Your alternate life...
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Topic: Your alternate life...
Posted By: Katherine
Subject: Your alternate life...
Date Posted: 02 August 2007 at 9:36pm
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Do you ever think about what your life would be like if you'd made a different choice, way back when? I'm not talking about getting a case of the "What ifs", where you sit around brooding about the things you should have done and the mistakes you've made. I'm thinking more along the lines of that Gwyneth Paltrow movie "Sliding Doors" -- one choice can radically change your life. So what's your life-changing choice? And how would your life have been different if you hadn't taken that leap of faith or risk? Here's mine: When I was 20, I broke up with my high-school boyfriend, whom I'd been dating since I was 16 and who was on the verge of proposing marriage to me. We went to look at engagement rings one weekend, and as we went from store to store, the rocks got bigger and bigger and my heart got heavier and heavier. If I hadn't broken up with him, I'd still be living in my hometown in Pennsylvania. I'd have graduated from university and started working at our local newspaper. I'd have gotten married at 22, right out of uni, at the church where I grew up, with six bridesmaids. We'd have bought a house within 15 minutes of each of our sets of parents, and I'd have two or three kids by now, like all of my high school friends. I'd still be socialising with the same people I knew all my life. I'd get my hair cut at the local salon, the same one that did my updos for the prom. We'd rent a condo at the beach in New Jersey or Maryland every summer for two weeks. We'd go to Disney World every two or three years. I'd go to a yoga class taught by one of my high school classmates, whom I loathed. My kids would go to my mother's preschool. I'd be living the small-town American dream. And I'd be completely miserable! So come on, share. I want to hear your Sliding Doors story! |
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 02 August 2007 at 9:45pm
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I have had so many sliding doors moments that my life could have taken any one of many directions.
If I'd stayed with the boyfriend I was with in high school I would have finished uni, trekked around Europe, come home, bought a house and got a job and probably be thinking about marriage and then kids in my early to mid 30's. If I'd stayed with the boyfriend I had after that I'd probably have 6 kids by now, be still drinking, be on the DPB and be utterly miserable. Would never have finished uni. And if I hadn't gotten unexpectedly pregnant with Maya, Willie and I would have split up (as we did when she was 3 months old) but would probably never have gotten back together as all along Maya was the glue that held us together, so no gremlins. I would have finished uni, finished the internship at the Herald that I started in my final semester of uni and probably then got a job there and worked my way up. And had the career but no kids and probably no life. And of all those three scenarios there's not a single one I wish had happened or that I'd swap my current life for. There are things in my past that I'm not proud of, but they are the building blocks that led me to where I am today, and so I try not to have regrets. -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: MelanieAndBree
Date Posted: 02 August 2007 at 10:36pm
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Umm.. only big one would have been if id have stayed with my ex and gotten an abortion like he wanted.
Id probably still with him, maybe working a crappy job i hated, and id be blaming him for what happend. We'd both be miserable (both for different reasons) but i would be too scared to break up with him cause i wouldnt want to be alone. Eventually we would break up and id probably go on a downward spiral and end up back where i was a year and a half ago. Quit my job, move to some sh*thole town with friends that arent going anywhere, drinking every weekend and taking drugs every day. This is fun!  ------------- Melanie. Mum to Briahna Robyn, 3yrs |
Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 02 August 2007 at 11:16pm
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ok, my sliding doors lives.
