TTC for 12 months +

Welcome star! Hopefully you get your miracle soon xxx your story is so familiar to all of us here, you are in the right place for support!
Ive had my share of birth announcements lately, im not so affected by them as I know the parents are just awesome and im just glad some good people out thrre don't have to go through this...in saying that, this morning I read the latest fb announcement of a bfp and I cant help but feel mad- not so much for myself but the fact this woman is already having huge struggles with her 3 year olds violent behaviour, and is struggling with severe mental health issues herself yet thinks ita ok to bring a baby into that? Selfish is one cleaner word that comes to mind...but hey what will be will be and I just have to be thankful that when my baby does come they will be in the safest most loving home :)
Speaking of- started temping again today and had a good post-ov range temp so hopefully that means I am indeed post-ov.. only thing is, I could be 2dpo or 10dpo I dont have a clue lol so could be a long wait! -must not buy hpts!!! :)

Hi everyone. I had a strange experience the other day – at about 5.30pm I lost my afternoon’s work. The moment it happened I was gutted! Then I quickly decided that feeling crappy about it wasn’t going to help me get it redone any quicker and I’d best just get on with it. I remember thinking at the time, I wish so much I could transfer that attitude to other parts of my life! I guess it is just easier when you don’t have the emotional baggage like you do with fertility struggles.

When my sister in law announced her pregnancy recently I was beside myself. She fell pregnant with her first child when we started trying, then hated pregnancy, hated being a new mother, would call and complain about her new baby all the time. I think we were pretty sympathetic until she announced her second pregnancy, at which point I was just wild!! She actually called my partner at work to tell him, just before he went into a meeting – so he was pretty mad too, which is not like him at all.

Anyways… I’m thinking of all of you with current or upcoming treatment. Lots of love and luck to you. I’m not a believer in fate, but I try to find my own meaning in these trials. Whether it is practicing empathy and compassion, or (hopefully) getting to feel absolute gratitude when it does happen for us, we’ve got to believe that it will all be worth it!   xx

well... not the news I was hoping for at the apt today. Because of the genetic testing (PGD) we have to do on the embryos, we have to wait until June to start IVF :-( The only place to do the testing, in Australia, has a few months waiting list. Bummer. Repromed would be ready to start tmrw if I wanted but we have to wait. Doc suggested we try til then, but I don't know if we will or not. I still should wait at least a few more weeks because of my MMR vaccination I just had. But man, I'm not sure I could handle another mc right now and then waiting ANOTHER 4 months to get a spot at the genetic clinic in Aussie. So disheartened right now. DH and I have decided to re-evaluate in 10 weeks to see if we have heard any more from the clinic in Aussie and to see how I feel about TTC naturally. So we continue waiting in the background...

Good luck HT! When will you test? Or do you just wait for AF to arrive?
Welcome Star!

Sorry for the selfish post... just needed to vent. Hugs to everyone!

Thanks bc. X glad school went well. I'm actually looking forward to the distraction too. I've just committed to camp in a few weeks knowing now ivf won't be starting.

Oh heck star that is pretty darn ratsh*te! What a prat and as for her best friend well....don't think I can type what I'm thinking!

Oh a.girl that is stink news. The waiting is hard enough without it being longer than expected. So frustrating.

Star it is bloody hard to find the positive in all this and I fail more often than not! Good to be reminded that other people have their battles too, even if fertility isn't one of them. Your friend must be really going through the ringer right now :(

Can I just say how freakin impressed I am that you lost 25kg sweet conception? That is AMAZING. How did you do it?! After a year of clomiphene and consolation chocolate I would love to drop a few kgs pre-IVF but it doesn't seem to want to budge!

Aw, you ladies are great. Thanks so much for your support and encouragement. I've gone up and down all day of thinking "ya, we'll give TTC a go" to "omg, I can't handle another mc" to "the safest thing to do is wait". I actually think I only need to wait 1 month after having the MMR jab, which means we could TTC in a few weeks. But, again, I can't work out what to do. I think I'll just sit on it for a few weeks and not make a decision until then :-)

Star, that's one of my worst nightmares! I don't know how I'd deal with cheating and I certainly hope it's something I NEVER have to deal with. Relationships can move past it, but it surely isn't easy.

Wow, SweetC, what a huge accomplishment! Go you!!!

Thanks all about the weight - it's been a slow process over about 2years. It's been down to a combination of factors:

30% medication management - Metformin and a change in my insulin injection ratios
30% positive lifestyle changes - low carb, reduction in takeaways and fizzy drinks, portion control, a little more exercise (I actually found it easier to lose weight when I stopped going to the gym)
30% not so great lifestyle factors - skipping meals, high stress at work, minor health issues etc

I also kept a spreadsheet and graph (geeky!) so even when I put on a kg or two I could visually see that the overall trend was still going down - it helped me not give up when progress was slow.

It is a great feeling but frik'n hard to maintain that's for sure! I feel like I just need to look at the wrong food and I start gaining again.

Anyone know how long it should take to get Detailed Morphology results back from FA? And do they call you or write to you or do we call them for the results? I took the sample into the lab first thing Monday.

Thanks mushroom. I called and dialled the nurses' extension but got the funding coordinator who said they had the results there but I'd need to wait to hear from the doctor. I always feel so high maintenance when I call... At this point the only difference it really makes is whether we do IMSI or not, but I'm still eager to know!