HELP!! need a bit of urgent advice...
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Topic: HELP!! need a bit of urgent advice...
Posted By: BaAsKa
Subject: HELP!! need a bit of urgent advice...
Date Posted: 05 June 2007 at 1:58pm
Sorry if this is too much info! but i just went to the toilet and had a little bit of red mucous!!!???? What is this!!!??? I then checked my cervix (i can actually still reach it!!! ) and it is very open i could get 3 fingers in!!! ...once again sorry TMI!!!....does this mean anything and should i be worried!!??
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Posted By: nuttymama
Date Posted: 05 June 2007 at 2:00pm
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I can't offer any advice other than to ring your midwife or healthline and ask their advice. ------------- Abigail 06/01/2005 Jayden 21/11/2001 Micheal 03/04/1997 |
Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 05 June 2007 at 2:00pm
| Sounds like a show. I'd just give ya midwife a call and let her know and she'll let you know what you need to do if anything. |
Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 05 June 2007 at 2:02pm
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i dont want to look all paranoid by ringing her but i guess i should....
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Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 05 June 2007 at 2:04pm
| They are use to all sorts of questions.. comes with their job.. don't worry about it! |
Posted By: ShellandBella
Date Posted: 05 June 2007 at 2:17pm
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I'd ring your midwife, sounds like a show...I think MW's are used to being rung all the time so don't worry about it! Let us know what happens... ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: AN E
Date Posted: 05 June 2007 at 2:29pm
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I'm with the others - ring her! At least it's not in the middle of the night.... ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Gwen_
Date Posted: 05 June 2007 at 2:35pm
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I agree with the others and ring her, hope everything os ok ------------- We're in America for 3 months with Mummy and Daddy! http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: Bubbaloo
Date Posted: 05 June 2007 at 2:45pm
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Sounds like a show to me but I would ring you midwife if you have any concerns. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  Was danni-chick Mum to James My Angel 28/07/08 |
Posted By: mamanee
Date Posted: 05 June 2007 at 3:01pm
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Ooo sounds like a show! Not that I can speak from personal experience though!
I think someone on here maybe RachandJack had her show a couple of weeks before anything eventuated? I could be wrong (sorry if this is wrong). Good luck and keep us posted!! 
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Posted By: miss
Date Posted: 05 June 2007 at 3:31pm
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It's worth getting checked, could be early labour and you want bubs to stick in there a little while yet (though it will be fine if he comes now, just will need a little more support).
Good luck, hope you have called the MW. -------------  
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Posted By: MyMinis
Date Posted: 05 June 2007 at 3:59pm
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omg you can reach your cervix man i cant even get my hand down there easily these days. I actually wouldnt know where to search lol.
hmm sounds liek a show. but if your cervix is open maybe you should talk to your midwife, have you been having contractions?? ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 05 June 2007 at 3:59pm
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It doesn't sound like anything to be worried about
Well that's unless you don't want your bubs to be born early
It sounds like you have had a show and are 3cm dilated -------------  |
Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 05 June 2007 at 4:22pm
Well i rung the MW and she quized me a fair bit and wanted me to come in for a check up but as it is 40 minutes away i asked what she really thought it is and she said that it doesnt seem like enough to be a show (it was only about a 10cnt size ammount and she thought that it was possibly just an irritation of the cervix..she asked if i had had sex in the last 24 hours which i had a good laugh at and so did she considering my husband is more cripple than i am right now! lol so NO! ...anyway she said to keep an eye on it and if there was more within an hour then to go straight in otherwise she will ring tonight to see how things are and come and see me if i need her to.
I didnt tell her about checking my cervix incase she growled me for not keeping my fingers out!  but i am very curious to know why it is so open!!!???
