help me or i’ll cancel the wedding ...
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Topic: help me or i’ll cancel the wedding ...
Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Subject: help me or i’ll cancel the wedding ...
Date Posted: 18 September 2008 at 9:19pm
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No, not really , just wanted to have a moment of overdramaticness .... ok , ideas please from you wise women 
Im trying to work out what material i should have for my bridesmaids, and colours etc . The wedding is going to be in a reserve surrounded by heaps of trees (think more large clearing than reserve) and in late Feb (so should have nice weather , tho this IS New Zealand ...) My bridesmaids are all different shapes , one is tiny , 45 kg, the other is about a size 12, and one is bout size 14-16 , they all want long dresses, which is fine . One of the bridesmaids has a request, she has arthritis and is very very ashamed of her wrists and hands , im one of the few people outside her family , to have ever seen her with out armbands covering her wrists of some sort , she is wanting to have something to cover them , eg a light shawl, or gloves, and plenty of people tell me "its my wedding , do what you want " but she is also my best friend, and its important for me that shes there, and is feeling comfortable with what shes wearing . SO basically , what kind of material and style and colour (there is a pale complexion , white blonde, a tan darker blonde and a fair dark haired btw) do you think would go with a forest type wedding in summer, im thinking i dont want heavy material right ? gah , help please ------------- 
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Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 18 September 2008 at 9:27pm
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Just make sure she has flowers to hold, that will cover her hands/wrists.
What are YOUR fave colours, chick? you so don't want to just "blend in" you need to think what theme colour/s you might like. We had black, white and silver gold/bronze is nice, also. You will end up themeing your whole wedidng round their colours probably so you need to like it. (invites, serviettes etc) ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 18 September 2008 at 9:29pm
you could have them in long black strapless or somethign and have her with elbow length gloves, black. Any colour other than black, though might look a bit  ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 18 September 2008 at 9:29pm
| what about some kinda wristband/corsage thingy? |
Posted By: susieq
Date Posted: 18 September 2008 at 9:34pm
| And dont forget you need a dress for Holly your junior bridesmaid too |
Posted By: susieq
Date Posted: 18 September 2008 at 9:43pm
| and dont you dare cancel the wedding, |
Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 18 September 2008 at 9:53pm
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yeah wrist band corsagey thing could work ........
Hmm, i dont really have a favourite colour , (that question always caused me such anxiety at school ..) im thinking that i dont want green or brown cos people might mistake my bridesmaids for trees ..... -------------
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Posted By: weegee
Date Posted: 18 September 2008 at 9:59pm
lol I got so fed up with my mum when I was planning my wedding, Kelly you don't have anywhere to hide!  Lucky you obviously get along well huh
They don't all have to wear the same dress, you could have them in the same material but different patterns eg my bridesmaids were shown the fabric, and told it had to be full length and sleeveless, but they could choose their own patterns. You could have matching chiffon wraps or pashminas if you want to make sure they have the option for a bit of warmth if heaven forbid it turns out to be a colder day. In terms of colour, I guess you'd want something that stands out against green, I like fattartsrock's suggestion of a gold or bronze. A good idea is just to go to a nice fabric shop (and I don't mean spotlight!) and see what colours and materials take your fancy... ------------- 
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 18 September 2008 at 10:21pm
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haha weegee, i know, i have no where to hide from the mother of the bride ....
Thanks for those ideas, will check out some fabric shops this weekend  -------------
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 18 September 2008 at 10:23pm
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yeah i was going to say you dont have to have them all in the same colour...
how bout long sleeves in a chiffon type material (think floaty and light) with a split almost from shoulder to wrist with a wide cuff with points ... hmm is better in my head than typed out  ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 18 September 2008 at 10:33pm
was just doing a search and there are some ugly bridesmaids dresses out there...
and most of them short or no sleeved... i think gloves look funny personally... what abut jewellery, wide bracelets perhaps ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker">
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 18 September 2008 at 10:39pm
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oh and i did see you can get the same dress but in a short and long version so if the bridesmaids want diff styles you can change it up a bit to suit their shapes.
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 18 September 2008 at 11:48pm
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you can get ones in the same co9lour but different styles - or the same style but different colours - i have seenthe effect where a lady had her bridesmaids in the same floaty summer dress but in different colours of indigo, blue and green and orange and yellow and pink - like a rainbow.