If I had shifted to Wellywood, like I was planning on when I met Rod, I would probably be still working in hospo (I was a chef when we met)living paycheck to paycheck, lousy man to lousy man, still selfish and unhappy, drinking and taking drugs, probably thinking I was having fun, but deep down knowing I needed to grow up. on the upside of that, I probably would be in a covers band, living out my rock and roll dreams as well. If I hadn't got pregnant with Jacob, I think we would have split, to be honest, I was fairly self centred and selfish pre children (and still am to a certain extent) and Rod would have got sick of me, for sure. So would be still flatting, working full time at MHJ, "dating" and probaly FAT AS A HOUSE!! lol!! OR, and this one is a biggy, and some might go BAD NAUGHTY girl, but its true, and I do think about it often and am glad things turned out they way they did. If I hadn't had an abortion at 22, I would probably have gone back to invercargill, an outcast with all my friends (we had fallen out before I came up here on uni holidays, they were all married and babying etc and I was partying and being a selfish self centred butch) and had a baby to a man who I didn't really like much (a boy actually, he was only 19!!) who so didn't want to have a baby with anyone, let alone me, so I would have been a solo mum, probaly working part time at a dairy somewhere now, with my just turned 8 year old son (always thought of that baby as a boy), broke, sad, in a rut... maybe gone back to nursing studying? Life would be VERRRY different anyhow. In my pretend sliding doors life, I would be living in wellywood, working as a PR person in the music industry, slogging it out in a covers band in my spare time. I am happy with my lot. Turned out great. ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: nuttymama
Date Posted: 03 August 2007 at 7:05am
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Wow this makes you think. My sliding door, If I had stayed with Micheals father, we would have been doomed to stay in crappy flats with no money constantly wondering what scum was going to turn up that day to smoke drugs with him. Micheal would have been brought up in a home with drugs and slime bags and probably never would have had the opportunity to do much in life. Not to mention I was completely miserable.
The best thing I ever did was expectingly fall pregnant it gave me the courage to leave and start a new life, if I hadn't I never would have meet DH and had Jayden and Abby, a nice home a decent income and a loving family. My life is exactly where I want it to be now. ------------- Abigail 06/01/2005 Jayden 21/11/2001 Micheal 03/04/1997 |
Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 03 August 2007 at 8:07am
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I guess mine would have been if I'd decided not to keep Ella.. I fell pregnant at 19. Once we saw her on the scan and started telling people, there was no way we could give her up. In my alternate life I might have become a graphic designer (was just finishing my diploma for the first few months of my pregnancy) and might have moved overseas to find a job, maybe Sydney.
I feel like I have achieved much more being a mum than I could have otherwise. I decided to learn how to sew - to make my little girl lots of clothes.. and succeded (sp??). I have learned many things about parenting, albeit a little earlier than some of my friends.. but I have always felt older than I am. I have some great support from family friends who if I'd left DP I probably wouldn't know about. The struggles we've been through have made us grow closer.. I prefer this life to one I might have had. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Glow
Date Posted: 03 August 2007 at 8:32am
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Great Question, love it.
There are so many things in my life that i aint proud of, but we live & learn & those things definitely make you who you are, things happen for a reason. (be damned if i know what the reason is tho) I also slammed the door on an old boyfriend who was a biker gang member & treated me like a rag doll & physically, emotionally & mentally abused me. If i stayed with him i would of become a wrinkly drug f**ked, crack whore bikers b***h, who worked at a strip club or whore house & spent all my money on supporting the F**k heads P habit & probably my own. I would of frequented the women's refuge or such likes & had no babies as the couldn't survive harsh environments And probably spent some time on the inside looking out. Sad but true. Well im glad i slid that door to the life of becoming a wastrel    ------------- Mummy of Two Boys B: 2004 K: 2007 |
Posted By: MyMinis
Date Posted: 03 August 2007 at 8:38am
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Um Id be qualified in my hairdressing and prob still living in queenstown completly miserable. And I wouldnt have my babies.
Im happy I met NAthan and had our woopsies 
Im happier now than I have been for yrs so Im glad I chose thise path ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 03 August 2007 at 8:43am
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If I hadnt left school at 16, I would have done 7th form but failed. Worked a few years at Farmers (where I worked part-time at school). Enjoyed having some $$. Eventually gone to uni but hated having no $, so left. Eventually gone overseas like I always wanted, but not lasted long cos could only work in a bar cos had no qualifications. After that,... I hate to think!
If I had chosen to do interior design instead of nursing I would prob have more $, but never had met my best friend. |
Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 03 August 2007 at 8:48am
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I started to type out something completely different but then I realised that I don't thing much would have changed...even if I stayed with my ex we were still on our way out and I had already met B...heck we'd already had friends in common for ages and probably had a lot of moments where we were in the same place at the same time.
