Ok so what would YOU do if you were me
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Topic: Ok so what would YOU do if you were me
Posted By: IVFGirl1111
Subject: Ok so what would YOU do if you were me
Date Posted: 07 February 2008 at 8:55am
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Heres my situation, I am 24, DH is 29 and we I have been off the pill since August.
We really only started properly trying last month as I only really found out about how it all works with ovlation and all that last month. Anyway, I play a lot of netball, love it I really do. I have played for the one team for about 10 years and so has my best friend, she knows we are TTC and has suggested to me (joking around) that we put off TTC for 3 months so that I can play half the netball season with her - which may sound silly but we do EVERYTHING together type thing. I also need to lose a good 20kgs but would be really happy with 10kgs, so my question is if you were in my position, would you A) Put off TTC until I had lost that 20kgs B) Put off TTC until I have lost 10kgs C) Put off TTC for 3 months while I play netball (and hope to lose more weight) D) Just keep trying! Im so confused, I know it would be good to get the extra weight off and 3 months really isnt a long time to hold off at all, but then I think of the last 3 months where I have had the BFN and they have felt like the LONGEST months ever! I really am confused and dont know what to do - I know it sounds stupid but it really is doing my head in! 
DH is absolutly fantastic about it all, he says hes ready now or he doesnt mind waiting and will support me which way I choose to go - damn him being so nice! lol. Help! Your advice on what you think you would do or whats best etc? Sorry ramble over - and now reading it it sounds so stupid but Im going to post it anyway since Ive typed it all out! 
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Posted By: JD
Date Posted: 07 February 2008 at 8:59am
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I would keep TTC.
I play (played) netball and loved it too, so I had thoughts of waiting to coincide with the season. In the end, I got pg after a cycle starting at the end of April and played the whole season anyway. The last game was when I was about 4 months and I felt fine. Because you just don't know how long it will take TTC, I think you should just keep trying, but continue life as you would if you werent e.g play netball and work on your weight. Good luck ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Parki
Date Posted: 07 February 2008 at 9:11am
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I would keep TTC.
As for the weight thing, it is such a long and hard journey to lose weight so how long do you think you will take to get to yoru goal weight? Is it a year, two? If so, how do you feel about not having a baby for that amount of time? Personally, I would keep TTC, even if you lose some weight, you are still likely to gain some during your pregnancy so you would be back at your currect weight - or there abouts. So if you do get pregnant, try to exercise lightly throughout and then start the real slim down post pregnancy, nothing like walking a crying baby to sleep! 
Good luck with your decision  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 07 February 2008 at 9:11am
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I'd just TTC.
You could still play netball while preggers (to a certain point). And you can still try and loose weight in the mean time. |
Posted By: Bayley
Date Posted: 07 February 2008 at 9:16am
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I would also keep TTC. You would be able to keep playing netball for a while anyway.
And as for the weight thing, I was always *going* to lose 10kgs before I got pregnant, but I never got around to it. I now need to lose 20kgs (put on 35kgs during pregnancy due to pre-eclampsia and very bad swelling) but I have my baby and thats all I really wanted in the first place. So yep, go for it and good luck!! ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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Posted By: VioletStar
Date Posted: 07 February 2008 at 9:16am
I also would keep TTC, I'm on the same mission to lose a bit of weight but if I had put off TTC I still wouldn't be trying now, which is 10 mths since we started, so yeah I'd definately keep TTC, ya never know how long it's gonna take unfortunately 
 Good luck!!! ------------- Formerly Wishin41 |
Posted By: IVFGirl1111
Date Posted: 07 February 2008 at 9:46am
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Thanks guys Im already losing weight - BUT I was thinking if we put off TTC for 3 months I could take something to boost it along like reductil or something?
I also dont want to let my best friend down if I fall pregnant at the start of the season! We have a rule at our club that you cant play past 12 weeks so Id be out then oh I dont know what to do! Im SO unhappy with my weight, I keep thinking whats going to happen when Im pregnant - but then I want to be pregnant more than anything in the world!
