I’m a bit down today.
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Topic: I’m a bit down today.
Posted By: daikini
Subject: I’m a bit down today.
Date Posted: 02 May 2006 at 12:55pm
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I'm having a really hard day emotionally today. I just can't get motivated. There's washing to be hung out... clean clothes to be folded and put away... dishes to do... I've got a couple of assignments due over the next 10 days to get finished... I just can't concentrate and the next thing I know an hour has dissappeared.
I've struggled with depression on and off ever since I first got it as a side effect of some medication 6.5 years ago, but this is the worst I've been. I feel like I'm hanging out for the end of the year, when we'll be able to move...  ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
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Posted By: deharn
Date Posted: 02 May 2006 at 1:07pm
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hey don't worry about the washing and folding that can all wait. And the assignment will still be there tomorrow as well. You need to take care of you.
Do you have a friend that you could call and go for coffee? Getting out of the house just to get your mind in another place may help. If not i am sure there are heaps of ladies on here to make you feel a bit better hopefully. 
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Posted By: Two Blondinis
Date Posted: 02 May 2006 at 1:08pm
 Aww I've been at that low stage too. Have you tried St Johns Wort? Don't do what I did though and pop too many as it made me feel really numb (emotionally) and I ended up feeling worse until I sorted out how many I needed to take. Either that or a huge bowl of ice cream and a good old girly blub! Most importantly, the world won't end if the laundry isn't put away - if it's getting you down HIDE IT!  shhh don't tell my hubby  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
 
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Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 02 May 2006 at 1:15pm
Oh Becca....big ....I hope you feel better soon.
These guys are right...go out of the house, have a coffee, do a bit of shopping, have a chocolate cake (yes and I mean a whole one), have a bath ...and then if you feel better do what you have to. Other wise...tomorrow is another day. chin up!!!  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Simonne
Date Posted: 02 May 2006 at 1:18pm
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 02 May 2006 at 1:35pm
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ohh becca leave the house hold chores and go and have a bath and/or ring a ood friend for a coffee isalation can make depression worse so maybe gettng out of the house even for a walk may help thinking of you ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 02 May 2006 at 1:45pm
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Thanks ladies... going for a walk sounds like a good idea..
When I saw the doctor a couple of weeks ago she offered to refer me to a psyc nuse (as I can't take medication while pregnant) who just rung. I'll see her tomorrow, so that will be good. ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: Kelpa
Date Posted: 02 May 2006 at 1:50pm
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Awwww my love!!!
Big hugs to you! I hope you feel much better real soon! Remember what you dont get done today can always been done tommorrow!! Look after you! Take care! -------------  
 
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Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 02 May 2006 at 2:03pm
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Big hugs sweetie
I wish I knew something to make you feel better but I know depression doesn't work like that. Instead I'll be praying for you ok? ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 02 May 2006 at 3:59pm
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Do you know whats even better than chocolate cake?? 75% off Easter eggs! And if it helps my washing and dishes still havent been done today...
Big hugs Becca... Hopefully the nurse will be helpful tomorrow. ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: AlyAyde
Date Posted: 02 May 2006 at 4:52pm
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Big hugs Becca, Hope your day has improved. ------------- Jayde 25/12/04 Alyssa 08/04/03 http://Alyayde.bebo.com |
Posted By: robyn
Date Posted: 02 May 2006 at 7:44pm
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hope things go well tomorrow and you start feeling better soon ------------- KOBE born 19 March 2004 http://www.TickerFactory.com/"> 
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Posted By: netballgirl4
Date Posted: 02 May 2006 at 7:53pm
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oh hunni bug hugs hope u feel better soon ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Alan & Bubbles Mummy
Date Posted: 03 May 2006 at 9:35pm
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Hey chick just wanted to say its ok to have off day's sometime's I often feel that way deffently goig for a walk is good I had to do that the other day. I have been feeling the same way the last few days if you want to talk just pm me. Take care hope you feel better soon. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 03 May 2006 at 9:47pm
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hi becca hope u rfeeling better today depression runs in our familiy and both my brother have been on meds for this i hope your appointment went well and the nurse was able to help ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 03 May 2006 at 10:28pm
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Hugs from me too Becca!! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 04 May 2006 at 9:35am
| And Me!!! I don't really undersatdn depression too much, so I'll try not to say anything too dumb. But I hope you feel better soon! |
Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 04 May 2006 at 10:22am
Promise not to tell me to snap out of it, Liz, and I'll promise not to snap your head off, okay? 
