How Often Does Your DH Go Away
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Topic: How Often Does Your DH Go Away
Posted By: Lisha
Subject: How Often Does Your DH Go Away
Date Posted: 27 May 2008 at 8:02pm
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For work?
My DH is a senior Hydrological Officer, and measures river flow around Canterbury. He hasn't been away for a few months, but is going to be away from Wed - Friday. I know that I can cope, it's just 3 days  ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: .Mel
Date Posted: 27 May 2008 at 8:04pm
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He goes away for work every 2nd Tuesday but he's back the same day. Sometimes I wish he'd go away for longer Have you got people down there that can help you out with the girls? ------------- Mr Mellow (16) Miss Attitude (8) Destructa Kid (3) 
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Posted By: sally belly
Date Posted: 27 May 2008 at 8:08pm
My DH is in the navy so has the tendency to go away for weeks on end (he used to go away for 5-6 months at a time)  . Thankfully at the moment he's working on base & only goes to sea occassionaly for a week at the most. He's waiting on one of the new boats that is still being built at the moment but it's taking forever. I'm not complaining.
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Posted By: Lisha
Date Posted: 27 May 2008 at 8:09pm
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Yes, we are extremely lucky to have DH's parents only 10 mins away... they were over the fence at our old house, very handy indeed.
Have invited them over for tea on Thursday night to help out! What line of work is your DH in .Mel? ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 27 May 2008 at 8:10pm
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Not often enough!
He never goes away for work but occasionally he goes away for the weekend drinking with his mates. My dad used to be away Sun night to Fri night for years when we were growing up and mum had 4 of us under 5 to cope with  -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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Posted By: sally belly
Date Posted: 27 May 2008 at 8:15pm
Lol Emma  -------------
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Posted By: Lisha
Date Posted: 27 May 2008 at 8:15pm
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Oh poor you sally belly!! And here I am moaning about a few days!
Not sure if I would cope, but then again you just have too! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Lisha
Date Posted: 27 May 2008 at 8:16pm
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Wow Maya...! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: myfullhouse
Date Posted: 27 May 2008 at 8:19pm
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DH never goes away, for work or socially! He does go to night class on Thursday nights and although I cope I do miss him and the help with Jack's nighttime routine as he does half of it normally. I have great respect for Mums or Dads that cope on their own for days, weeks or months at a time, you are stonger people than me! ------------- Lindsey 
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Posted By: Lisha
Date Posted: 27 May 2008 at 8:21pm
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The night time routine is the hardest when you are by yourself, I will be tomorrow night, also days are long when Lucy hasn't got Monterssorri, oh well! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 27 May 2008 at 8:23pm
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Mine has been away for nearly 5 months now. Even when we do move up to be with him he will still be away a lot including a trip overseas. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: sally belly
Date Posted: 27 May 2008 at 8:28pm
Gotta love life as a military wife eh Becks  . -------------
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 27 May 2008 at 8:29pm
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Yeah i'm loving it Sally ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: Brenna
Date Posted: 27 May 2008 at 8:34pm
My DH doesn't go away very often (thankfully cause I hate being home alone over night). He's going on a marae stay in a couple of weeks so I'm going to stay with the IL's  ------------- My beautiful 2 girls...nearly 4 and 13 months
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Posted By: Lisha
Date Posted: 27 May 2008 at 8:35pm
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I was thinking of you becks, you have it tough! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: .Mel
Date Posted: 27 May 2008 at 8:39pm
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He's an account manager. ------------- Mr Mellow (16) Miss Attitude (8) Destructa Kid (3)
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Lisha wrote:Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 27 May 2008 at 8:40pm
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Its not actually that bad, I just have issues with Andrew. I don't mind being on my own (don't think I could be without children) and the best thing is I have all of the bed to myself (until I get a 4 year old visitor during the night). ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: MrsMojo
Date Posted: 27 May 2008 at 9:00pm
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My DH doesn't go 'away' as such. He works nights tho so I don't actually see him at all except to say goodbye in the morning (when I leave) and on the weekends.
In our prior life before we started this routine I used to hate it when DH went away so I'd make plans to do things I could only do when he wasn't here. Why not rent a really girly movie to watch once the girls are in bed and treat yourself to a couple of housework free days (not including dishes and washing of course). Go easy on yourself and enjoy. -------------  
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Posted By: emz
Date Posted: 27 May 2008 at 9:11pm
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Another military wife here...
Daniel has been away over 2 of the 4 years we have been together, including 3 overseas trips (1 at only 18hours notice for 6 1/2 months). He's been away for a month now except for 1 weekend that they came back to restock supplies. He gets back on Thursday so that'll be good (except he goes to Germany for 6 weeks soon). I hated it when I was by myself but I feel badly for Jack as he's going to miss out as he grows up (I've seen it happen to my cousins with my uncle being in the army too). I guess you do what you've gotta do to survive. I find it so easy when he's still in the country, but struggle when he's on deployment as he's been bombed, shot at etc before. I'm hoping my DH goes away next year so we can get some more money. Defence force doesn't exactly pay well. |
Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 27 May 2008 at 9:11pm
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He only goes away very occasionally for work and I think the longest it's ever been was 3 nights. I'm a sook and I hate it when he's away! ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and: 
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Posted By: shaz
Date Posted: 27 May 2008 at 9:21pm
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Mine goes away at least once a month. He's the union rep and they are in negotiations at the moment which has to be done in Wellington.