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Posted By: Aprilfools
Date Posted: 07 February 2008 at 9:52am
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If it were me I'd keep TTC and work on my weight while ttc.
Your friend will definitely understand if you're not there playing. You can always yell from the sidelines!! And good on you for losing weight already. That's great. |
Posted By: baalamb
Date Posted: 07 February 2008 at 10:47am
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I'm going to go well against the majority here.
I'd stop TTC, lose some weight AND play netball. Sure, sounds selfish, but as soon as you become pregnant and the baby is born, it's not half as much about you anymore, it's all about the baby! So it is your last chance to indulge yourself in what YOU want to do and be completely selfish about it. You and hubby are still so young, and as much as I love my daughter, I would have loved a last chance to be completely and utterly selfish. Luv ya! 
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Posted By: alexbabe
Date Posted: 07 February 2008 at 10:53am
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If it was me- i would TTC, because you never know when it will happen at all.
Good on you for losing weight already |
Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 07 February 2008 at 11:12am
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I'm going along the same lines. Keep TTC and keep playing and keep losing the weight. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: IVFGirl1111
Date Posted: 07 February 2008 at 11:34am
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Thats the whole thing - Im not really losing anymore weight at the moment! Ive kind of given up to be honest! Which is bad I know!
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Posted By: IVFGirl1111
Date Posted: 07 February 2008 at 11:35am
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Posted By: TraceyA
Date Posted: 07 February 2008 at 12:06pm
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BooBoo, I agree with the majority, keep ttc because you never know what will happen or how long things will take.
As to your weight, it's great that you have lost some already, sad that you've given up. I would not recommend for you to take any sort of drugs to help you loose weight faster as they are not a sustainable way of weight loss. Weight loss really is a mind game, one way to start is to not think about weight loss and focus on fitness. You want to build fitness, strength and muscle not simply loose weight. The fastest way for you to tone up and shed kilos is to do weight training, the more you work your muscles the more your body has to work to repair them, and thus it burns up calories to do this, this is when you really start to see a difference with your body. You will feel fitter, stronger and have more energy, your body will really start to look and feel better. Diet is essential, but only a diet that is sustainable. Fad diets don't work and when you finish them you always put the weight back on and then some. Start keeping a food diary for a week, note down everything you eat and drink, and I mean everything, at the end of the week go through the diary and review what you have eaten and then see where you can make some changes, substitute a handful of mixed nuts for the mars bar or buy only bit size ones and take only one with you (replace mars bars with any other indulgence), reduce the meat portion of your dinner and add extra veggies instead. Each week just change things a little, keep doing the diary as it will become a positive reinforcer to your changing diet. If you can start by reducing the portion sizes of the things you eat and bulking them up with salad and vegetable items then you are a long way to achieving overall good health and weight loss. Now that netball season is approaching for you, perhaps you and your girlfriend, or you and DP could start going for a daily walk, half an hour at a good solid pass will do wonders. Sometimes it can also help to stick up motivational reminders, like pictures of why you are doing this, stick them to the front of the fridge or bathroom mirror. Nothing negative, nothing like a blond bimbo in a bikini, nothing that shames you or makes you feel bad, things that really remind you why your doing this, what you are going to get out of it, what excites and motivates you. Good luck and remember its ok to be naughty and slack off, just as long as you get back into it again. ------------- TTC #2 |
Posted By: blondy
Date Posted: 07 February 2008 at 12:32pm
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Just to throw in my 2 cents - I would just keep TTC, but maybe (as some others have suggested) include an extra form of exercise in your routine (maybe walking or swimming) as well as netball.
I had totally planned on playing netball until around 12 weeks, but after one game at about 5-6 weeks, I found my body was telling me no-way! I just felt really horrible... So keep in mind that you may not be able to keep playing as long as you think. I know that others have had no issues with playing longer, but you need to listen to your body.
