Am I just being chicken??
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Topic: Am I just being chicken??
Posted By: Daizy
Subject: Am I just being chicken??
Date Posted: 05 August 2009 at 2:52pm
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So DH is going away this weekend (ok its really just one night) and I will be left at home on my own with the girls. I dont want to do it! The thought of spending the night on my own is freaking me out.
Its not that he has never been away before, it is just this if the first time since we have been in our new home. Before then we were living out the bak of my parents so there was always someone not too far away. We have only been in this house a few weeks and there seem to be so many strange noises (that I'm sure in time I will get used to) and we have a sensor light that goes on and off all night. Also we have windows I have to walk past to get to the girls room that don't have curtains and they scare me enough when DH is home. And the girls are in another room!.... I want to go stay home with my parents but am I just being silly. DH wants me home to protect the house, and thinks I need to face my fears and get over them. What would you do?? How do I not freak myself out about it? Am I really just beinga wuss? ------------- 
 
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Posted By: rachndean
Date Posted: 05 August 2009 at 3:00pm
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Hi Daizy :)
Definitely not being a chicken! I was the same for the first year in our new house. I would leave all the lights on all night, some nights i would also put music on quietly in our room!! But you will be ok, even though it is hard, you will get used to it, and one day look back on this and laugh your butt off about it!! 
Otherwise there is always the option of spending all night on OB!!! Big hugs in the meantime!!! 
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Posted By: clover
Date Posted: 05 August 2009 at 3:10pm
I used to be the same! Unfortunately you just have to get used to it. You'll be absolutely fine  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Turtle
Date Posted: 05 August 2009 at 3:17pm
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Totally understand how you are feeling. I am a wimp at staying at home with out DH.
Would one of your parents be able to come out and stay the night with you? As you say you are just getting used the house, and next time will probably heaps more comfortable with the noises and lights. |
Posted By: mamanee
Date Posted: 05 August 2009 at 3:26pm
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I'm still a wimp and I live all by myself with Sam!
I have to go around checking every window and lock and curtain to make sure they are all shut each night. Sucks because I can see marks on my front and back doors where people have obviously tried to break in when previous tenants have lived here. Can you sleep in bed with one of the girls? Some nights when I feel a bit anxious or lonely I just get into Sams bed with him, although now that he has a really narrow race car bed and I am pregnant, it's too hard! |
Posted By: Snappy
Date Posted: 05 August 2009 at 3:33pm
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You are definately not chicken!
When DH used to leave for night shift I used to spend at least two hours jumping at every noise while trying to get to sleep. I dont know why but at our old place I was much worse than I am here. I sleep with a hammer under the bed and bring Janaya in with me so im not so lonely... its taken me about 3 years of constant night shifts to get used to it, you'll get there! |
Posted By: Daizy
Date Posted: 05 August 2009 at 3:34pm
Yeah I am tempted to sleep in Keiras bed. She can sleep on a Matress on the floor
It would be a whole lot easier after living here a while and once we get curtains on the windows fitted. I am sure I will be fine, I think I will just go to bed early and sleep! Unless its stormy.... -------------
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Posted By: Daizy
Date Posted: 05 August 2009 at 3:37pm
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Last night was shocking. Our sensor light kept going off and then a magnet fell off the fridge and smashed. I honestly thought we were being broken into.
DH really wasnt much help,he just rolled over and grumbled at me for waking him. I dont even know why I need him around -------------
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 05 August 2009 at 3:45pm
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I used to live in a 2 bedroom flat down a long driveway ,next to a family that couldn't speak english, and I never got any sleep, and one night I was just drifting off to sleep when there was a tap at my window , my gosh I nearly had a heart attack , that feeling of when your heart is in your knees , turned out to be a guy I was seeing ,but still! took a few years off my life !