But yeah - you'll find something you like. Mike always liked that electric blue colour which is what we have gone with and thrown in a hint of orange and a tiny tidbit of lime in some places to break it up a bit. - runs well now with our theme of monarchs.... just breathe breathe. Or, get them all together, go into pagani and try on heaps of dresses - you'll get the idea of what styles and they have heaps of dresses in there at the mo that you could even just buy one for each in different sizes and it's all done then! (which personally is what i would/should have done done, since it is now 7weeks from the wedding, my FMIL has still not even picked up the material for the BM's dresses from our house to make them and i now find out she's over in aussie for 3 weeks on holiday!!!!) Annnyway - I also think that there are a few other places with nice dresses at the mo too - (i took my 11 yr old neice out dress shopping the other day for my wedding) That's usually a good place to start. Our style i even think we found at principals, but since i wanted it in a different colour, I got the catalogue pic of it to remember the parts i liked, then found a pattern the same, and have gone from there. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja 
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Posted By: lilfatty
Date Posted: 19 September 2008 at 6:39am
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I love the wrist corsage idea! Hmm maybe if I have wedding number three I will steal that .... ------------- Mummy to Issy (3) and Elias (18 months) I did it .. 41 kgs gone! From flab to fab in under a year  http://www.femininefitness.co.nz/category/blog - LFs weight blog
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Posted By: LizzyJ
Date Posted: 19 September 2008 at 7:31am
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i got my BM dresses form Stax, took in the most self concious of my bridesmaids and she picked it out, the other two were the look great in anything type, i like the idea of Long gloves for all teh bridesmaids, would look really cool in the photo's a bit formal but dramatic.
What type of flowers are you having, my dresses were deep purple and flowers were deep purple calla lillies, then had deep purple ribbon tied around all the napkins and favour box's, it gave teh whole thing a bit of a flow, invites had urple in them etc. Can you steel ideas from other things you have organised? ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: flakesitchyfeet
Date Posted: 19 September 2008 at 7:59am
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lol Lizzy I did he take my most self conscious bridesmaid out thing as well :)
How about a deep red nearly burgundy tone gown? Not to wow and out there but still won't be mistaken for a tree. I think the chiffon shawls are a great idea, a place like spotlight is bound to have chiffon that either complements or matches the colour you choose for their gowns. The girls can each have one and they will be greatful for it if a slight breeze picks up during the day at the photo session -------------  http://lilypie.com"> |
Posted By: MrsMojo
Date Posted: 19 September 2008 at 8:13am
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At my older sisters wedding we wore the same dress but in different colours, at my younger sisters wedding we all wore purple but different styles. The other way to go is to have the same basic dress pattern in different shades of one colour (to suit the different complexions) and have different sleeves. For eg. one could wear a strapless, another a spaghetti strap and the friend with arthritis could have floaty long sleeves. A wrist corsage is a good idea (as long as the weight wouldn't aggravate the arthritis) or they could all wear stoles loosely draped over their arms. Or you could have an opposites wedding and the bridesmaids wear tuxes and the groomsmen wear dresses -------------  
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Posted By: flakesitchyfeet
Date Posted: 19 September 2008 at 8:18am
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trademe:
http://www.trademe.co.nz/Clothing/Wedding/Bridesmaids-dresses/Size-12/auction-176581221.htm - Don't worry - other colours available! http://www.trademe.co.nz/Clothing/Wedding/Bridesmaids-dresses/Size-10/photos/a-177208985/p-76355006.htm - another idea I love trademe, and google images is a treat as well. Just type in 'forest wedding' or 'red gowns' and there will be heaps of photos to help inspire you :) ------------- http://lilypie.com"> |
Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 19 September 2008 at 8:23am
| I'm too lazy to search through but why not go to a dress hire place and get them to try a few on. I had no idea what I wanted so we just did this and found what looked awesome and what didn't. |
Posted By: Mum_mum
Date Posted: 19 September 2008 at 8:49am
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Our girls all wore the same colour but different styles on top e.g the bottom of the dress was the same but they had a halter, strapless and criscross tops. Our girls wore a cloudy blue colour (bit hard to explain!) But it looked really nice and fresh!
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Posted By: Deez
Date Posted: 19 September 2008 at 9:18am
I went looking for a picture that i had in my head but i couldn't find one but i found something similar....if you are getting the dresses made you could see if the dress maker to in corporate this into her dress.....so that the sleeve comes right down over her arms and hooks over her thumbs (if you know what i mean)....as apposed to wearing a small jacket or what its called.
 
I'll keep looking and if i find it i'll post it for you -------------  
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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 19 September 2008 at 9:28am
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You don't have to have your BM's in the same dress or the same colour, I didn't as my bridemaids were my 11yr old niece and my best friend who is 33 and was bf. I had them in different shades of blue, and styles to suit their figures. I went to Posh Studio in Northcote Shopping centre the lady there is fabulous, and the dresses were the same price as Staxs. they have loads of different styles in every colour imaginable, all 3 of us to the shop and tried on different styles to see what we liked and picked a colour that worked. I got the idea for different shades of a colour from Martha Stewart Weddings, its a popular idea in the states and I'm sure there will be many more crises before the big day ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">   [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 19 September 2008 at 9:54am
What about some sort of fancy cuff... I knitted a beaded lace one a while ago...