I suspect I'd still be where I am today in some way or another. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Two Blondinis
Date Posted: 03 August 2007 at 9:05am
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ohhh I like this!
If I hadn't made the huge decision to follow DH back to NZ (he was on his OE in London and I'd only known him for 18 months) I would probably be living in a dingy one bedroom council flat after the screw up of a BF did the dirty on me AGAIN and I'd still go back to him because that's what you did when you'd been together since you were 14 *rolls eyes at self* Lucky for me I did decide to see what travelling was like and have experienced things I wouldn't even let myself daydream about! Nearly 10 years later and life is great! DH & I do have our ups and downs but I know he would never cheat on me and besides, if we weren't together than we wouldn't have our lil' Princess ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
 
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Posted By: minik8e
Date Posted: 03 August 2007 at 9:40am
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Mine would be that if I had never gone out that night and met DF, I would now be married to a man old enough to be my father, possibly pregnant or with a baby already, no money worries, living in a house I designed/decorated, at Uni while he was a SAHD...and I'd be absolutely miserable.
Or the other one would be if I'd never met a particular ex, I'd still be wandering from house to house, staying where I could, drinking a bottle of bourbon a day, doing any drugs I could find, on the dole, maybe with 3-4 kids by now, all to different dads, and no stability. I've done some doozy things in my life, but at the end of the day, I wouldn't change them because they've made me who I am today, and I'm happy with that. |
Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 03 August 2007 at 10:35am
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if i had stayed with my ex of many years who i went thru a lot with we would have had a kid or two...but eventually i would have left him cause his schemes never worked out and i would have wanted a better life than drugs and booze for me and the kids... i would have done some training perhaps and got a good job...by now the kids would be older and possibly independent, i would be living in a nice house, not this pokey little hole, earning a really good wage, and not married to an idiot, and be happy and independent. i certainly wouldnt be having kids at my age - my best friend from school has just become a grandmother and i am going to have a baby myself - i would have a nicer house and grown up kids and not have to deal with 2 and 3 yr old tantrums. i would either be contemplating overseas travel now or just done some and no budget would be required. oh and i would have a cleaner and no weetbix on the floor.
Hmmm, so my life would be better. that sucks!!!! now wheres the button to rewind? |
Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 03 August 2007 at 10:38am
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I think for me the life changing moment is going on my OE by myself to UK for 2 years. It totally changed my life, and I am a different person because of that experience.
Fattartsrock - thats scary - i terminated 8 years ago (always thought it was a boy) and while i never regretted the decision - I have wondered how my life would have turned out. Instead I travelled more, came home met DF and have now lived in Wellington, Bulls and settled in Feilding. Which is a big change for a born and bred Aucklander. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">   [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 03 August 2007 at 10:45am
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If I had decided to go to Christchurch and have the termination when I was pregnant with Hannah then I probably would have stayed in Dunedin to finish my degree and then done honours but not done as well as I am now as I would have still been working at the Cook. I would have had a few other relationships based on sex but nothing more. I would be drinking, drugging and partying. Might have saved enough money to do my OE.
Prefer now 
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Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 03 August 2007 at 2:10pm
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I've never regretted it, the termination, I was not fit to be a mother then.
I could rewind even further and think If I had never come up here, I wouldn't have had the courage to have the termination and wouild never seen how good life could be, would never had met the friends I did that made me decide to stay here Wow, lots of us have been down that booze/drug/loser relationships or sex only means more to me thatn him type of scenario thing, aye? ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: MelanieAndBree
Date Posted: 03 August 2007 at 3:38pm
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Oh i have a good one!
