Palmerston North New Mums To Be
Printed From: OHbaby!
Category: General Chat
Forum Name: General Chat
Forum Description: For mums, dads, parents-to-be, grandparents, friends -- you name it! And you name the topic you want to chat about!
URL: https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=41412
Printed Date: 26 August 2025 at 6:23pm
Software Version: Web Wiz Forums 12.05 - http://www.webwizforums.com
Topic: Palmerston North New Mums To Be
Posted By: HelloYellow
Subject: Palmerston North New Mums To Be
Date Posted: 25 January 2012 at 2:08pm
|
Is there any Women who are pregnant with their first baby in Palmerston North?
Im 24 preg with my first baby due end of July. I moved to Palmy in December to live with my Partner, but because im originally from the south island( moved up in april last year), i have absolutely no friends here. I just know my partner, and it gets so incredibly lonely for me. So looking for PN mums to be, that i can relate to. Help me keep my sanity?!  -------------   
|
Replies:
Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 25 January 2012 at 4:24pm
| I'm a 26yr old mum to 2 boys in Palmy.. but sorry not preggy, and never to be again hehehe |
Posted By: Anna W.
Date Posted: 25 January 2012 at 4:31pm
|
Hi,
have you linked up with a midwife there yet? They should be able to tell you about ante-natal groups in the area, then also post natal support groups as well. You can make some great friendships that way - SO important to have that extra moral support, especially when your baby arrives. Good luck.  ------------- Tired parents? Unsettled young baby? Difficulties with feeding? http://blogaboutbaby.wordpress.com - Click here to get FREE tips and advice on my blog |
Posted By: HelloYellow
Date Posted: 25 January 2012 at 5:12pm
|
Hey kebakat, lol thats cool, im still looking for friends around here to help keep my sanity. I just thought someone who is in same boat as me, that is preg with first baby, id have more in common with. But then again having a friend whose gone through it already could be handy for advice etc
Anna, I do have a midwife, and have found out about next antenatal class but that doesnt start til may i think it was, and still humming and harring over whether to go or not. My sister went to one in Masterton last year and said it was useless... Think if i went it would be to make friends. but till classes start, how else am i to meet people here.... -------------
|
Posted By: T_Rex
Date Posted: 25 January 2012 at 6:47pm
|
If you are planning on breastfeeding, you could come along to an LLL meeting. There are some awesome mums in the palmy group and they are very welcoming. Pregant women are very welcome at the meetings to. There is one on monday at 10am at st davids church (its not a religious thing, just the church has a nice room to use). ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
|
Posted By: Anna W.
Date Posted: 25 January 2012 at 7:04pm
|
I don't know if Palmerston has a Parents Centre? I would think it does, so that's another place to check out. There's a very active one up here in Whangarei and it also runs ante natal classes. Also, have you thought about Plunket groups?
There's lots of help out there in the community - you just need to know about it. ------------- Tired parents? Unsettled young baby? Difficulties with feeding? http://blogaboutbaby.wordpress.com - Click here to get FREE tips and advice on my blog |
Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 25 January 2012 at 8:29pm
| hehe if palmy antenatal classes haven't changed since I did them then yeah they are pretty crap. You can meet lots of new mums through plunket once bubs is here. They hold coffee groups for mums with similar aged babies if your into the coffee group thing. They also have various parenting related courses so you could also meet some people that way. They have first aid, settling, feeding type courses/talks etc |
Posted By: Isabella
Date Posted: 25 January 2012 at 8:35pm
We did the Parents Centre course in Palmerston North. It was pretty terrible as far as the lessons go, and we had a HUGE group, but I think all but 3 of us still meet up for regular weekly coffee groups (bubs are 11-12months old). Only reason I dont is im back at work almost full-time 
To be honest, I havent managed to develop much of a friend circle around here - Im from the South Island as well (nelson/chch) and it seemed much friendlier down there? 
|
Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 26 January 2012 at 8:25am
|
There use to be regular ohb palmy meet ups which was a good way to meet new people but they haven't happened in ages. The "oldies" always use to meet up but it hasn't happened so much since most of us older ohbabiers have left. Could always organise something like that. mcd's is a good place for those with little ones otherwise someones house
|
Posted By: HelloYellow
Date Posted: 26 January 2012 at 10:20am
|
I think i might talk to the Partner about antenatal classes, if we were to go would be just to meet new people. Since clearly no one benefits from them. Am prob better off reading about everything and asking people for advice.