The pattern is here (with pics of better examples): http://knitty.com/ISSUEsummer06/PATTperdita.html - Perdita pattern That might help her feel relaxed and then have flowers as well so that it covers them during the ceremony? |
Posted By: jaycee
Date Posted: 19 September 2008 at 2:02pm
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We got married in November in Wellington (alway risky!) and all three of us (me plus 2 BM had sleevless dresses). My mum was so worried that she bought each of a a pashmina (sp) to have. My dress was cream and I had a pale blue pashmina and my BM were in a purple/blue colour (to match the iris' in the flowers) so they had cream pashminas. They looked great and were really good as it was chilly when were were having our photos done. We have a great photo and the pashminas are draped around our back and over our wrists. All of us still use them 7 years on! -------------   
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 19 September 2008 at 2:13pm
nikki i love that.... ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker">
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nikkiwhyte wrote:Posted By: Mazzy
Date Posted: 19 September 2008 at 2:19pm
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I like the wide bracelet/cuff ideas from Bizzy and Nikki, then they can also be little gifts from you to your bridesmaids.
If you're going to be surrounded by green, I like the idea of a bronze kind of colour, or bronze jewelery with black dresses. Anything goes these days with bridesmaids so it's up to what you and your friends feel happiest with. I like the idea of a subtle patterned material, with green in it so that at the reception you're reminded of the outdoor ceremony. Exciting! I love weddings. ------------- Mum to two gorgeous girls! |
Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 19 September 2008 at 5:22pm
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thanks heaps guys , so many great ideas :-)
Tomorrow DF and i are going to sylvia park and New Market etc anyway , so i'll have a look around for dress ideas (LUCKY DF huh! hes ABSOLUTLEY thrilled !) , good thing about these BMs is that i know them so well , i can say what individually each will look good in . Have kinda come to conclusion that i might just dress them in same colour , but different styles ...as long as they look nice (eg slightly dressier than the guests ) , i dont want to fuss too much about it...heck i've still got to work out what im gonna wear ! -------------
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Posted By: MissAngel
Date Posted: 19 September 2008 at 5:38pm
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lololololol :P Go to Stax (dunno if anyones mentioned it) and have a look at their formal stuff. When I was pricing up bridesmaid dresses it was cheaper to buy from there than get them made. Ended up going to Pagani in the end however.
I have 2 days til my wedding and I still dont have music to walk down the aisle to! ------------- Alex, Thomas and Lily http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 19 September 2008 at 5:48pm
HUM !!! really loudly as your walking down the aisle ....or , better yet sing some really heavy metal song under your breath and just get carried away and belt out the big parts .... -------------
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Posted By: susieq
Date Posted: 19 September 2008 at 7:11pm
| Poor DF having to go with you and what size dress will you look at for Holly you my have to check with Aunty T what size she would be |
Posted By: queenbean
Date Posted: 19 September 2008 at 10:49pm
We did this at our wedding, all three bridesmaids had the same colour dress (chocolate brown for an autumn wedding) but different lengths and different sleeves for all three. Looked really awesome!! Good luck!! -------------   
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 20 September 2008 at 6:52pm
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Have now decided THAT , i am going to get rid of current bridesmaids and hire identical triplets for the day , who look good in anything.
And who do whatever i tell them .... -------------
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Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 21 September 2008 at 7:42pm
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I seriously think that is the ONLY option.
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Posted By: T_Rex
Date Posted: 22 September 2008 at 1:25am
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Just a thought on planning for a green background... my friend did this for her wedding last summer. Only it turned out to be a massive drought, and instead of getting married in a green clearing, she got married in a brown one because all the grass was dead! Lucky she'd gone for burgundy bridesmaid dresses, so they looked stunning against brown as well as against green, but perhaps something to think about?
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Posted By: lovingmummyhood
Date Posted: 22 September 2008 at 6:03am
Lol, hope you had fun shopping ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: susieq
Date Posted: 22 September 2008 at 7:16am
| she was round her on Sat night looking on Trade me and is going for burgundy for the bridesmaids and with wraps and for Caitlyn who is flower girl and her cousin who is a junior bridesmaid/flower girl white with burgundy sashs round the middle of their dresses I think that is the plan |
Posted By: BugTeeny
Date Posted: 22 September 2008 at 7:49am
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I have three burgundy bridesmaid dresses that I wanna sell....
They're all the same style though, so might not work out for you... Sizes 10, 12 and 14, but can all be altered really easily. ------------- 
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 22 September 2008 at 9:59am
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no..no,,,,that could work ....could you PM me a piccie ???
Ive decided to go with 3 same style burgundyish ones ,that also come with wraps , so that solves that dilemma , the wraps can also be bought separately , and i'll buy four ,the fourth i'll use to make a sash for the waist around C and my cousins dresses ...C's dress im using her one from the school play , heh heh. Unfortunatley , identical triplets are really really expensive on TM -------------
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 22 September 2008 at 10:02am
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no..no,,,,that could work ....could you PM me a piccie ???
Ive decided to go with 3 same style burgundyish ones ,that also come with wraps , so that solves that dilemma , the wraps can also be bought separately , and i'll buy four ,the fourth i'll use to make a sash for the waist around C and my cousins dresses ...C's dress im using her one from the school play , heh heh. Unfortunatley , identical triplets are really really expensive on TM -------------
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 22 September 2008 at 10:04am
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posted twice ,oops!!! -------------
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