So ,my answer is , no , you are not being a chicken , and I for one , would completly understand if you stayed at your parents for the night . ------------- 
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Posted By: Candkids
Date Posted: 05 August 2009 at 4:03pm
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no your not being chicken at all!!
is there anyone you can invite over for a sleepover?? sister,cousin,friend? ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  DD 10.5yrs DS 6yrs DS 11mths 5 little angles watching from above |
Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 05 August 2009 at 4:20pm
yes you are a big chicken 
its alright tho its telethon weekend so you can camp in the lounge with the kids and watch tv all night! ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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Posted By: Mum_mum
Date Posted: 05 August 2009 at 4:21pm
oh i know how oyu feel Daisy! DH laughs at me cos one of the biggest things i am scared of is the dark and that there will be some baddie waiting out there to get me lol. We have lived in our house for 5 years and i still can't look out the window in the middle of the night in case someone is there 
DH is away often hunting so i go stay at my parents for the night, but in a couple of weeks he will be away for a whole week so i will need to stay in the house by myself for security but also to feed the chooks - Im getting better at doing this but still get freaked out, i use to go to sleep with the light still on lol. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: littleLittle
Date Posted: 05 August 2009 at 5:08pm
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I know how you feel! My DH is going away in a couple of weeks for the whole weekend and it will be the first time I'll be alone with baby (which is scary enough!). It's such an irrational fear but I had someone break into my house years ago while I was in there so I hate being alone now. I never hear any noises in the house when DH is home but when he's away I hear everything!!
I find it helps to go round and check all the doors and windows while it's still light so I'm confident that everything is locked up. And have a phone near you in bed so that if you do get freaked out you can call someone - maybe just let them know that they're your 'go to' person in case you call in the middle of the night!! I'm sure you'll be absolutely fine but I find those things help me when I'm home alone!! ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: flakesitchyfeet
Date Posted: 05 August 2009 at 5:43pm
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Ok you're being chicken. But I would be too!!!
Imagine how awesome you'll feel for surviving at your place :) It'll suck, I don't envy you, but the telethon idea is a brilliant one! -------------  http://lilypie.com"> |
Posted By: JoJames
Date Posted: 05 August 2009 at 5:54pm
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Wow! this thread makes me feel normal! I'm a chicken also, but I would prefer a stormy night if I was by myself because the bad people don't come out in the rain.
I either sleep in James room, or stay up all night and fall asleep with the light on. Telethon sounds good ------------- http://www.alterna-tickers.com"> 
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Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 05 August 2009 at 6:58pm
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i just had to do this..and no you aren't a chicken..he went away for five nights just after we moved:( before we had a very noisy neighbour who kept track of everything and also it was only one time of two nights..i had mum stay two nights and did the rest by myself but hated it:( ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 05 August 2009 at 7:03pm
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Yep you are being chicken
Your the grown up not the kiddy - and yup there's good tele on the weekend you could always invite a friend over and have a slumber party if you're feeling scared. Big Girls Blouse  ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">   [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: hannibal
Date Posted: 05 August 2009 at 7:07pm
| I'm a chicken too - I used to set the house alarm go to bed decide I still wasn't feeling safe - get up and push the bed against the bedroom door .... I'm a big sad case I know. Do what you feel comfortable with - go and stay with your parents or invite a friend over. |
Posted By: BeLoved
Date Posted: 05 August 2009 at 7:18pm
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I have had to do this so often that I don't let it bother me anymore but it is hard when you hear noises in the night. We live in the bush with no neighbours that close by, so kind of makes it worse.
In regards to the windows with no curtains I would stick sheets over them just pin them where you wont be able to see the pin holes when you take them down, I know it would make me feel a lot better if the windows were all covered. Oh and I would not worry about being a chicken everyone is scared of something! ------------- http://alterna-tickers.com"> 
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Posted By: Peanut
Date Posted: 06 August 2009 at 10:33am
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I agree with Bizzy! Camp out in the lounge with the kiddies - a treat for them and "comfort" for you.
Edited to explain - I mean I agreed with BIzzy to camp out and watch TV all night...not that you are a chicken -------------  
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Posted By: Bobbie
Date Posted: 06 August 2009 at 10:55am
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Heehee yeah you're probably a chicken but so am I. I think it's quite normal. -------------  
 
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Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 06 August 2009 at 11:56am
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I used to be scared staying by myself but now I love it. I go to bed early with a whole heap of treats and watch crappy TV.