I havnt had any contractions that i have noted lately..i had severe back pain for the past few days but figured that i had just pulled a muscle while bathing Bay and it seems to be getting better! plus i cant tell because i have been getting cramps in my lower tummy for the past week and have put it down to the pelvic displasia as it only hurts at night in conjuction with my pelvis pain. Iv been having a lot of tightening but figure it is just BH. Iv also had alot of pressure down there!! and he definately feels like hes dropped down! To be honest im not too worried if he comes early now because MW says he is far enough along to do perfectly well and he is a big boy as it is anyway but i would like him to stay in for another 2 weeksish!! I got a huge growling from DH after i had spoken to the MW as she rung me on his cell phone instead of mine so he was wondering what it was about!!..hes just been freaking out about everything lately so i thought i wouldnt tell him unless i had to go in whoopsy!!
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Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 05 June 2007 at 4:26pm
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yep as the others have said, sounds like a show to me. have you rung the mw yet? that's what they are there for, to reassure you ------------- http://www.alternatickers.com"> 
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Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 05 June 2007 at 4:32pm
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Baysmum wrote:Posted By: MyMinis
Date Posted: 05 June 2007 at 4:35pm
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how is his hand? is he feeling any better? i still cant believe you can reach that far to feel your cervix lol. im shocked. ya never know bubs might be making an early exit. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: miss
Date Posted: 05 June 2007 at 4:55pm
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Hmmm. to be honest, back pain, cramping and BH together sounds like contractions to me - just ones that you don't really notice! Of course I am going on experiences of others here that I have heard or read. Just check with Dh that he is happy to help you birth at home if you aren't gonna be checked! lol! -------------
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Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 05 June 2007 at 5:26pm
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LOL! miss DH can barely look after himself at the moment!! cos he cut his thumb and half his hand off with a skillsaw last saturday!!! so i cant see him being much help!!
Haleighsmum - DH is doing alot better than when he first did it! he has to go for a check on tuesday and to get the cast changed cos the swelling has gone down so now it hurts when the cast shifts and slides around!! hehe yup im supprised i can still reach my cervix but i just reach around my big bump! and im a flezy lexy! lol I got in trouble at the begining of my pregnancy from MW for not keeping my fingers out whenever i would freak out with a cramp! (was just checking! ) and iv managed to keep them out of that region until now when i saw the blood and freaked!! but im sure shel growl me again!
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Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 05 June 2007 at 5:36pm
| heres another question - If i was really in labour then wouldnt Astin stop moving!!???? I think i read somewhere that babies become very still and calm when you go into labour and leading up to it but Astin is still moving around! not as much as usual but i figure that he is kinda running out of room in there so that was why???..... |
Posted By: peanut butter
Date Posted: 05 June 2007 at 6:04pm
I'm also impressed about reaching your cervix but cant say I have tried....maybe it always feels like that? Especially after having a bubs already? Just guessing here as I have NO idea. hehehe, cant wait till you have to fess up to that one.
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Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 05 June 2007 at 6:12pm
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lol! i guess i may have to fess up to MW! lol but not looking forward to it on top of being totally embarrassed to tell her!!
I dont think it was from having had a bubs before because when i checked it at the begining of pregnancy it was tightly shut! (sorry way TMI!!  ). I kinda know my cervix well after using it for charting when trying for a bubs!
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Posted By: peanut butter
Date Posted: 05 June 2007 at 6:17pm
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Man, theres a whole part to my body I havent taken enough notice of Not sure if now is the time to start though....but you have got me sooooooo curious....however I wouldnt want to find anything I dont know about so might leave well enough alone.
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Posted By: Glow
Date Posted: 05 June 2007 at 6:17pm
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hehe you dont have to tell your m/w - i'm sure we can all keep that a secret for you... really jealous by the way
But hope all goes well YKWIM ------------- Mummy of Two Boys B: 2004 K: 2007 |
Posted By: bookwyrm
Date Posted: 05 June 2007 at 6:38pm
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have you called your MW yet???
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Posted By: miss
Date Posted: 05 June 2007 at 6:40pm
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OMG - your poor DH! taht is awful.
As to the moving - it seems to be different for eveyone. Some bubs go quiet in labour, others squirm right to the last second. -------------
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Posted By: Candkids
Date Posted: 05 June 2007 at 7:01pm
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i got in trouble by my mw for the cervix thing after my prem labour scare lol well the doc said it was unusually soft and squishy so i got curious and wanted to see what she ment lol ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  DD 10.5yrs DS 6yrs DS 11mths 5 little angles watching from above |
Posted By: MyBelly
Date Posted: 05 June 2007 at 7:02pm
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i agree nzpiper! i wouldnt know what to feel let alone how to tell whats normal!!
