Have you appointed a guardian for your child?
What can you do to make sure your kids are looked after if you're no longer around? We look at what's involved in appointing …
Pay attention to your pelvic floor!
You've been told you should do pelvic-floor exercises, but why are they so important? And how do you know if you're doing …
Two sides: swearing in front of children...do you, or not?
Does swearing in front of our kids teach them to use 'bad' language, or does vilifying swear words only increase their …
Fear and loathing in fatherhood
What happens when you can’t bring home the bacon? Sam Cummins examines the role of the provider. There’s a wide range of …
Our dad columnist discusses the good, the bad...and the ugly, of babies
It's true, your baby really is one of a kind. But what makes them the way they are? Sam Cummins discusses the good, the bad, …
So you're going to be a dad?
Colin Gruetzmacher’s honest reflections on the thrills and spills that are part of becoming a father. So you’re gonna be a …
Let's hear it for the boys!
Dad Matters columnist Sam Cummins sings the praises of sons. Be proud of your boy! I’ve got three brothers, three sons and …
A different beat: creating that daddy-baby bond
Colin Gruetzmacher frets about how best to bond with his son. There is something really special about dads sharing their …
The best gift a dad can give
Colin Gruetzmacher awaits the imminent arrival of his third child, and realises his presence is the best gift he can offer …
Healthy night time snacks for pregnant or breastfeeding mamas
Being pregnant, or breastfeeding can bring on new levels of appetite. Fueling your body with the right nutrients is …
Food fighters - Eat these immunity boosting foods to fight Covid-19 and the cold season
Dietician and nutritionist Claudia Vavasour shares how to build your viral immunity with these nine wholefoods. Good …
What really happens when you listen to your kids?
Child and adolescent therapist Dr Anna Martin shares her successful methods for conflict-free child discipline. There’s a …
Lockdowns, silver linings & life lessons
Carly Thomson talks to Jo Batts, a family coach from Parenting Place, about lockdown’s silver linings and life …
Practical tips for supporting children's mental health
The rates of mental illness in our children may not be as bad as the media would have us believe, writes psychologist …
Eight things you can do that mean the world to your child
1. HUGS AND KISSES: Affection and love is so important for a child's emotional and spiritual development helping them feel …
We chat to the author of a book that celebrates kisses!
Imagine how many kisses a child receives over the course of their childhood? Kiwi author Maura Finn's book celebrates …
What I learned about parenting from organic gardening
Mother nature is a marvellous teacher if we take the time to become acquainted with her, explains Gretchen Carroll. As a …
5 simple rituals that make a world of difference to your day
Motherhood is a wonderful experience. It’s also exhausting, relentlessly demanding, and at times overwhelming – especially …
NZ Photographer shares her tips on capturing your newborn
There's nothing like those first weeks at home with a new baby. While we may not be able to make time stand still, we can …
How adding a baby can affect your relationship: 4 couples share their stories
We asked four Kiwi couples to tell us their stories about how babies affected their relationships and how they worked …
Are you going to have a second child? Or happy with one?
If you're a parent of one child, you may be feeling the pressure to start working on Baby Number Two. But what if you want to stop at one? Is having an only child really as sad and lonely as people like to tell us it is? Maree McNulty …
Psychologist explains how to help a child deal with grief
It's one of the most difficult conversations you'll ever have with your child - telling them about the loss of a loved one, whether through death, divorce, or a change in life circumstances. Most of the time, 'going away' is followed by 'coming …
Things I won't regret doing as a parent
Parents are infamous for self-condemnation. It’s time for some back-patting instead. Mother-of-three Pippa Henderson reflects on the things she’s pretty sure she got right. Investing in a good buggy We chose a red phil&teds sports buggy for our …
Things I'd like my kids to see their mum doing
Everything changes when you take on the title of 'mum'. Suddenly, you’re responsible for the wellbeing of a new little person. But those responsibilities extend further than just day-to-day care and welfare. Your approach to life and the examples …
How to have good conversations with your pre-schooler
Trying to find out what your toddler is really thinking can be difficult. Dr Melanie Woodfield explains some simple strategies that you can use to open up the lines of communication. Having a real conversation with a child of any age can be a very …
How much time should we spend interacting with our toddlers?
Modern parents are constantly pressured by expectations placed on early childhood learning. How much time should we spend interacting with our toddlers? Are our children smothered by too much attention? Angela Frieswyk looks for answers. Exhausted …
Parenting through separation
When parents separate, it can be especially difficult for children. Psychologist Pauline Ogilvy explains how communication can help to make the transition as stress-free as possible. Separation is a turbulent time for adults and children. Not only …
Are smart phones the new blankies?