If id never moved from Auckland to live with my sister in Tauranga. Id still be in Auckland, probably have no job and still smoking weed every day and doing P most likely. lol. Or if id never got together with my ex. Stayed in Tauranga, kept my job or moved onto something better eventually. Id be out partying most weekends and probably eventually have met someone else. I sometimes wish i did stay in Tauranga. ------------- Melanie. Mum to Briahna Robyn, 3yrs |
Posted By: BSDH
Date Posted: 03 August 2007 at 3:50pm
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Gee I don't think what if or what could have been the doors that opened for me opened for a reason...I love the life I have with my family and wouldn't change anything or wish I could ------------- *Act your shoe size once in a while!!!* http://www.baby-gaga.com/"> 
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 03 August 2007 at 5:01pm
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I think my big one is losing my job. If I hadn't of then I would of continued the drinking and smoking and general wasting of money that I did would of done. As I did lose my job (and I still think it is the best thing that ever happened to me) I was able to meet DH as I went flatting (with him we were flatmates first) and started studying and now I am really happy with how things turned out. However I always wonder what would of happened if I had of taken off on that plane over to Oz when I was 19. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: .Mel
Date Posted: 03 August 2007 at 6:35pm
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This is going to sound terrible, and I'm sorry if I upset anyone...
If I hadn't fought back one day, and told my partner that I wasn't going to take his abuse anymore, and that I was leaving him, I would probably still be with him, making excuses for the bruises, walking on eggshells, protecting Conor 24 hrs a day. As a result of me walking away, he committed suicide and said in his note that he was finally freeing me and Conor from him and that it was the only way he could do it was to leave this place. I put up with that abuse for 4 years, and it did free us. After he did that, we lived with mum and dad for 18months, and if I hadn't of taken that job at the recruitment agency I would never have met my husband. 8 years on, we are married with two children and another one on the way, and I have never felt as safe as I do now. ------------- Mr Mellow (16) Miss Attitude (8) Destructa Kid (3) 
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Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 03 August 2007 at 7:48pm
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.Mel, the only reason what you said upset me was whe you said "as a result of me walking away, he commited suicide" - i think you should think (and hopefully you do, just didn't type it this way) is that the result of him abusing you, which meant you had to walk away, he commited suicide. sorry to nitpick but it sounds to me like you did an amazing thing, and i hope that you don't think yourswelf responsible for his decisions!
Oh, now for my story - if we had decided not to keep jake I guess would be the story....i think that we would still be in Japan - probably stil in the same job, or maybe promoted - and the worst thing is the company we worked for is going DOWN in a big way for fraud and crap, so we would probably be in financial-poo due to not having been paid for the past two months. I wonder if we would be together. Lewis got a LOT of attention in Japan - and I know he was tempted at times. i just wonder if it would've got too much at some point. So, lets say i terminated - i know that i would've regreted it and been resentful towards lew, then we would've broken up, i would've come back to nz and stayed with mum. ooooh, feel a bit loserish already. i regret NOOOOOOthing! |
Posted By: my4beauties
Date Posted: 03 August 2007 at 8:47pm
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I'd have no idea where my live would be if I didn't marry when i did. I started going out with Riki when I was 17 & knew he was the one. We had a few teething problems at the start & ALMOST broke up. If we had've, he would've gone on his O.E. & probably met someone else over there & I probably eventually would've found someone else myself. Whose knows what job I would be doing (something in the lines of office work, admin etc), but I never had any huge dreams for myself.
But we stayed together & after getting married when i was 19, we built a house (moved in on our first anniversary!), sold it a year later & went on our O.E. for 6 months, then come home & I fell pg with Rico & Riki started his own decorating business. We then went on to have Gia & now baby #3! So all 'n' all we've had an awesome married life!! I never had any desire to travel, but Riki took me to Europe & England & "showed me the world". We had the best time ever & will never forget that. And now we have 2 totally gorgeous children with another due end of the month!! I really couldn't ask for anything better & am VERY glad we decided to stay together even when I was so young. ------------- My babies: R (9),G (7), J (5) http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: my4beauties
Date Posted: 03 August 2007 at 8:51pm
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.Mel - your ex obviously had HUGE issues to 1) abuse you like that & 2) do that to himself after you left.
That would've been a horrid time for you & I'm glad to hear you're happy & safe now . ------------- My babies: R (9),G (7), J (5) http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: Two Blondinis
Date Posted: 03 August 2007 at 9:39pm
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Mel, you should never hold yourself responsible for what he did. He comitted suicide because he choose to! It was his final act of abuse and you should never let him have the upper hand and let that be part of your life! Live your life for yourself and for your children,not your past.