Isabella, pretty sure south islanders are far more friendlier... That sounds like a good idea Kebakat. We should organise something... -------------
|
Posted By: AandCsmum
Date Posted: 26 January 2012 at 12:17pm
|
I think personally for a first time Mum antenatel classes are good cause you do learn things you might not have found out but I found them especially good for DH. I haven't done any with subsequent kids as I still remember the first ones.
I was lucky enough to have a couple of Mum's in my due in thread with #2 so we keep in regular contact, don't have much to do with the ones I met with #1 but then again I did go back to work & time came very precious. Where abouts are you in PN Amy?? I can put you on to a couple of good playgroups. I've found them really good for getting out of the house after baby is born. Are you working? As Isabelle says PN is very difficult as a place to get into circles, I don't know why? People are weird here lol Maybe it's our weather lol ------------- Kel http://lilypie.com"> 
A = 01.02.04 & C = 16.01.09 & G = 30.03.12 |
Posted By: HelloYellow
Date Posted: 27 January 2012 at 10:26am
|
I initially thought id definately go to antenatal classes being first time mum. til my sister told me they dont really tell you what you really need to know. so now im humming and harring over it. I dont even know if ill be up for it since the classes i looked at go from 7pm-9pm and atm i struggle to stay up til 7pm to watch shorty st. lol.
Im kinda hoping i meet some cool ladies off this site, i was on the Huggies Forums til i realised its pretty much aussie ladies on there. Burst my bubble a bit lol. Im atm in Takaro.. but we hopefully are moving to hokowhitu in april when the lease on this place runs out. So cant wait. Do not feel safe here knowing that just over the road is Highbury... I seriously lye awake in the middle of the night thinking someone might break into the house. and am especially aware since the night someone stole diesel containers off my partners work truck while it was parked in our drive.. -------------
|
Posted By: MamaT
Date Posted: 27 January 2012 at 12:19pm
|
I was in Palmerston for most of my life, like Kel said, it can be hard for newcomers to meet people there for some reason, I think partly because it is such a transitional city, people are forever coming an going.
I did antenatal classes through parent centre, and although I learnt a lot more from reading books and through this forum, it was really good for DH and the coffee group I made out of it was fantastic, I Cherie's those ladies and we've all become great friends, even though most of us have since moved away. I would recommend doing the classes. Also, once baby arrives there are things like mainly music, storytime at the library etc etc which is also great for meeting other Mums. -------------  
|
Posted By: AandCsmum
Date Posted: 27 January 2012 at 7:36pm
|
All the churches have groups for parents with kids, they have some religious content but they're not pushy in anyway. As MamaT says the library has things on, there is a little library off Highbury ave, on Monrad park which is great & they have things there too. We walk over to that one every now and then.
The coffee group you get with antenatal classes is really good, especially for those first few months when you've just had bubs, you probably won't click with all the ladies but there should be a few that you get on with. When it comes time to do the classes, you won't be so tired in the evenings. ------------- Kel http://lilypie.com">
A = 01.02.04 & C = 16.01.09 & G = 30.03.12 |
Posted By: Isabella
Date Posted: 27 January 2012 at 9:49pm
|
Interested to know where in the SI you have moved up from? I lived in Nelson then Chch and moved to Hokowhitu, and to be completely honest I have never felt so unsafe anywhere, ever. Always felt like I was doing things to stop ourselves being robbed. Ive had my car broken into twice since being here, one of those times was at 8pm, while still light, with it parked 10m away from our front door, which was closed but with curtains open. Incredible.
Im not very fond of it here, we are moving to Feilding soon and I am hoping that will be a bit better. I miss the SI terribly and as soon as we can, were off. But yep our MW told us the only reason to go to the classes is to meet the people. They are based so heavily on the actual birth its just not funny, very little on the what to do when you get home with this wee creature! I know its important to know, but really - teach us danger signs (v impt), when to get to the hospital, a brief overview of all the drugs etc then move it on to the things we really need to know! Cos lets be honest, as soon as youre in hospital at the end of the day it will be the MW and/or obstetrician who calls the shots - we are just there to hang on for the ride
I am happy to try meet up sometime for a coffee but im working almost full-time these days so its getting a bit tricky for me to organise anything!
|
Posted By: HelloYellow
Date Posted: 28 January 2012 at 8:31am
|
Im initially from small town Temuka, grew up there, then moved to Chch when i was old enough and studied, lived there for a few years before moving back home because things werent working out, i had tried to move back to chch but never worked (house broken into, car stolen) so back home i went.
