April 2010 babies!

  Lulu. Hope you have some support where you are. It must be so hard being so far being so far from home at a time like this. And so sucky that the wonam at your scan didn't let you know what was going on.ust have been a horrible wait.

Lulu. It must be so hard being away from home.

Agree everyone with toddlers. I feel like poor Ruby is neglected. When I get home from work I am half dead and just want to lie on the couch. She has just started throwing wee tantrums too which is making it more tiring.

Can someone please change my due date to 13 April (as luck would have it exactly one day before I have been at my job for a year!)

I went to midwife last night and it was more uneventful than the first appointment. She said they cant listen to heartbeat until after 12 weeks, so wont hear that until next time which was disappointing. Got form for next scan which I have booked for Friday week. Yes, Penelope is lovely, very easy to get on with! Do you know she has 5 sons, poor lady! haha. At least your DH has met her, mine has been working late both times I have been to see her but at least he will be at the next scan and was at the first one. I took my daughter with me last night so it was disappointing she couldnt hear the heart beat. Oh well, next time hey! Was stoked I had not put on any weight though! Gym and running must still be paying off considering the amount of times I have had "hot chips" in the past few months! haha

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Have you booked into ante natal yet O'Hanlon? I know the Parents Centre at Highland Park are having sessions but they have not set the dates for next year. I was offered a course in November but that is far too early. They said they are doing another one some time in Febr but didnt know exact dates yet. If you know of another place to do them near Howick/Pakuranga, let me know.
Thanks

I forgot to ask her, cause at the original first appointment I said I didnt want to do them but have changed my mind. If you could give me the info that would be great. thanks O'hanlon!

Hi all...

Sorry I haven't been posting much lately... between the fatigue and running after my two tornados... it's been pretty full-on. Though thankfully Zamara is at preschool 3 days a week now so on some days I can have a nap when Kate does

Had my 12w scan on Tuesday. Saw a lovely little heart beating and bubs was measuring 12w5d ... so between 'my' dates and LMP dates. I don't think we're officially moving the EDD though, it's close enough.

Anyway, the sonographer said she "wasn't completely happy with the neck measurement" so she referred the films to the senior radiologist... who then called me into her office to say that the nuchal measurement is very high (11mm) which gives me a 1:4 chance of a baby with a choromosome disorder. She said she doesn't think it's Downs but something more serious, and suspects Turner Syndrome. In any case she said to be prepared that this pregnancy probably wouldn't go full term, and it's likely my bubs will die in utero. I'm being referred to the hospital for another scan and more in depth testing (CVS or amnio) to see what exactly is wrong. Midwife went over the report with me (on the phone) and said that there's actually several very serious things wrong with baby as well as the nuchal measurement, so not to get my hopes up because as well as the adjusted choromosome risk there's several other things to contend with, including the fact that part of the stomach looks to be outside the body.

Soooo.... right now we're playing the waiting game, as we don't officially *know* anything (everything they've said now is an educated guess) and we won't even get a second opinion until Monday at the earliest.... and of course results from further tests will take longer still.

I've had a previous MC before, and it totally sucks, but I figured my body knew what it was doing and shedding a baby that wouldn't live.   To be still growing a baby that to a layperson looks to be doing fine (strong heartbeat, moving heaps, etc) and still won't live is really a mind trip. I'm pregnant but grieving at the same time, and just in total uncertainty.

KiwiWonder - that is a lot to deal with you, thinking of you all

Kathryn - I saw my MW yesterday and she tried to listen to the heartbeat and couldn't find it. I know it is because it is just too early but in many ways I wish she hadn't tried 'cos now it gives me something else to worry about! Roll on the 12 week scan

Caro07 - i suppose i should rest at ease then bec if my midwife did that and couldnt find it then i prob would be feeling the same as you. Im sure its all fine though, just too early to detect it. My midwife said the foetus wasnt big enough to be able to hear it, ie the heartbeat prob not strong enough, so thats all it will be, but can understand what you are saying! We all think once we hit 12 weeks all will be fine, but unfortunately it appears that isnt the case... what is meant to be is meant to be I suppose as harsh as that sounds! Chin up, all will be fine.

Well I won't get too excited for my midwife appointment tomorrow in case they don't hear anything either..!!

How distressing for you KiwiWonder that they leave you in a state of "not knowing anything". I hope that you get some answers quickly.

Feeling very blah today and might head home after I have done the reception lunch break.