You should be so proud of yourself that you saved your child and yourself from even more misery. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 03 August 2007 at 9:46pm
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If I had stuck with nursing and would be finished by now.
If I hadn't got pregnant with Jack I'd prob be working odd jobs cos I couldn't hold a job from all the drug taking. Or a stripper or something cos I was pretty close to that prior to Jack. I wouldn't be with Ben as before I was preg all we did was got drunk and fight. I'm so glad where I am now, a lot of my old associates have p addictions so i'm glad i managed to kick the drugs before it got that bad. |
Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 03 August 2007 at 10:20pm
Wow, it seems quite a few had involvement with drugs, I'm so glad that having a baby/babies changed your lives for the better  ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Jennz
Date Posted: 04 August 2007 at 12:42am
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If I hadn't of got pregnant with Charlotte when I did I think I would still be with DH and still be over here but just being doing a different kind of OE. Sometimes I kind of feel like I missed out on the travelling kiddy free but of course I wouldn't change them for the world.
If DH and I had of broken up I think I would still be over here but doing the mad single OE with mates- drinking too much and behaving like a slapper!
I think I'll stick with my lot thank you! ------------- Jen, Charlotte 7 & Kate 3 
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 04 August 2007 at 10:08am
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sorry babe. mistaken identity ------------- |
Posted By: Chovynz
Date Posted: 04 August 2007 at 10:09am
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I have had a few of those times. But I also think similar to BSDH. No pointing looking back. Just for amusement's sake I'll do this.
1. I got given a choice. Go to the Air Training Corp or go to youthgroup and learn about God. Tough decision for me because I loved the uniform. But I also loved God and wanted to learn more about Him. I chose the youth group that time. I think if I had chosen the ATC this sliding doors moment would have been me in the airforce - Possibly a sargent (or more) by now. I've always wanted to be a pilot, but because of my glasses I think i wouldve ended up in the aircraft ground support crew, or as an air traffic controller OR eventually flying the civilian 727s. Theres been lots more but i this is all I'll say for now. For each sliding door moment my life wouldve changed dramaticaly, so much so im not eeven sure i can think that far and i dont see much point in doing so either. After thinking about all these sliding doors moments, I still wouldn't go back and change how it has turned out for me. If I hadn't done all those things, said those things, been me in those moments, i probably wouldve missed out on meeting the most amazing person i know, and missed out on having the three beautiful gems that we've had now. ------------- Defending the male species since 1980
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Posted By: SMoody
Date Posted: 04 August 2007 at 2:10pm
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I really had to think hard about this. I think if my attempted suicide was succesful well then it would have been the end. However if I didnt do it I wouldnt have moved on with my life. Still would have been petrified of my mother and wanted her approval. Most propably my relationship with hubby wouldnt have been good and we would have ended up in a divorce. Sometimes love enough is not good enough.
I might not have had the child I have or be the mother I am. I would have always questioned the mother I am and that would have been a negative relationship with my child. That is if I ever got pregnant and didnt keep on having mc's. My BP would have been sky high due to all kinds of stress. I dont think my heart would have gotten better and I would have died young. I think it happened the way it should have. I have a lot more self confidence. I really dont give a damn what kind of mother people think I am. Have a great relationshp with my husband. (you know the I love you to the I am ready to kill you today kind of one) And I can keep my mother at arms lenght without having to feel quilty. Okay now after that lot of personal info I think I better go clean the house. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: porcelina
Date Posted: 05 August 2007 at 2:50pm
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I was kinda involved with a guy (M) when my hubby (shane) proposed (haha isn't that funny!!!). I had told the guy I wasn't his gf or anything, more like a fling but he was wanting me to move in with him once his parents had finished converting their garage loft for him and even though we had lots in common I didn't want to be that important to M. I ended up bawling my eyes out driving from M's place to work and texting Shane asking him how was I supposed to stop loving him (Shane lived in South Isl, I was in Auckland) .... which is kinda cute I guess, I realised there was no stopping loving him, so I married him! Besides, who can resist a guy who buys you an expensive ring "either as a friendship ring OR an engagement ring" (I coulda hit him up for another ring hehe) to pry you away from another guy haha sneaky boy I'd be in Auckland still if I hadn't of married Shane which isn't too bad a thing, he was an apprentice when we married so he couldn't move north, I had to move south. Hoping to get back to the Nth Isl tho.