Lol. Hope u and DH are ok Baysmum and that baby stays put for a wee while longer!! |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 05 June 2007 at 7:38pm
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Hmmm as curious as you are (and I would be also), try to not irritate up there at least for another week, okay?
Often the first 1-2cm do themselves without contractions for babies after #1, so it could just be that, but we may never know lol. If you get any contractions this week, and you're 40 minutes away from hospital, leave immediately! There is a chance that it was a show and a semi-open cervix. Oh and the baby settling before labour? I had that twice, about 3 days before labour, both times I was a bit worried because I got hardly any movements in a day. ------------- |
Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 05 June 2007 at 7:46pm
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Not trying to worry you, Amber, but Xavier didn't stop wriggling until I was in active labour and he was being squeezed by almost continous contractions! And then he stopped a couple of millimeters from crowning and didn't come down the last bit for 30 minutes... I was not impressed. ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: MyMinis
Date Posted: 05 June 2007 at 7:59pm
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yeah i heard not all babies stop moving in labour.
you must have a ncie wee bump my arm wouldnt stretch that far hehe i struggle jsut getting dressed lol. glad to hear his arms slowly getting better. hope it heals well for him. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 05 June 2007 at 8:35pm
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Well my MW rung and said that she wants to see me first thing in the morning so im making a trip over after Bay goes to school. She wanted me to come in tonight but im a stubborn arse! and dont really want to be making the trip with my toddler and handless hubby! lol i figure that Astin is ok and MW isnt too concerned otherwise i would rush over! but hes still moving about...he has the hiccups right now! ... She said as long as hes moving and im not having contractions or any more bleeding then we will be fine till the morning!.
The only thing im worried about is if he stops moving and theres something wrong with him but for now he seems fine....i know i know!! im stubborn!! i just think i maybe have over reacted!! and its simply just BH plus pelvic pain plus an irritated cervix plus its probably slightly open from Bay as someone had mentioned
hehe monique! nop i have a HUGE!! bump!! i must just have long arms!! and i seem to be able to contort down far to reach! lol |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 05 June 2007 at 8:39pm
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It will probably be nice to get an extra lot of heartbeat and all that stuff in the morning anyway. Enjoy the pampering lol ------------- |
Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 05 June 2007 at 8:41pm
Hhhhmmmm this reminds me of something my MW said last week! - i said something about getting an epidural and she said "well thats if you have time for 1!" to which i said "WHAT!!??? what do you mean??!!" and she said "well i have a feeling from your history and the way your pelvis is and the way bubs is that he may just fly out!"...AAARRRGGGHHHH!!! WTF!!! i hope not!!
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 05 June 2007 at 9:10pm
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I'd *love* a birth like that! Well, that's so long as it's not so fast that I go into shock or anything lol. ------------- |
Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 05 June 2007 at 9:20pm
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yeah all the stories iv heard of fast births have resulted in mummy going into shock plus i have to travel to hospital! plus i hear that fast births tend to be more painful and intense!!! ...eekk!!! i just want another 1 like Bay - 8 hours from induction to baby in arms and epidural through the majority of it!
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Posted By: MyMinis
Date Posted: 05 June 2007 at 11:00pm
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man i wouldnt mind this baby to fly out lol.
8hrs is fast to me hehe. my mw reacons that second time round its faster, so said mine could be halved, oh do i hope thats true lol. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: peanut butter
Date Posted: 06 June 2007 at 7:58am
| Howe are you today baysmum? |
Posted By: MyBelly
Date Posted: 06 June 2007 at 11:33am
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So how did you MW appointment go baysmum?
Baby staying put for a while yet?? |
Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 06 June 2007 at 2:03pm
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HI! well it seems that Astin does indeed want to make an early apearance!! I had contractions last night for half the night and am 2 cms dialated and have protein and blood in my urine but MW and specialist dont want to stop him from comming so im home now and if it stops then thats good and if it carries on then we at least know that he is fine thanks to having been monitored all morning!! but my MW still wants me to go in if my contractions start up again!