The visit with the psych nurse went really well. I've got mild-moderate depression, but there's people helping me now so I will get through this. The nurse, Raewyn, is going to organise a councellor and home help for me, so I can pull myself out of this both emotionally and physically. It's preferred that I don't take meds while pregnant, although it is an option if things get too much for me. This probably started as mild postnatal depression after having Josiah, but has really been beneath the surface since having Kiya. ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 04 May 2006 at 10:23am
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Oh, and thanks for the prayers, Paws. I appreciate it! ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 04 May 2006 at 10:54am
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Becca...I am glad you are getting help. I am also glad that you have two beautiful children (and another one on the way) and loving hubby to keep you feeling positive......Well done!!!
always! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 04 May 2006 at 1:10pm
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hi becca glad to hear u r getting the help u need take it esay hun god don,st give anything we could not handle will be praying for u ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: robyn
Date Posted: 04 May 2006 at 8:29pm
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good on you for getting some help, hope it goes well for you. ------------- KOBE born 19 March 2004 http://www.TickerFactory.com/">
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Posted By: deharn
Date Posted: 04 May 2006 at 8:57pm
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Good on you becca.l for having the courage to ask for help and also for being brave enough to come on here and tell people. Depression can be such an isolating and difficult problem along with being so misunderstood, this is something that can happen to any of us .
I very much admire you and wish you all the very best, I am sure you will be feeling on top of the world in no time.
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Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 05 May 2006 at 8:04am
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Thanks everyone.
I decided to tell you what I'm going through for three reasons: 1) you will probably notice it coming through in my posts sometimes, so you may as well know what's happening rather than guessing 2) I really need to know I'm normal! 3) I want other mums who might read this and recognise bits to know they are normal, and there is help out there. ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 05 May 2006 at 4:18pm
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Hey the Becca - big hugs and hope things are going better for you today - although i know where you are coming from and even though each person's experience is different i can fully understand all of the above statements. I definately think that it can all be made worse when you have moved to a small town, or have left the supports you had before. Studying made things a heck of alot worse for me to start with, and when ihave an assignment due i am the same, the house is a mess, the kids don't get my full attention, (nothing really does) the assignment gets left, and left, and left, until it is done with a few days to spare, i am a screaming wreck and close to break down but scarily enough that's how i get my best assignments, cos i work so hard and fast that only the best stuff comes out of my brain, lolol.. Mike usually knows when things are getting a bit much cos i tend to describe feeling like i am the bottom of a tower of bricks, feeling as if more and more is being piled on top of me - more responsibility, more things to do, whatever, and i am just waiting for it all to crash down around me. I am glad you are getting help - it is hard to ask sometimes, it definately isn't a sign of weakness, but a sign of strength to know that it all isn't working how things are and to want to change it. good luck ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja 
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Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 05 May 2006 at 4:26pm
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Aw Becca, hope you are feeling a bit better now that you have got other people on board. I'd love to help you by taking the little things off your load! Maybe you should move to Wellington
Keep the goal in sight of moving to somewhere where you can develop bigger support networks but try not to let it get you down in the mean time! Take the kidlets down to a cafe (with a decent toy box and child-friendly atmosphere) and let them run riot while you have a cup of tea (or whatever) you never know who you might find to have a talk to! Thinking of you heaps.. lotsa hugs! xoxox |
Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 05 May 2006 at 4:30pm
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I would love to go to a cafe... but "cafe" and "child-friendly" don't extend beyond highchairs here in Ohakune ... so I just let Josiah run riot in the lounge, shut the hall and kitchen doors so I know he's contained and sit back on the couch with the Sky remote and a hot chocolate made from my coffee machine!