Miriam McCaleb wonders if our devices have become quick-fix comforters. For a while, I’ve been running around saying “Smart phones are the new smoking”. But it has just occurred to me - today! - that Smart Phones fulfill different functions for …
Meet some mums who are riding the 'two under two' rollercoaster
While preparing for what life will be like with two babies under the age of two, Lucy Slight talks to two Kiwi mums who are currently riding the rollercoaster. When my daughter was just a few weeks old I remember saying to my husband, “We’re one …
Mary had a little lamb - do kids need a pet?
Animals, particularly the small and furry kind, fascinate children. As soon as kids can talk, they're clamouring to bring home a cute baby rabbit or woolly lamb from the latest farm visit. But the question for all parents is how much extra work and …
Recalibrate your stress levels
Parents with young families often find their stress levels rise hugely over the holiday period. Kids are tired, routines are out-of-kilter, parents are busy and holidays can actually be a time that many parents start to dread! In this extract from …
Journalling - tips & ideas
Use the power of writing to record your memories of the past and dreams for the future. The blank page There’s something eternally optimistic about opening a brand-new notebook or journal. There’s the smell of it, the blankness of it, the …
10 amazing things my partner did for me after baby was born
As parents we often read stories about the wonderful prince charming, the brave knight in shining armour or the superheroes who saved the day. But what about the superheroes in our own home? Here are some of the wonderful things my brave husband did …
An education: five tips for parents who are studying
‘An investment in knowledge pays the best interest’ - Benjamin Franklin. Getting an education, or extending your eductation, is rarely something you’ll regret, but when you’re a parent the commitment to study comes with a huge list of …
How to really help a new parent
You’ve got to know to understand. But unless you’re a parent yourself it can be difficult to decipher what a new parent actually needs. Pippa Henderson serves up some food for thought. Space and support New parents need oodles of both, which can …
How parenting is like the Olympics
Parenting can be a little like the Olympics, if you think about it. Christine Stride finds similarities between the different events and life with little ones. Spending all day at home looking after the kids can be a bit of a marathon. Attempting …
Five tips to give your newborn the best start in life
'All you need is love’ – so goes the song, but we all know that caring for and providing for a newborn requires a lot of practical stuff too. Here are five things you can do that could set your baby up for life. 1) Build your …
Ten things your new babysitter needs to know
Whether it’s for work or play, sometimes you need a break from your house and kids, and a paid babysitter is often the only way to make this happen. If you’re new to leaving a babysitter in charge, this can be nerve-wracking for you and a little …
Why women need more sleep than men
At last, there’s science behind something that women have probably always known: a study has shown that the female brain works harder than a male’s! But wait, here’s the best part: because of that, women, especially mothers, need around 20 minutes …
Weird things mums do when we're sleep-deprived
Have you ever poured milk onto your toast? Put your phone in the fridge? Decided to bake bread in the middle of the night? Walked into a room then wondered why you were there? Chances are, you've got a new baby! Christine Stride examines the …
How to ask other people to look after your kids
Why do we feel uncomfortable asking others to help with our kids? Blogger Rebekah Hoeft shares her strategies for what works best when asking for help. There’s an odd stigma attached to parents leaving their children with other people, which …
How my parents entertain my baby (but it's really for them)
Philippa Wintle suspects that her parents enjoy babysitting games more than her baby does. I looked forward to, but also dreaded, my maternity leave. I’m not naturally maternal, and generally find other people’s kids challenging. That has changed …
10 things no one tells you about being a parent
We love our kids to bits but there’s no denying they're the gateway to a life less stylish. Here are some of the lesser known outcomes of raising kids: 🍪 1. You’ll gain five kilos from eating leftover fish fingers and the Goody Gumdrop ice-cream …
5 ways parenting has changed my reactions
Mum Fiona Roberton shares five ways she reacts to things now as a parent, as opposed to when she was child-free! I have lowered my standards As a mother I have had food thrown at me, been spewed on, and regularly get toothpaste on my clothes as my …
Parenting humour
Parenting is beautiful, tough, gorgeous, messy… and sometimes unpredictable. We’re sharing our parenting moments in memes. Come and have a giggle with us! …
How to help your child feel understood
Steps to help you communicate understanding to your child to help her navigate negative feelings. The key to helping your child feel understood is to acknowledge his feelings. Follow these steps to get more in tune with your child: Label the …
Does your child have nature deficit disorder?
Many children are missing out on getting in touch with nature and the consequences could be dire for the rest of us, finds Rochelle Gillespie. Before we get any further I want you to take a moment to think about a time in your childhood when you …
Tips for moving house
Moving house is a mission. Moving house when you have small children can seem like Mission Impossible! But with the right preparation, a well thought out action plan, and some deep breaths - it can be done! Here are our top tips based on the …
Which personality traits does your baby show?
The key to a harmonious home life is recognising individual personalities and parenting accordingly. Allison Mooney looks at four common traits in babies and pre-schoolers. Watch children playing and it takes only minutes to see their individual …
Korero Maori Tamariki Ma
Give your little kiwis an introduction to Te Reo Māori with basic greetings and vocab that can be easily incorporated into daily life. Not only is being exposed to more than one language great for cognitive development, but using Te Reo honours our …
My traumatic miracle
Bronwyn Bay's powerful story of a shocking but life-changing experience. It was a stunning, crisp winter day in May 2013. There wasn’t a cloud in the sky and yet a storm raged inside of me. I was in the depths of post natal depression where I …
Are all your ducks in a row?
Leaving behind dependant loved ones is not something we like to talk about, but planning for the unforeseen means you can relax and enjoy today. Most of us expect to live well into retirement but sadly a surprising number don’t make it. In 2013 …
The make up debate
DEBATE:Should we allow our kids a dash of lippy and blusher for fun, or is it really the thin end of the wedge? Liz Breslin and Laura Williamson take sides. Down with make-up By Laura Williamson I hate to be one of those "when I was young" …
Birthday parties: big, small or not at all?
All partied out by Liz BreslinI'm all for kids feeling special on their special days. And a birthday is pretty much the only day that is all about you (unless your mother was inconsiderate enough to give birth to twins, as I was). But I'm not sure …
10 ways for calmer days
Parenting young children can feel a lot like you’re constantly juggling, running late or looking for lost socks. Try some - or all - of our life hacks, simple ideas to simplify life. 1. Make the bed as soon as you get up. Sorry for being bossy, …
The first time I took my baby to daycare
One hot summer’s day, after an excruciatingly long episode of standing at the end of my driveway opening and closing my letterbox, to my baby's delight, I was happy in my decision to enrol him in daycare. My letterbox had become a source of intense …
Making memories: things your kids will remember forever
The best memories are often just simple family moments, when you were together sharing a joke, an activity, a hug. Here's some inspiration for creating beautiful memories for your children. Start some family traditions Kids love having something …
Sharenting: five popular beliefs on the modern family explained
Research by Facebook has revealed some interesting perceptions that modern parents have about their roles. Millennial dads are best at giving themselves ‘me time’; overall, dads reckon they do more than mums give them credit for; people don’t …
7 hilarious pie charts for parents with toddlers
Have a giggle at these funny parenting charts we collated - and see if you agree with their statistics! …
6 things I learned about parenting from taking my kids to preschool
Starting kindy or preschool is one of the harder transitions for kids - and parents - to make. But sending your little hangout buddy off to kindy for the first time can reveal some poignant truths about ourselves, and our little ones. Hannah Tolich …
What not to say to working mums
Mums everywhere will know that going back to work after kids is one of the hardest choices you’ll ever make. For many women, it’s not a matter of “Will I?” but, “When will I?”, and even then the timing can be completely out of your hands. Hello, …
The key to raising a confident & self-assured kid
Showing your child unconditional love is the key to raising a confident, self-assured individual, explains Angela Smith. Children naturally want to play, and it doesn't take much to elicit smiles on their faces. They remind us to live in the moment …
Grandparenting: the Do's and Dont's
Grandma Janice Marriott shares her words of wisdom on being the best grandparent you can be, in this extract from her book Grandparents Talk. No matter what our circumstances, whether we are distant and regularly Skyping or close by, grandparents …
Tips to quell the chaos
So much to do, so little time. Effective time management can quell the chaos whether at home or in the office. Former OHbaby! editor Ellie Gwilliam, offers her tips. Remember the days when you had time to spare? A blank page in your diary? The …
Sailing solo
Anchor me David Whyman has weathered more storms than any parent should have to cope with - cyclones, big seas and the cancer that took his wife just weeks after she gave birth to their daughter. He tells Rochelle Gillespie his story of courage, …
A Mother's promise
Blogger and mum of three Lisa-Jo Baker shares her promise to her daughter Zoe. (Grab the tissues…) A mother’s promise I’m tired and she’s tired. I’ve already put her to bed more than once tonight. She’s standing in the cot on tippy toes with …
How do you run like a girl?