My parents moved up to Masterton sept 2010, so after id finished studying in Timaru, i moved up to live with my family. I quite like the north island, its nice, its just finding a safe place to live. Never know i might end up in cambridge (where my family has relocated) so my parents can see their 2nd grandchild grow up. But then ill miss my Niece growing up, shes only 4mths old. Yeah im not too worried bout what goes on at the birth, i have my MW for that, i want to know what i do when i get home. I felt so naive, asking my sister whose 2yrs younger than me, how to wrap a baby up so its swaddled. Because i have no idea. Im constantly asking her silly little questions but id rather be safe than sorry. At least i know how to put a nappy on, and dress baby! -------------
|
Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 28 January 2012 at 11:50am
|
No matter where you live in the country or where you live in a town theres going to be instances of robbery. It's just the world we live in. I think if you left fuel on the back of a ute in any part of the country if someone spots it at night its an easy target. Hokowhitu is a nice area to live in though :)
|
Posted By: HelloYellow
Date Posted: 28 January 2012 at 12:34pm
|
Yeah its just unfortunate that some people are lowlives.
The diesel was covered, and there were other containers that were the same fulled up with other substances, so you'd have to know to lift up the tarp and know what container contained the diesel. The thing is i spent half that night awake and going to toilet, thinking about whether someone would try steal something off the truck. But whats done is done. Still get frightened at night when im lying awake, as silly as it seems. -------------
|
Posted By: AandCsmum
Date Posted: 28 January 2012 at 3:30pm
|
Hmmm I was curious to see what antenatal meant, it means Before birth; during or relating to pregnancy. So that they are heavily weighted on the birth is very logical, they also do classes on after the birth, it's usually a full day one, I don't think it cost us anymore.
I have to disagee Isabell, you actually do call the shots regardless of where you are. They still have to ask your permission or your husbands permission before anything is done. I live on the edge of highbury, technically awapuni but post code lumps us in highbury. There are areas on hokowhitu you'd want to avoid as well. I think sometimes it goes more on the look of the street rather than the suburb. If you don't feel safe there though it's definitely time to move. Cross fingers you find a nicer place when you move in April. ------------- Kel http://lilypie.com">
A = 01.02.04 & C = 16.01.09 & G = 30.03.12 |
Posted By: T_Rex
Date Posted: 28 January 2012 at 8:18pm
|
I think antenatal classes are actually quite useful, at least mine were. I figure all the stuff with the baby, you figure out as you go along, and you can learn what it is you need to know for your particular baby as you need it.
But it's not like you can stop mid-labour to learn about your options for what next, so that stuff you need to know in advance. I certainly advocate being informed rather than letting your MW/OB call the shots, but it does depend on your birthing philosophy. I worried about not staying awake till 9 pm too, but actually it was no big deal. There were 14 couples in my class, and 6 of us still meet up regularly now, over 2 years later. I was new to the area at the time too, and it was a great way to meet new people. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
|
Posted By: Isabella
Date Posted: 28 January 2012 at 9:15pm
|
Its Isabella not isabelle and also, if you are having a medical emergency, sure they will ask your permission but they will go ahead and do whatever they need to to make sure your baby, and yourself, are healthy. I would like to know how many people on here get a birth that is 100% of what they "planned/expected". Things change, birthing is a dynamic process and mums only want their babies to be healthy.
Fair point on the "antenatal", but I thought it referred to the fact we were going to classes BEFORE we had the baby, not that the classes were based on events before we had the baby. And also, if that were the case then they should stop informing us right up to the point where labour begins or else they would be called "a bit of antenatal, mostly perinatal, and bugger all postnatal classes". Careful of asking Dr Google questions, the true definition of antenatal is "before labour". Perinatal is "during labour" and post natal is "after labour"... Anyway, just make sure you dont go around Crewe Cres - thats the area of Hokowhitu which is a bit dodgy
And CrazeegnaBeaMum I will PM you and we can maybe meet up sometime
|
Posted By: AandCsmum
Date Posted: 29 January 2012 at 10:18am
|
Sorry, was on laptop & it's an old hunker of a thing so a pain to scroll back up as you tend to lose things.