Good luck! -------------  
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Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 07 February 2008 at 1:09pm
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I have to agree with Baalamb. Sound like it would be best to lose the weight and play your netball (as both will help each other) then ttc when you are 100% ready. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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baalamb wrote:Posted By: yummymummy
Date Posted: 07 February 2008 at 1:36pm
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I'd keep TTC. I have weight to lose too but, at the rate I'm going, we would probably still not be TTC had I waited. As for netball, you can always go back to it later. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 07 February 2008 at 1:49pm
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To be brutally honest, You are going to put weight on when you are pregnant anyhow, so I would kept TTC, and not bother too much about the weight thing because it will be a 5 step forward 15 steps back thing untill baby is about 3 or 4 months old any way..
And along the brutally honest theme, "We do everything together???" If you want to TTC and she dosen't want you to so you can play netball, I'm sorry, but that is all rather 16 y/o? JMTCW. Good luck and if you are lucky like alot of mums on here, the weight will drop off after you have baby!! ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: IVFGirl1111
Date Posted: 07 February 2008 at 9:01pm
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Thanks everyone - fattartsrock as I said she was joking when she said that.
When I say we do "everything together type thing" I was trying to put a picture across off how we are very good friends and that I really do enjoy playing netball with her type thing. She would NEVER mean it by saying dont play netball, she is the one that has already brought a few things for us for when we do have a baby!
How much is the average that people put on when they are pregnant? |
Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 07 February 2008 at 9:08pm
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There is no average Dal. I put on 35 with Andrew (bear in mind I got very sick) but instantly lost 20 after he was born. Josh I put on about 15 I never really got weighed. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: peachy
Date Posted: 07 February 2008 at 9:17pm
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Dal I put on 13kgs, I've still got 9kgs to loose before I am back to my pre-pregnancy weight!
I think the averge is between 11 and 15 kgs for memory (I could be wrong, but its around those figures)! Good luck ttc, I say keep ttc and enjoy your freedom whie it lasts ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 07 February 2008 at 9:31pm
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I had put on 8kg by 28 weeks, my m/w didn't weigh and I don't have scales so don't know what I was at the end but i'm guessing that I probably put about 12-15kg on. I weighed myself at the docs when Spencer was 3 months and was back to my pre preggy weight exactly. (might have been back to that quicker but like I say don't own scales).
Also meant to say that I would keep TTC it could take months and if it doesn't i'm sure you (and your friend) will be far to happy to worry about missing a season of netball. ------------- 
 
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Posted By: baalamb
Date Posted: 07 February 2008 at 9:37pm
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Everyone keeps saying keep TTC because it might take a while, but you're still young. Even if you're not preg in the next 2 years (and I hope that's not the case for you and hubby), you'll still only be 26 - plenty of time to get on your way to a specialist!
I actually lost 6 kg in the first trimester, not due to morning sickness either because I didn't once throw up! I put on about 8ish, going from my pre-preg weight, not including that 6kg loss, so around 14. I don't know about that magic weight just dropping off after the baby is born. Don't believe that, you might be disappointed when you get to that stage like I was hahaha
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Posted By: peachy
Date Posted: 07 February 2008 at 9:44pm
I agree baalamb, so much for "b/f helps you loose preggy weight"........baaahumbug it does  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: J&Ls mum
Date Posted: 08 February 2008 at 8:25am
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Keep TTC, lose weight and play netball at the same time!
Don't do what we did and postpone TTC for silly reasons, it took us 2 years to finally get our BFP! Keep up the BD! ------------- J - born 26th April 2008 and L - born 3rd Sept 2010 http://alterna-tickers.com"> 
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Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 08 February 2008 at 11:53am
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ok cause we are an honest bunch here - this is my opinion (and only mine)
Is there really a right time to have ababy? I mean yup there is but there is always something thats coming up or happening etc.... even if you wait out the netball season between the next one and this one you have approx 2 months to get pregnant before the season is upon us and you have had the baby.. well actually either way you will miss out on this season or next (or when ever you decide and get pregnant) So what you need to decide is - not what month you want to have bubs but what year you wanna and willing to miss out on netball... Now I know it wasn't all about netball there was the weigh - BFing bubs and losing weight is a miff and only the lucky ones that happens to. I am not over weight but still found it hard to lose weigh after Rhyley. So don't rely on that as your weigh lose plan. You can lose weigh whilst pregnant - natural way - lots of walking/exercise and a good diet but of cause you won;t see that via scales cause you have a bubs inside you. depends what weight you are now - i have heard the bigger you are the less weigh you need to put on in pregnancy (of cause always an exception to the rule) good luck in whatever you choose to do....and for the record what would 'I' choose to do if 'I' was 'YOU' - sounds like 'you' (I mean I LOL) are keen on the doing the netball game so you might like to have this season with netball before TTC (you could always practise )------------- Ann 
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Posted By: IVFGirl1111
Date Posted: 08 February 2008 at 11:59am
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Ive thought long and hard about it - and the netball thing is not a worry now, I guess I was just using that as an excuse because deep down my HUGE concern is the weight thing, like it really is a big concern.