He also goes to Wellington fior his work as his boss is based there so they have get togethers sometimes. He loves it because he gets to go to the koru lounge (he's a member) and drink for free !!!! I don't mind him being away it's the coming home pissed which gets on my nerves........he snores really loud!! ------------- Mum to Natasha Aroha 9/12/1995, Alexandra Makareta Waimarie 22/4/1998 and....Alyssa Frances Hopaea 18/03/2007 
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 27 May 2008 at 9:39pm
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Emz we are getting (I like that WE are - we get the money I know I am looking forward to Nigel going overseas for us to get some extra money. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: WestiesGirl
Date Posted: 27 May 2008 at 11:20pm
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My DH was in the Army as well, but thankfully is out now. So know the feeling of being away for long periods and being bombed and shot at .
With the job he has now he's only away for 3 nights in every month which is much more bearable. Still miss him when he's away though. Becks how long has your Dh been based at Waiouru? ------------- Our Angel July 08 Gone but not forgotten
And to complete our family, our princess has arrived 
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 27 May 2008 at 11:37pm
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Since January he is doing NZCC for the year and then after that we don't know where we are heading. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 28 May 2008 at 7:36am
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Mine use to go away semi reguarly for a few days at a time but he's not doing that so often now hes Team Leader, he makes the other guys do it instead
He's had a few days up in Auckland since Daniel was born but that was fine. |
Posted By: coldfish
Date Posted: 28 May 2008 at 10:02am
My DH is a deep sea fisherman so he has a 6 weeks on, 6 weeks off schedule. He just left yesterday to go out to sea. We're planning on having a baby next year so I hope I'll be able to cope when he's away as my family are in another city 
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Posted By: MyBelly
Date Posted: 28 May 2008 at 10:09am
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my DH is away pretty much every weekend come provincial rugby season i hate it and end up pining for him, however i wont tell him that as im hoping he will be seen and selected for a higher up rugby team and maybe i can meet richie mccaw hahahaha
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Posted By: ohanlon82
Date Posted: 28 May 2008 at 11:25am
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DH is away a little bit for work.. We dont get alot of notice either.. He builds super yachts so if something needs to be done or a repair needs to be made he is the man and gets about 2 days notice normally.. longest he is away is only 3 weeks so not to bad ------------- http://lb2f.lilypie.com/TikiPic.php/RPaODBg.jpg |
Posted By: mummyofprinces
Date Posted: 28 May 2008 at 11:37am
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My DH never goes away. Which is good, as I dont really have any friends here in NZ and my family are all in OZ so I would get super lonely all by myself.
I am an army brat, I couldnt be with a military man. I have a lot of respect for you ladies who are. -------------   
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Posted By: Jay_R
Date Posted: 28 May 2008 at 11:41am
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My DH goes away every few months. I love it. I love my space, and time with Joshua just doing our own thing.
And I love being able to starfish on the bed and not feel guilty! I don't think I'd love it quite so much if it happened more regularly though. |
Posted By: surfergirl
Date Posted: 28 May 2008 at 11:47am
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In our house I'm the one who goes away; 3 weeks at a time, about every 3 months.
DH loves it, lives like a pig in muck - eats rubbish (pizza, spag on toast) and wallows in in mess til the day before I get home. He also gets flown up to see me in the weekend sometimes so HE thinks this is a great perk of the job. I, however, miss him (and the fur babies) like mad. I have learnt NOT to come home early tho'...as I got to see how messy it is before he freaks out about my impending arrival 
This of course will all change once we stop TTC and actually become parents!
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Posted By: lottieandharry
Date Posted: 28 May 2008 at 12:27pm
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My DH comes home today after being away for 10days. He travels from Kaikoura south as a rep so is away for a week at a time usually about every couple of weeks.
My 2 year old is very challenging at the moment and waking early (5amish) and I find the tiredness the hardest. Yesterday I was up at 4.20am feeding Harry, Charlotte woke at 4.45am and I spent the next hour putting her back to bed then gave up. So it was a very long day. My MIL took her for the night so I got a sleep in this morning. I have so much respect for single mums/dads and those of you whose husbands/partners are away for long periods of time. I struggle with 5 days sometimes! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Lisha
Date Posted: 28 May 2008 at 1:49pm
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I take my hat off to you all...!
I have the inlaws helping tonight, and my mum is coming to stay tomorrow night, so no reason to complain! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Bubnumber2
Date Posted: 28 May 2008 at 2:04pm
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Often, but not at predictable times (for the most part anyway).
Quite often for a week or two throughout the year, occasionally for months at a time. Longest has been 10 months, which was only a few weeks after our son was born. I've mostly gotten used to it, it's just a part of our life now...but I can't lie, because I do struggle with it every so often. I'm another military wife, by the way. ------------- http://www.bump-and-beyond.com/"> 
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Posted By: my4beauties
Date Posted: 28 May 2008 at 2:54pm
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My DH has stayed out of town for a couple of days at a time, maybe once or twice a year, so i can't complain too much. I find the first night is fine, then the subsequent nights I hate it and miss him terribly! I could not handle weeks or months at a time, that's for sure. ------------- My babies: R (9),G (7), J (5) http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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