Aparently this is a result of post traumatic stress from DHs accident last saturday which is when all my probs started. She said that he is a very big boy and seems to be a few weeks ahead of my dates anyway so if anything he just may need a little boost to breath when hes born....SO NOW WE SIT AND WAIT! lol
It could stop altogether anyway and i may end up going overdue! lol |
Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 06 June 2007 at 2:05pm
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OH and i fessed up to MW about doing a cervix check! lol at first she laughed and then she growled! lol and told me to keep my fingers out now as too much fingering may cause him to come real fast! and we kinda dont want to help things along! lol
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Posted By: Bubbaloo
Date Posted: 06 June 2007 at 2:06pm
Ohh good luck baysmum how exciting keep us posted ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> Was danni-chick Mum to James My Angel 28/07/08 |
Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 06 June 2007 at 2:08pm
| will do but im kinda thinking that it may stop altogether and there will be no news for 6 or more weeks! lol |
Posted By: ShellandBella
Date Posted: 06 June 2007 at 2:09pm
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Oooh, I've been waiting to hear how it went with MW! It sounds like either way, its not too big a thing, I'm sure you wouldn't mind seeing Astin earlier anyway . Good to know he is a good size and that they are not too worried if he comes early. Looks like you might be a June mummy after all!
Are you still having contractions, Amber?? The waiting must be horrible. Oh well, keep us updated on your progress! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 06 June 2007 at 2:17pm
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Just seem to be getting little niggles every so often and didnt really get any when i was being monitored so they are pretty irregular!.
Last night they were quite sore and i remember laying there thinking about how they so reminded me of when i was having Bailey and that i kinda just decided that i dont want to do it again! lol....TO LATE!!!...im loving the man/woman who invented the epidural!! that eased my worry! lol
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Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 06 June 2007 at 2:20pm
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Ooo I've been checking for an update!
Good luck for the next little while Amber... here's hoping that what you want happens (whether it's a early arrival or everything stopping until later). ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 06 June 2007 at 2:23pm
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I kinda want him to come now so i can see him and be comfortable again! (not big fat whale!) but then on the other hand i worry that he wont BF properly etc and also it may be slightly bad timing with DH and his bung hand home!
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 06 June 2007 at 3:58pm
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Good to hear things are OK with you Amber. I went into a little bit of shock after having Josh so I know what that feels like. I didn't have him all that fast but after I had him and after the shower I was sitting there shaking andI couldn't stop it. Had some food it increase my blood sugars and then settled down. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: nuttymama
Date Posted: 06 June 2007 at 4:24pm
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Good luck I shall watch this post with anticipation!!!
LMAO at you telling your midwife what you had done! ------------- Abigail 06/01/2005 Jayden 21/11/2001 Micheal 03/04/1997 |
Posted By: MyBelly
Date Posted: 06 June 2007 at 5:13pm
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Oh wow!! im soooooo excited for you!
Im glad he will be ok either way, if he comes now or later. it must be very exciting to know your so close to meeting him!! much luv Laura 
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Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 06 June 2007 at 6:15pm
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Thanks ladies i will keep you posted BUT going by my bubs cheeky personality so far hes probably just teasing and now we are going to have to wait alot longer! lol
Although now im getting more eager! so i may try some *cuddles*..my MW never told me not to!
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Posted By: MyBelly
Date Posted: 06 June 2007 at 6:48pm
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hehe, imagine if you have to tell your mw u got "cuddles" she growled when she found out u went exploring, she might put you into solitary confignment if she find out your getting cuddles!! hehe.