------------- Kel http://lilypie.com">
A = 01.02.04 & C = 16.01.09 & G = 30.03.12 |
Posted By: HelloYellow
Date Posted: 31 January 2012 at 8:41am
|
Anyone got any suggestions for Hobbies that wont cost me much? Im already painting pictures for babys room. But need something else as well. I get soo bored. -------------
|
Posted By: BecksT84
Date Posted: 31 January 2012 at 7:03pm
Heya, I'm in Palmy and a first time mum to be!  We're in Cloverlea, it's not too bad out here. Lived out at camp before we bought our house (DH is a soldier), and before that we lived in the South Island too, in Burnham (both originally from Taranaki though).
Just signed up for antenatal classes today, we're going through Mamaternity hopefully we get something out of it.------------- https://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
|
Posted By: AandCsmum
Date Posted: 31 January 2012 at 7:38pm
|
CrazeegnaBeaMum, your DH doesn't work for higgins does he? If so I don't blame you not feeling safe in your house, I wouldn't either. Not stalking lol was on way to the market on sunday when I saw a higgins vehicle. ------------- Kel http://lilypie.com">
A = 01.02.04 & C = 16.01.09 & G = 30.03.12 |
Posted By: HelloYellow
Date Posted: 31 January 2012 at 7:57pm
|
Hey Becks, Yay congratulations! And welcome :)
AandCsmum Haha oooh i have a stalker, lol youre dead on though (about where he works)so guess you know where i live. Glad you understand about how i dont feel safe here. -------------
|
Posted By: BecksT84
Date Posted: 31 January 2012 at 8:30pm
|
Did you say you're in Hokowhitu CBM? If you are near Crewe Cres in Hokowhitu then I don't blame you, my cousin lived on that street and crazy things happened. Like any city/town though, there's dodgy and good areas ------------- https://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
|
Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 01 February 2012 at 7:43am
|
lol Kel that does sound a bit like stalker behaviour
|
Posted By: HelloYellow
Date Posted: 01 February 2012 at 8:47am
|
Becks, Nah im in Takaro, but highbury is just over the road. Im on Botanical Road. I know all towns and cities have bad areas, but i just want to live in a area where i can feel safe leaving my window open at night. (for my cat who prefers to come and go as she pleases) -------------
|
Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 01 February 2012 at 12:11pm
| Hmmmm yeah I wouldn't wanna live on botanical road either |
Posted By: HelloYellow
Date Posted: 01 February 2012 at 12:42pm
|
Hopefully April rolls around quickly, so we can move to a better area. -------------
|
Posted By: BecksT84
Date Posted: 01 February 2012 at 5:11pm
|
Yeah Botanical Road is a bit iffy, plus it'd be too busy for me lol. ------------- https://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
|
Posted By: HelloYellow
Date Posted: 03 February 2012 at 3:40pm
|
Yeah i second that. -------------
|
Posted By: HelloYellow
Date Posted: 10 February 2012 at 9:26am
|
Hey hows everyone going?
Im great, had my midwife appointment on wednesday, heard babys heartbeat again, cant get enough of it! Booked my Anatomy scan for 14th march (my birthday!) and yes will find out the sex, my hunch is im having a girl. So my partner came to sudden realisation that we wont have enough money to move in april like we wanted. So we gonna take on the lease here for a further 6mths. By then baby will be here, and we wont need to stress about getting all the things we need to prepare for babys arrival. My best friend down south (chch) has just found out shes pregnant, she will be due 14th October, if my calculations are right. I originally asked her to be my support partner when im in labour.. but now i think its asking too much since she will be 6mths pregnant, but she still thinks she can make it up. And id feel bad if i said to her no she cant be there now. I kinda want my sister to be there, since she went through it all only last year in sept.. Hmmm -------------
|
Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 10 February 2012 at 10:18am
| At 6 months preggers your still feeling pretty good, in fact it's probably the best time! |
Posted By: BecksT84
Date Posted: 10 February 2012 at 6:35pm
|
All good here, got my anatomy scan booked for 8th March, I'm thinking it's a boy ------------- https://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
|
Posted By: HelloYellow
Date Posted: 10 February 2012 at 7:54pm
|
So you finding out the sex then Becks? -------------
|
Posted By: RachFizz
Date Posted: 10 February 2012 at 9:02pm
|
We're in a decent part of Hokowhitu, but just down the road is Crewe Cres so feel a bit anxious bout that sometimes. DH's car was broken into a while back and later stolen. So doesn't really matter what area you're in. We have family friends who live in Montgomery Tce who've had petrol siphoned out of their cars a few times. Aren't some people fantastic??
Anywho I'd be keen to come along to a meet up but maybe when I'm finally UTD so I don't feel like such a wannabe ------------- TTC#1 since Apr11 On hold for study! |
Posted By: RachFizz
Date Posted: 10 February 2012 at 9:06pm
|
Just scrolled up and read all the previous mentions of Crewe Cres. Lucky us lol.
I like to just wander round the esplanade. But then I'm a wanderer/daydreamer kind of person. The weather has been useless though and I've been exhausted so haven't been up to anything active lately. ------------- TTC#1 since Apr11 On hold for study! |
Posted By: HelloYellow
Date Posted: 11 February 2012 at 8:58am
|
How long have you been trying Rach? I wont brag that i got preg first time.... Okay just once lol.
Hmm so pretty much no where is safe... Im just grateful our place has an alarm. Not that we use it atm, but if need be its there. -------------
|
Posted By: BecksT84
Date Posted: 11 February 2012 at 5:52pm
|
Yep going to find out the sex :) unless the little toad crossed it's legs LOL!
Weather has been pooey eh Rach, nice today though bar the wind :) we took the dog for a nice walk not long ago. ------------- https://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
|
Posted By: RachFizz
Date Posted: 11 February 2012 at 11:40pm
|
Been trying officially for ten months. So I don't have it anywhere near as bad as some of the ladies in the TTC forum. I've been on this site since August '09 though- in the waiting to TTC area lol. I've known for a long time that this is what I wanted, but just weren't in a great position and DH wasn't ready. Thought when we did start trying it would happen quick because we're young, but not to be. I'm sure our little bundle can't be too far away.
First try? go you! ------------- TTC#1 since Apr11 On hold for study! |
Posted By: HelloYellow
Date Posted: 12 February 2012 at 8:25am
|
awww hopefully it happens for you soon then Rach.
I thought it would take me ages to fall pregnant since id been on the pill and injection for years. but i stopped my pill and a week later my wee baby was concieved. talk about luck. We werent really trying, but i had said i wanted a baby, and my partner even though we hadnt been together long, was all good with it, so we just went with it. we were estatic when the pregnancy test came back positive. I wouldve cried if it was negative, cuz i had all the symptoms. Oh yay Becks.. exciting. I seriously hope baby has legs open when we go for our scan, if not im gonna make her open them! Lol (fully think its a girl) Today is going to be another beautiful day yay, already nice and warm so thats a good thing. Hoping to get out and do something today. -------------
|
Posted By: Isabella
Date Posted: 12 February 2012 at 8:40pm
|
Haha - so funny, I used to live on Crewe, did for 3 and a half years! Its not so bad, got a pretty bad reputation though I will admit! We had our car broken into twice but then I dont think thats unusual in the whole of palmy. Maybe its something about shi**ing in your own backyard?
Most of the families are refugees there now, the underbelly is kinda being pushed out because of the affluence of the area. Every time there was a party loads of us would get onto noise control and have them shut down pretty quick (within reason of course)... Its more buxton pl that is the problem... |
Posted By: epictraveller
Date Posted: 12 February 2012 at 9:55pm
|
Just putting in my 2cents - we lived in Palmy for a couple of years, but are both originally from Dunedin. We found it really difficult to make friends, and in fact the only real friend I made was a workmate and then I met a lot of her friends. Its tough times, hopefully getting a group of you on here will make it that much easier! My friend had a baby a couple of years ago and is still good friends with those in her antenatal group.
On the car note - DH's car was broken into and mine was stolen, all in the space of about six months. Go figure!! Best of luck to you all. I hope to come back here soon and read about all your lovely ladies with bouncing happy babies :) ------------- #1  Angel babies April 2013, Nov 2013 IVF #1 Nov 2013-CP IVF #2 May 2014-BFN IVF #3 Feb 2015-BFN DS Jun 2015-BFN Oct 16 -Natural BFP! TTC #2 |
Posted By: HelloYellow
Date Posted: 23 February 2012 at 10:01am
|
Hey Girlies!
Any body interested in meeting up in the next few weeks? Im dying to get out of the house. So much so that im looking at applying for jobs at supermarket of maccas for 3 months. Let me know if you interested in a meet up. :) -------------
|
Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 23 February 2012 at 4:21pm
| I can but only really in the mornings (except monday) |
Posted By: HelloYellow
Date Posted: 24 February 2012 at 8:41am
|
Funny how this chat all of a sudden got quiet.
Well if anyone is keen to meet up for coffee in at The Plaza, Id be keen on a wednesday. And if we can get a group together all the better :) -------------
|