Lol... maybe we shouldn't move to Wellington... I don't want to be hosting the get-togethers every week just cause I make a damn good cappachino! ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 05 May 2006 at 6:47pm
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Oh I forgot about your "home cafe"! That's so very cool.... and once again... yes for Wellington. I hear Kilbirnie is a lovely area
Maybe you need to put a sign outside your house that says "coffee + child-friendly zone". You'd have all the friends in the world! |
Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 07 May 2006 at 10:52am
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I don't live on a main street - the biggest contributer to traffic down our road is the produce trucks coming from or going to their depot at the end of the road! I'm a bit worried about what sort of company I'd attract with a sign like that!
I rung the Open Polytech on Friday, and talked to my tutor... I got a D on an assignment I summitted a while ago (but haven't got back yet)... with that, and the depression, and Bubs on the way, we agreed that the best thing for me to do at the moment is to formally withdraw from my papers. I'm enrolled in two this semester, and two next, so I've set in the email to withdraw from the lot. We won't get a refund for this semester's papers, but we should get a full refund for next sememster's ones (which will go back on my student loan). Nathaniel is fine with this, as I did investigate it properly (by discussing it with my tutor before making any definite decision). I will look at re-enrolling in the future, when I have a proper work ethic, and can give my studies their due attention. I'm really glad to have one less thing to worry about! I meet with the home-help coordinator tomorrow, and I see the councellor for the first time on Wednesday, so everything's coming together. ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: james
Date Posted: 07 May 2006 at 11:14am
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yay becca i,m so glad everything is coming together for u and your family man u do livein the wopwops ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 07 May 2006 at 12:59pm
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Glad to hear Becca Sounds like a good idea dropping you tech papers... ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 14 June 2006 at 12:51pm
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Bumped for Nicola ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: nicolaann
Date Posted: 14 June 2006 at 12:57pm
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Thanks Becca ------------- Nicky, Mum to Alex (5) & Sophie (3) http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: 3under3
Date Posted: 18 June 2006 at 12:49pm
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Hey Becca
I remember when I first saw this post at the beginning of May and I was really low also at this time, but much too afraid to talk about it. Thank you for being brave! I feel much better now - the kids had all just been sick then and I think some other stuff was going on (can't remember now), but it was just a couple of weeks of a low. I get those now and then when I'm overtired/worn out! Things are finally getting better here. I'm almost starting to have fun with my kids - what a surprise! GTG Rosie |
Posted By: Caterpillar
Date Posted: 19 June 2006 at 3:46pm
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Big hugs Becca! I'm with aimeejoy, dropping the tech will certainly lightened the load so sounds like a really wise decision. Good 4 u!
As for the cafe idea, do you have any indoor play centres over there? We have a couple over here (Wriggle It & Toytown)which are blumin marvelous coz theres a huge play area 4 the kids with climbing equip & tonnes of toys etc + a cafe in the centre. Once a month I meet up with some of my friends & we can enjoy a coffee & gossip while the kids wear themselves out. They're a gr8 idea & u can often get discount admission vouchers on-line. ------------- Liam Blake 10-12-03 & Kye Jarrod 12-09-01 |
Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 19 June 2006 at 4:08pm
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That's a wonderful idea, Tansy... I wish Ohakune had somewhere like that.
The permenant population of Ohakune is 1500 people. During ski season, it trebles. The town consists of: a hairdresser, New World, a dairy, lots of smallish cafe/bar/resteraunts, a couple of (really expensive) clothes shops, several ski equipment hire places, an electrical appliance store, two or three gifty-type shops, Benchmark, a butcher, pharmacy, and four (!) real estate agents. Oh, and the two banks. There really is nothing here! ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 20 June 2006 at 2:54pm
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I still think you should start up "Cafe de Becca"
Like I said yesterday, I'd pay $3.50 for a cup of your coffee 
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Posted By: nicolaann
Date Posted: 20 June 2006 at 3:26pm
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Great idea Nikki, I'll drive up from Wangas for a cuppa Becca!!! ------------- Nicky, Mum to Alex (5) & Sophie (3) http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 20 June 2006 at 3:43pm
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You're on, Nic! ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |