The Charting Girls

cause my midwife doesn't work Decembers and I had a really hard pregnancy last time with lots of complications and without her things could have turned out really bad so I really want her as my midwife next time but it just means waiting :(

Hi ginger I will be using OPKs for the first time this month to.  I have read they need to be the same darkness as the control line to be positive so yes I guess it gets darker and once its positive, ovulation follows 12-36 hours after that?! don't quote me.

Hi Sara,

Thank you for clarifying! First month using them as it is my fist month off the pill. I am not sure what to expect timing wise etc but I had the faintest of faint line yesterday, a little darker today as in definitely there...according to an app I have ovulation should be tomorrow so it will be interesting to see when the test says!

Haha you are right though, was stoked to actually see something yesterday!!!

I'm still pretty lost as to where to go from here, I haven't had any contact from FA again yet, how long does it take for them to contact you for a follow up? I sent them an email yesterday so I expect they will be in contact soon,
It's kinda like we have been given this huge bombshell of news and then now nothing, there is no plan, no way forward other than "you are on the waiting list for IVF" but no idea how long or how we are supposed to cope in the meantime,

Is it worth us trying other things to increase the motility? from what I can tell under about 40-50% is low, I know there is always a chance but damn 6.5% is low, it just seems like pointless trying other stuff to increase it but at the same time there is still a chance each month even though according to the numbers it is very slim, do I try other things each month and go through the roller coaster of perfect charting, timed BDing, OPK's and dealing with the 2WW to most likely get AF each month or do I somehow ignore all of this TTC for the next year or however long it takes to do IVF, and somehow manage?

This is all rambling I know and we will get through it but it sure isn't easy.

KP06 - with the IVF waitlist, FA should have approved you, and that aproval gets sent to your district health board for funding approval/clinic allocation. All going well, you should get a letter updating the progress within 2 weeks of your consult. The time on the waitlist depends on what region you are in - SI is around 9 mths last check, Welly 12 mths, Auckland 18 mths, and Hammy/Tauraunga 20 mths. All I can recommend is be as healthy as possible, so that you know you've done everything in your power to make it work and there aren't any 'what ifs'. Unfortunately this journey is a long one....

KP06 yes you would qualify for public funding if you pay for the first privately.  You can also stay on the public funding list while doing ivf privately so if that doesn't work you remain in your spot on the list.

So in short if I paid privately and was lucky enough to get one I would have to wait until my first was 3 years old to go on the waiting list to wait another nearly 2 years,
But if I wait for a round of public funding then it may take up to 2 years from now to even start so if I pay for any subsequent treatment I will be older and the chances only get smaller and smaller,
I know compared to most I am only young but it was our choice to start trying when I was only 25 partially to avoid any problems and because the last 5-6 years I have doing everything I can to get ready to have kids and sort my life out, make money, buy a house etc etc.
I know I shouldn't complain as other people have it a lot worse off but it is still not easy.

Yeah that's the thing, if I save hard I can afford a few rounds of IVF since we have tried to get ourselves in the best position possible as young as possible. On one hand it feels like if you try and get ahead you get pushed back and have to spend money on stuff other people don't, but at the same time since we are in this position we can afford IVF if we need to.

The only thing I can do I suppose is wait for my letter in the mail so I actually know when and spend this year saving money for a round of IVF for whenever I need it. It was suggested I could spend this year spending money and going away and having fun, but I don't want to do that, if I had of wanted to do that sort of thing I would already have been doing it.

I didn't know that about the frosties so that is good to hear, it counts even if it is saved for a few years down the line?

Oh Sara I'm sorry.  I know that must be so hard to take in.  Hang in there.  You can vent away to us any time.

That is a great attitude and exciting that you could start in under a year.  The IVF itself I didn't find bad at all so I am sure you will be fine with it.  You have the right attitude