I don't think I would of been stuck with M, and I'm glad I broke up with my first fiance when I was 19 and the second fiance that didn't treat me well (he now has realised this and has apologised), third time's a charm!!! It's our 2 year wedding anniversary tomorrow  -------------   
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Posted By: peachy
Date Posted: 05 August 2007 at 4:11pm
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I wouldn't change my life for anything, except maybe wished I had of gone to university as I am having to do it now to gain a qualification!
I was a sheltered, shy, very reserved person who had been in a relationship for five years that was going nowhere fast. My parents pushed me to go travelling at 21, they brought me air tickets and a Contiki around Europe for a month to see the world for my 21st birthday. I am so thankful to them for this as it changed me as a person, and has made me the person I am today. I became confident, outgoing and learnt to love myself for who I am and to always live life to the fullest. I came home 2 years later (ditching the loser ex the day I left the country, and stayed way longer than I anticipated in the U.K) met my now DH within one month of returning home and have been with him for 6 years now. We did have a break 3 years ago with the intention of finding out what we wanted, whether we were both in it for the long haul together. Three months later we met for coffee shared our hopes and dreams with each other and re-united again, both knowing exactly where we are heading! Best thing we ever did! If I had of stayed with the ex, he would still be smoking weed and poping pills, still wondering what to do with his life and we would be drifting all over the place. I heard from a friend recently that he has decided to travel, is still single and owns NOTHING and he's 32 for godness sake! Glad I got outta that one - PHEW! Thanks Mum and Dad, they saw the writing long before I could!! ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: porcelina
Date Posted: 05 August 2007 at 4:46pm
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Wow what an awesome 21st present peachy!!! If our kid takes after their Dad they will be shy too, gives me ideas to file away for later -------------
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Posted By: ooEvaoo
Date Posted: 05 August 2007 at 8:56pm
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Hmmmmm. Well If I hadn't of meet my guy friends half way through my first year of uni, I would of had my physiotherapy degree, or be in my last year of med school. I would have been on my OE. Probably would be single and playing the field. And definitely would of had no Kahtrell!.
If I hadn't of meet Kevin, I'd probably still be studying in Dunedin, still with my guy mates, getting drunk every day..apart from Tuesdays. I'd be failing in my studies, and probably studying something I didn't want to do anyway. And again wouldn't of had my Kahtrell. If funny cos I always thought how much respect I have for mothers who are raising their little ones, and are studying at uni. I always thought I'd never be able to juggle those two roles. And yet next year I am returning to uni to start a Bachelor in Social Work. I'm thankful how my life turned out (though I'll be honest, some aspects could be better...like being in our own place instead of with the inlaws) I have a man who loves me, and a beautiful son who I can't imagine my life without. I've been to uni, travelled (ok it might have been just to Oz but hey its a start! lolz) and now I'm a mother!! ------------- 
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Posted By: Bombshell
Date Posted: 05 August 2007 at 9:05pm
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the only things i do wonder about are what would havv happened if i continues on as a nanny for another year or so when asked to...i might have had Katherines sliding doors life - marrying an american, jersey shore etc.... but then i came back for reason and i think everything turns out the way it does for a reason...
I also sometimes wonder - esp when getting made redundant - what would have happened if i had followed the path of post grad study of sociology of aboriginal peoples and archaeology - i got accepted into US and Aust unis but then got accepted for Waikato and took up what i had always wanted to do.... |
Posted By: james
Date Posted: 06 August 2007 at 1:17pm
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ummmm i have had a lot off life changing moments if i had died at 14 from a overdose (suiaside)
i would not of seen my babysister grow up not wacth my little brother acheave his dreams seen my outer little bro go to uni had i not diced to get out of caregiving i would of never have meet james dad therefore never have had my bueutfull little boy i think life is gre4at now i have my son i have my family and i have my friends (real and online)and i belive life turns out the way you decied it will ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |