So I do it more often as I stay home during the day but he changes quite often on weekends and at night. Discipline is both of us. Playing. Both of us. My friends in SA use to complain about all parenting that he does do as their hubby's dont see it as their job. Hubby however enjoys his child and that is why he had kids. To spent time with them and take care of them. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 23 July 2007 at 6:26pm
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bathing is me sometimes my mum will do it for me
feeding its a mixture of me(perpearing) and my mum and even sometimes my dad will nappies is me no one else wants to change his stiky bum disapline is me or mum and dad ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 23 July 2007 at 8:10pm
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Me, me and me, it's all about me
Willie occasionally feeds them, only if I delegate out tho. And he changes them only when he's looking after them by himself. And he never baths them as he works with chemicals at work that can absorb into his skin and might contaminate the water. He has to shower/bath before he can even pick them up when he comes home. I always panic when I have to leave them with him, and it is always for nothing, they all have a great time. I'm just a total control freak and have trouble letting go. Plus he doesn't do things MY way, and of course my way is the RIGHT way ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: baalamb
Date Posted: 23 July 2007 at 8:58pm
Kels - your girls just absolutely love their little brother. It's really nice to see them playing 'little mothers'!!! Hehehehe 
Who takes care of bathing them? DH does. Gives me a bit of time out! Who takes care of dinner? We usually take turns or both pitch in. Depends if I'm working or not. Who changes them when needed? (including soiled) DH is quite happy to do it when at home so it's shared.
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Posted By: Guests
Date Posted: 23 July 2007 at 10:33pm
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Bathing - usually DH, although I often come in and sit with them and dry her off, then he dresses her.
Dinner - who is up for cooking duty tends to alternate between us a bit, but I will usually do all the prep (ie: veggies etc) Nappies - as I am at home with DD during the day I change her as needed, but DH is usually fine in the evenings / weekends if need be. |
Posted By: Leish
Date Posted: 23 July 2007 at 11:29pm
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Who takes care of bathing them? I will usually bath Noah cos DH is at the pool with Christopher three nights a week and they don't get home till after 7.30. On Tuesday and Thursday nights, DH baths Noah while I get dinner ready with Christopher so I actually get to spend some time with him.
Who takes care of dinner? Me during the week and hubby on the weekends. Who changes them when needed? (including soiled) Whoever has him when he needs changing. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 24 July 2007 at 8:01am
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I always do the cooking = i enjoy it and 4 out of 7 weeknights hubby is working. bathing is done by hubby whenhe's home and I'll do the dishes while he does that - although when he's home often he'll say to leave them and he'll do them after the kids go down.
disciplining is both of us. hubby is often home during the day so it is quite equal in that respect. nappies who ever smelt it, deals with it. |
Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 24 July 2007 at 8:02am
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Bathing - DH does it. That's "their time" and they both love it (plus I can have a break, hehehehe)
Dinner - I almost always cook but only becaue hubby doesn't get home until almost 6pm and that's too late to start! He cooks at the weekend sometimes and he will have to tonight because I am out from 5.45 helping at a CBE class. No worries. Nappies - whoever is closest ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 24 July 2007 at 9:35am
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hhhm Bathing.. if i'm home it's me, If i'm at work mike does it but usually we will map out what nights i have to work and he'll get me to bath them the night before or something so that he only has to bath them every 2nd day .. therefore minimising the bathing necessity for him.. although he is much better with it now, but doesn't like the washing the hair part, so that's all me.
Dinner, to be completely honest, 9 times out of 10 it's mike, while i bath the kids etc, he just gets stuff started without me asking, although i am relegated to stirfrys etc cos he can't get them right he reckons.. lol that's fine by me.. i guess it's 50/50 but it does seem like he cooks alot cos if i'm on afternoons, again, he cooks for him and the girls. Nappies, we take turns, normal ones are fine, we don't really mind who does it, dirty ones we run on a "i did it last time" basis, either that or the "bags-not" routine, lol ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja 
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Posted By: Guests
Date Posted: 24 July 2007 at 9:54am
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Thank you all for your reply. So I feel maybe I need to relax a little more about having to do everything! 
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Posted By: shaz
Date Posted: 24 July 2007 at 11:40am
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Bathing - Well mostly DH showers with Alyssa or we put her in the bath with Alex (9) and sit in there and watch her. I usually dress her as DH says it's too hard and takes him too long which gets Alyssa frustrated Dinner - Mostly DH as he is a better cook, but sometimes me and sometimes Natasha (11) she loves to cook spag bol. If Alex helps then it's really me as I can't leave her to cook by herself. Nappies - Mostly me as I'm home during the day, Next is Alex as she is such a little mummy she even does the poopy one's, Natasha will sometimes do wet only ones and DH least of all. Not sure why he won't do them much now he was heaps better with the two older girls. |
Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 24 July 2007 at 2:41pm
LOL, that's us too... Peter is very gleeful when it's my turn for a pooey nappy, hehehehe  ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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mum2paris wrote:Posted By: miss
Date Posted: 24 July 2007 at 3:01pm
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Well it is still early days for us but general DH baths Lily ( I actually haven't yet). Dh has done most of the nappies until he went back to work, not he does then nappies that happen when he is home. So far DH has done dinner. -------------  
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Posted By: jaz
Date Posted: 24 July 2007 at 3:57pm
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I do most things through the week because I'm home but in the weekends we split the jobs fairly evenly.
Through the week I bath and change the baby, do about 90% of the meals, housework, laundry and shopping. DD and DP do the dinner dishes as DS cluster feeds during the evening. In the weekend DP will often hang out the washing, burp and change the baby etc. This gives me time to make a pot of soup, do some baking etc. |