Here's a challenging video and ad campaign for the website always.com that every mother of girls should watch. …
Slow parenting
Jaci Conry discovers how 'slow parenting' can make family time more meaningful and enjoyable. A couple of months ago, I was rushing through the grocery store with my preschooler and toddler. It hadn’t been an easy trip; they were whining and …
Motherhood and the business trip
Miriam McCaleb recently flew from Canterbury to Canada for a conference and describes the bittersweet privilege of work-related travel, mixed with family-related homesickness. I don’t get out much these days. I would describe my style of …
BARK NZ Helping kids overcome their fear of dogs
New Zealand is a nation of dog lovers, with well over 500,000 doggie companions living in homes throughout the country. For many of us dogs are an integral part of our family and we couldn’t imagine our lives without them. For others, especially …
What love looks like at 2.07am
Award-winning writer Sarah Bessey describes love that is real and domestic, yet world-changing. "Mumma, I frowed up.” We wake to the pitiful words of a filthy tiny girl who promptly throws up again, all over our bedding and my maternity …
Getting kids to help around the house
Are you sick of picking up after your child? Get him to do it himself - along with a number of other toddler-friendly household chores, explains early childhood educator Cheryl Dennis. One of the things two of my three grown-up children still …
The power of listening
When your child talks to you, do you take the time to stop and listen, or are you too busy doing other things to really hear what they're trying to communicate to you? Liz Donnelly explains how to listen with your heart as well as your …
Family manners
appetisers (one to two year olds) Use please and thank you. Wash hands and faces before and after the meal. Keep the food on their plates. Learn the basics of setting the table. main course (two to four year olds) Stay at the table for …
Beware of Bullying
Bullying is a sad reality for too many school-aged children. Find out about the various types of bullying and the affect it has on the victim. Learn the best ways to deal with a target of bullying and with a bully. What is bullying? If …
What's The Difference Between Boys & Girls?
Our first child was born in the dead of a Sunday night. Five to three to be exact. Only shift workers and insomniacs keep those sorts of hours. We hoped it wasn’t an omen of sleep patterns to come. The preceding six months had been full of …
7 ways to stop your child having a meltdown at swimming lessons
Tears are streaming down your child’s face as they throw themselves on the floor refusing to enter the pool for their swimming lesson. You veer from sympathy to exasperation to anger. Helene Aitchison, owner of Auckland’s Turtle Swim School, has …
Parenting through grief
Parenting a young family naturally directs our focus to new life. Sometimes, however, this season also includes saying goodbye to loved ones at the end of their life. Family and grief counsellor Michelle Parkinson offers some advice for helping …
Dorothy Waide & the parenting juggle
Watch baby expert Dorothy Waide and OHbaby! editor Elliie Gwilliam discuss the parenting juggle - babies, toddlers, preschoolers and beyond! …
Who's the boss
Taking sides: who's the boss As children grow and change, we all know that rules and boundaries need to be put in place. But who makes the rules? Because I said so by Laura Williamson A family is not a democracy. If it were, most parents …
Snack Attack! What's in those snack bars?
It’s been a while since my last blog as I’ve been busy with end-of-term activities, Playcentre admin and keeping the kids entertained in the holidays! But now the holidays are nearing an end it’s time to think about packing school and kindy …
Story Telling - Fun Ways to Engage Your Kids!
We all love a great story and, as Miriam McCaleb writes, storytelling creates much more for the family than just folklore. Once upon a time there was a mother whose words wove webs of pure love over the heads of her children. Once there lived a …
Nine things every parent with an anxious child should try
Anxiety can happen to everyone and children are not exempt. As parents we want to help guide our children through these stressful moments but we often lack the tools to do so. Renee Jain is a life coach who specialises in cultivating skills of …
Family size
Taking sides: The more the merrier Big family, more fun by Liz Breslin I'm one of four siblings. Mum always said she loved us so much she'd be happy to keep going until she Had a soccer team. Dad had other ideas. He says, "I thought, hippy …
Taking sides - Organic food
Taking sides: organic food Should parents fork out the extra for "pure" produce when feeding the family? Liz Breslin and Laura Williamson look at the pros and cons of going organic. It's better for your family: My organic awakening came in my …
Helicopter parenting
Are we too over-protective or is the world really too dangerous to allow our children the freedom we used to have? Liz Breslin and Laura Williamson take sides. Safety first Helicopter parenting. Cotton wool kids. Boys and girls bubble-wrapped …
In Case Of Emergency
On February 22 2011, New Zealand was literally rocked to its core when a 6.3 magnitude earthquake struck Christchurch, bringing death and destruction to the Garden City. One of the most important lessons from that terrible day is the importance of …
Day Out Survival Guide
As parents we know that days out with the kids are what childhood memories are made of, but often a promising plan can turn out to be a stressful and exhausting experience, as we wrangle our offspring from entrance to exit. The key is to do as much …
Truth, lies and the easter bunny
Santa, the Easter Bunny and the Tooth Fairy are childhood institutions - but are we right in letting our children believe in them, or are we setting them up for a fall? Here, two mums explain their opposing viewpoints on just how honest we …
Quality time,
When you spend time with your child, are you really giving him your attention, or is your mind somewhere else? Psychologist Pauline Ogilvy gives some suggestions for finding family time and spending meaningful moments with your child, even on your …