I would be going for cuddles to though i think! Good luck 
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Posted By: Candkids
Date Posted: 06 June 2007 at 7:02pm
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is your midwife in whakatane or rotorua? ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> DD 10.5yrs DS 6yrs DS 11mths 5 little angles watching from above |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 06 June 2007 at 7:39pm
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Haha you'll get yourself in big trouble, girl! I'm a little concerned that you might have given yourself a swish around while poking around - either before the suspected partial show or afterwards. Keep those waters intact! ------------- |
Posted By: miss
Date Posted: 07 June 2007 at 8:52am
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I thought it sounded like things were happening down there! At elast if they aren't worried, you won't be either. I do agree with you that maybe a couple of weeks more would be better for feeding, breathing and hubby though - so no more fiddling! -------------
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Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 07 June 2007 at 11:49am
Ouuu Goodluck Amber. It seem so close now ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 08 June 2007 at 10:46am
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Hi ladies!
Still nothing here just cramps all day yesterday..and i say cramps cos they were no where near as stong as the contractions i had the other day but other than that nothing much to report!. Im now on crutches for my pelvic displacier thingy too. hehe mybelly - my MW went to leave the room for a sec the other day when i was getting monitored and it was just me and DH and she said "Can i trust you both to behave yourselves while im gone!!?" lol
Catrad - my MW is in Whakatane her name is Sue Finch. I think im just going to be in limbo for a while now just having random pains and not much else!!
Hes moved down heaps more now! and its sooooooooo uncomfortable to walk and sit cos it feels like hes right there! (sorry TMI!!)
Anyway if anything happens then KELLZ will throw up a post for Astin with some piccys or keep you all posted in here if everything is taking ages
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 08 June 2007 at 11:47am
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On crutches?! Okay Astin just hang in there a little longer okay? ------------- |
Posted By: KH25
Date Posted: 08 June 2007 at 4:04pm
Sorry to hear things have been a bit difficult Amber! But I agree with the others - just a few more weeks will make all the difference!! It certainly isn't a happy time when you have a prem bub and have to go home without him/her  ------------- Kelly, mum to DD, 19Jun06 (26wks 1lb15oz) DS1, 24Oct10 (32wks 4lb11oz) and DS2, 31Dec11 (32wks, 4lb11) http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Rackhell
Date Posted: 08 June 2007 at 5:14pm
| Hope that your little one hangs in there a bit longer. And I love the sound of your midwife ... :) |
Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 08 June 2007 at 6:41pm
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yeah crutches so i dont put any pressure on my pelvis cos its apparently pretty severe!!??
I certainly dont want to be going home without Astin
hehe i do love my MW shes really hard to get over here cos everyone wants her and i only just got in!! she was only taking on one more lady for the year and only had a spot in july!
I havnt had any pains today except for this extremely uncomfortable movement that Astin is doing!! not sure whats going on and its real hard to describe!? but its sooooooo uncomfortable!!!!!
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 08 June 2007 at 7:59pm
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Goodness! I haven't heard of that crutches thing before. The weird thing is that being on crutches a lot can tighten your abdo muscles (...and your arm muscles and your shoulder muscles and your back muscles and your leg muscles.... ) ------------- |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 08 June 2007 at 8:06pm
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I was on crutches when I was pregnant with Maya coz I had SPD. Didn't get it so bad with the gremlins.
Hang on in there wee Astin, your poor Mummy has had enough of a hard time over the past few weeks, you just stay put, settle down and keep growing! Thinking of you Amber! ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 08 June 2007 at 10:48pm
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I had the same sort of thing with Jack, had a show at 35 weeks with some cramping and bled for about a week. Nothing came of it and Jack was born one day early so it might not mean nothing at all. My midwife never told me not to have special cuddles I think she even encouraged it.
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Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 09 June 2007 at 4:58pm
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yeah i just have a feeling that hes just going to make me suffer for the next few weeks! lol
hehe Emma i have been naughty though and havnt really used the crutches! just all the body stockings and straps! i kind of need the crutches the most in the middle of the night for toilet trips but i find it more of a struggle trying to sort them out half a sleep so just end up flagging them!
Im apparently 2 cms dialated already (plus i can vouch for that with my wandering fingers! lol ) but my MW said that i can possibly stay like that for a few weeks yet!!
I went for a walk this afternoon and man did that bring on some uncomfortable cramps!!! i almost had to stop!! but i didnt!!
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