Single Parents Vent

Has to be said though, if he got pulled over and said "oh thats my daughter" how seriously would they investigate that? Surely no police man is going to start looking into custody arrangements etc. Not that it makes it right at all, i'm not sticking up for him.

To my ex:: Yes, i know you're missing out on a lot but having a pity party about it at midnight while i battle to b/f your child and he bites me (who knew newborns can bite? I didnt..and that gum ridge is hard!) is not going to get you a decent response. I'd freaking LOVE you to be here and take on part of the responsibility your actions put us in this situation so grow a pair and stop crying down the phone at me.

aww pillow-fight what a arse

Yeah bowie I know, but I'm still pissed off about it. Plus am getting cards up my sleeve in case he decides to go for 50/50 custody again at our review when DD is 3.

Yup breastfeeding hurts a lot in the begining. But so worth it when they finally get the hang of it. And yeah, newborn bites hurt! Thats one thing I never expected!

That sucks pillow_fight

1month and 1day since we last heard from DS's dad. Nothing absolutly no contact in between and he texts me today saying hey are you home? !!!!!!!! yes and I've been home every day for the last month too you #$%^&*&^%$#$%^& !!!!!
Unlucky for him as DS was sleeping at the time so I replied and said yes but DS has just gone to sleep and all he replied was oh ok then



WHY DOES HE MAKE ME SO MAD

DS has been sick with rotavirus since thursday, still not right today and his dad hasn't offered to take him at all and ive been at clinical for uni so have had to take so much time off and i get absolutely no offer of help from the ex, he calls twice to ask about him, and then gets mad that i havent been to get the cats yet, sorry i havent had blimmin time with being at clinical and trying to look after a really sick toddler  when will he get it!

I don't really belong in this thread,cos im not single...BUT my daughter's father and I are not together and I need to vent about something.

He and his family are moving to Wellington, which is fair enough, they told me,apologising profusely,and what can I say ? its the best thing for them (them being his wife and 3 boys ) and it would be selfish of me to expect them to stay up here when really my DH is more C's dad than he is.
However,because C's bio dad and I have always made an effort to have a good relationship,I never say a bad word about him in front of her, for example, she loves her bio daddy very much as well,and she adores her brothers (all younger )

So anyway, my ...vent? not sure if thats the right word,is you think the baby stage is so hard, all the sleepless nights, breast feeding issues etc....nuh uh.
See,when Ty (my 19month old ) is hungry..I feed him,when he is wet,I change him,when he needs a cuddle I comfort him.
What the HELL do I do to comfort an 8 year old girl,who is old enough to understand things in shades of grey when I tell her her other family are moving away from her and I have to watch her heart break?
One of the hardest moments of my parenting life, sitting comforting my daughter who was so upset she was no longer crying but wailing, while she said "they can just leave me,cos I dont matter as much,I don't matter as much " knowing that I can't deny it,because she is smarter than that,she knows the truth,that she isn't as much part of the family, what on earth do I say to comfort her except reassure her how much I love her and how Im not going anywhere.....and yet knowing at the same time that its no where near enough.

...They have all these books to prepare you for the baby stage,the toddler stage...there is nothing to prepare you for moments in parenthood like that.

Me too...poor Caitlyn, what a horrid thing for you and her to have to go through Kelly.

Admire your attitude very much though, respecting that decision and seeing that its the best and not just hating on him or trashing him out in front of C. Not that it makes it any easier on her now of course.

Thanks guys
yup Mum2Alana,thats what I did,we talked about her being able to fly down there or go on the train or whatever and how she will be able to go to Te Papa.....and thats as far as I got,that and the Bee Hive lol cos I don't know Wellington very well...
Is Skype expensive to set up ? I think thats one of the things her stepmum suggested,I think they already have it..

Im not worried about her on a plane...they moved to Wellington when she was 3,then to Australia when she was 4 ...only difference between now and then is that she understands more about her place in their family,that she isn't as part of it as her brothers,and that she has a bigger bond with her brothers since shes been seeing them so regularly,but yeah, she flew to Australia not by herself, but without me,which is almost the same when they are 4

Yup Skype is freeeeee, you only need to have a microphone and/or headset/speakers and webcam. Easy peasy to setup.

Awww Kelly that sucks and it made me upset for Caitlyn. I am so not looking forward to that stage. Its hard enough trying to explain at the moment to a 2 year old that she lives with me and she can't just visit Daddy when she wants. She cries when I drop her off and she cries when he drops her back...transitions are hard work