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Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 06 August 2009 at 12:06pm
| I so didn't realise people actually got scared of being alone! I lived in a flat by myself for over a year and loved it lol. I actually can't wait for the very rare occassions when I have the house totally to myself all night, its great |
Posted By: tishy
Date Posted: 06 August 2009 at 12:30pm
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I think it's just something you have to get used to. I used to hate it when DH would go away but now I look forward to them
Now if only he could take the kids with him next time
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Posted By: xLUCKYx
Date Posted: 06 August 2009 at 12:39pm
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I am with you Stacey - I enjoy the alone time - look forward to the kids going to bed so I can settle down with a good book and cuppa :)
But I can see where you are coming from Daizy - especially without the curtains. I think the camp in the lounge thing is a great idea
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Posted By: .Mel
Date Posted: 06 August 2009 at 4:10pm
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How exciting, you'll be able to watch what you want, wander around in your Nana undies, pick your nose, fart when you want.. and not have to worry about what DH thinks
I like Bizzys idea of having a sleep over in the lounge. Or put the girls into bed like you normally do, and sleep in the lounge yourself with the phone beside you...don't forget the chocolate! It will be lots of fun, and when the girls wakeup in the morning you can all have a PJ morning/day... ------------- Mr Mellow (16) Miss Attitude (8) Destructa Kid (3) 
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Posted By: LittleBug
Date Posted: 09 August 2009 at 9:18pm
LOL I do that anyway... ------------- Chloe (4 years) and Oliver (3 years). |
.Mel wrote:Posted By: Daizy
Date Posted: 10 August 2009 at 2:19pm
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Tehe little bug
Well as it turns out I am a big chicken. Ended up at my parents - But - I needed a break from the girls. Next time! -------------
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Posted By: sweetpea
Date Posted: 10 August 2009 at 2:43pm
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I actually enjoy being at home by myself too but i totally understand where youa re comming from. It can be quite freightening being somewhere that you are not used to yet with all those noises. Try not to make a big deal out of it in front of the kids its amazing what they absorb and you don't want to imprint your fears on them unessicarily. In regards to the security light you cab lift the censor bit up a wee bit so that it doesn't go off as much. Also have a look around outside you might find that a branch or something similar is setting it off when it moves in the wind. They can be adjusted so that might just be what you need to do.
In time you will be fine i still don';t ike going out to the garage at home at nigt to put my car away even though its reasonably well lit. Lots of people are scared of the dark. Its quite a natural thing ------------- http://daisypath.com"> 
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Posted By: MrsEmma
Date Posted: 10 August 2009 at 8:21pm
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Oh my goodness I'm so glad to hear that some people are exactly the same as me!! I am absolutely terrified of the dark, we moved into a new property just over 2 weeks ago and I just don't feel safe here.. there are all sorts of noises and I find it hard to get to sleep every single night and that's with DH in bed next to me! Last night our cat jumped up on the dining room table and knocked over two glass bottles and I thought someone had broken in.. I thought my heart was in my throat.
I was speaking to a friend about it not long ago, I've always been terrified since as long as I can remember and I am so scared that my kids will inherit the same fear so I really need to get it under control in the next couple of years (or right now!!). At least there are more people out there with this fear than I thought, it makes me feel a bit better! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: heaf3
Date Posted: 11 August 2009 at 11:03am
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haha i'm glad i'm not the only one thats a huge chicken!! i don't mind being by myself for the evening but not all night, too many noises! i have never actually lived on my own or anything but i think i would be too scared to!
when i was little if i had to go to my parents room or even my room (down a hallway without a light) i would turn the light on as fast as possible and look around to make sure noone was there lol and then when i turned the light off i would run back up the hallway as fast as possible! even now i still get that horrible feeling in our house..im such a wimp! and i HATE it when people don't have curtains over their windows at night, i always think someone might be watching...... a few months ago we had a huge storm and i had the curtains open in our dining room because the french doors leak, and that night i was baking with the curtains open, well the neighbours ended up being robbed! and they were sneaking right over our street, so for about a month i always got the creeps thinking that they may have been watching me! 
and as for going outside by myself at night - no way! DF gets so annoyed at me cos i get scared hehe haha littlebug i do that too ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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