Im quite down about my weight at the moment so Im thinking what am I going to be like when I am actually pregnant |
Posted By: sally belly
Date Posted: 08 February 2008 at 12:17pm
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Maybe you could try & lose some weight first before TTC since it is a big worry to you. You could give yourself a set period of time to do so e.g. 3 months & see where your weight is at then. The fact is that you will gain more weight during pregnancy & this may be concerning for you. Pregnancy is not a time for unnecessary worry or stress
You just don't know how your body will cope with pregnancy until you are pregnant. Maybe I'm "lucky" but I have lost all the weight (14kg) I gained during pregnancy & it's not as if I've been terribly active. I agree with Ann, there is never a right time to fall pregnant but maybe if you have some doubts then the time isn't quite right yet. You're still young so you shouldn't be hearing the old biological clock ticking too loudly in your ear
Best of luck for whatever you decide. -------------    
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Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 08 February 2008 at 1:00pm
ok well thing is YOU will put some weigh on whilst pregnant and it maybe hard to lose it after having baby - but if you are good with your diet and exercise during pregnancy then you will not put on as much 'fat' and more just baby - so once baby out - bang goes the weight
hehe I was lucky with Brooke (and josh) had youth on my side ------------- Ann
Also Mum to Josh (15) and Brooke (10) |
Posted By: JadeC
Date Posted: 08 February 2008 at 7:19pm
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I would ttc now. You really do never know how long it will take, I have a friend online who has been trying for over a year now,and she's only 23 It's sad to watch her having to go through it, but at least they found out young.
As for the weight thing, it really depends on whats important to you, and , in the nicest way possible, how realistic that weightloss is. I have way more than 20kg to lose, but I'm not waiting. I've been struggling with weight my whole life so for me it's not like I'm suddenly going to get to my goal and start living my life, I have to do it now. ------------- http://pregnancy.baby-gaga.com/" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: emz
Date Posted: 08 February 2008 at 9:59pm
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Dal, I would TTC! Hehe, but how long have I been asking you when you're going to start?!
I put on between 20-25kgs with Jackson, lost all but 9kg in the first couple of weeks, and the 9kg that I have left is pretty much from eating a block of chocolate a week during pg!  So if you're good about your diet, you won't gain too much. Plus preggy ladies look great with big bellies, it's definitely different to being 'fat' I've found.
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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 09 February 2008 at 8:45pm
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I'd go for it, if my hockey team is anything playing winter sport is a guarantee you'll conceive we've lost so many team members who started the season and got preggers during, maybe the exercise and fitness increases your chances, helps to lose weight as well so you get both benefits. Good luck. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">   [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: emachan
Date Posted: 10 February 2008 at 10:12am
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As with the majority, I would say keep TTC!
Also, keep playing netball and doing some other kind of exercise in the meantime before you get pregnant, the healthier your body is, the more likely you are to conceive and have a healthy pregnancy. I definately would be wanting to shift some weight before pregnancy if I needed to - it'll make you feel better about yourself and keep yourself focussed on something else rather than TTC (TTC can start to take over your life otherwise, trust me, I know!). Having another goal (i.e. to lose 10kg before getting pregnant) is another positive thing for you and your DH to work at together! Good luck chicky! Remember, all of our comments are just our personal (and not professional) advice, go and talk to your doctor who will give you some professional advice too! ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  DD#1 Sept 08 DD#2 Oct 09 |