TTC for 12 months +

Hey - I'm doing ok - have stopped my chocolate comfort eating spurge before I packed on too many grams - so mostly the same weight as a month ago which is good.

Hi ladies, Im new to this but have been searching through these forums for the past week and thought I would give this one a go.
Bambeana - we are in the same boat as you, after TTC for the past 18 months and thinking the problems were with me (I don't ovulate on my own so have been on clomid) we had my husbands SA done last week and the results were really bad including testing 95% positive for anti bodies, I was devastated, hubby wanted to test again to be sure and just got results back today confirming last weeks results. We are seeing our specialist at FA Auckland tomorrow to discuss our only option which is the same as yours - it is so expensive and terrifying not knowing what to expect or what your chance of success will be - I have so many questions to ask tomorrow just hoping I get through it without breaking down...

We just need to try and stay positive (easier said then done at this point though)

Any ladies out there with IVF experience that can offer advice would be greatly appreciated.
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Oh that would be amazing thank you. I've wanted to leave work all day today too can't seem to concentrate on anything other than this. I get what you mean about feeling like your partner doesn't understand how upset you are, I feel the same with mine, he doesn't really mind if we have kids or not has a take it or leave it kind of attitude but for me it means everything. We are going to ask about public funding tomorrow but will also look at the private options too, it is so much money though and will put a lot of pressure on us so I guess we have to really think about it. It must be rough having paid all of that money for a reversal only to find it didnt give you the result you wanted, I'm so sorry! Are you booked in to see the doctor again?

Hopefully tomorrow will help you to feel a little better coming up with a plan etc. I know it's hard but try not to let it affect your relationship too much, these types of things can be extremely taxing on a relationship and it's important to try and face it together and to communicate as best as possible and you always have places like this to vent if needed, I've tried talking to friends about it as my hubby didn't want to talk about it until the second test came back as he was so sure the first ones were wrong fingers crossed he will talk now as my friends just don't seem to understand but I guess it's hard too if you haven't been through it. Just know that you are not hopeless at all and that what/how you are feeling is completely normal.... We are seeing our doctor tomorrow too so we can vent and go through the experience together :)

Thanks Mushroom :)

Do you mind me asking how long you have been waiting to start treatment through public funding? We are trying to decide if we should wait or do private treatment ASAP.

Oh Bambeana, I am so sorry. *Biggest hugs* It's such a tough journey as it is, without having to worry about finding the funds for treatment or agonise over the thousands of $$ wasted...

Lulue - welcome, and sorry to hear you're in a similar situation.

My hubby made a comment the other day about the odds of success of IVF... and how ridiculous it would be to bet that sort of money on a horse race, or on roulette... still it's what we have to do right?!

AFM I am 7dpo on 2nd round of clomiphene, and nothing to report really. Just a case of wait and see!

I did manage to get confirmation today that my name is now down on the waiting list for public IVF, although we have no idea how long the wait is as it is with OFS and they are being privatised sometime this year but don't know when and in the meantime they are not actually taking any bookings, it's just a "list of names". Oh well, at least I have a spot in the queue.

I think if we get through 5-6 rounds of clomiphene with no luck we will probably try one round of private IVF before the end of the year. (Can you tell we are compulsive planners?!)

Looking forward to Easter - we are going to have our two nephews staying (age 3 and 5), so should be fun!!

Yah Star! You are on the list!

We went out for dinner last night and tried to talk about all the things we love about each other to keep it positive. I was a little frustrated because our good friend who is a sports med, nutritionist person said that we shouldn't worry bout the antibodies and in a few months the reading will be better. His theory is that the testes have experienced trauma post surgery and that if we give it time, he takes supplements it will change. I don't agree because I haven't read anything to back that theory up but figure why not wait two more months. Do another sample at the end of each month.

I just don't want to get my hopes up because I was so sure that this would work and we were so hopeful.

Lulue - we went on the waiting list in Auckland in Feb last year - so a 17 mth wait from going on the list to starting treatment. It's a long wait, but I've found making a focus of losing some weight by being good taking metformin, exercising, and eating healthy has helped with passing the time. Also posting on here lol. The wait time is getting longer though, so best to get approval for funding and get on a list asap, then worry about if you want to try privately. You only lose your place on the list if you actually get pregnant, so always worth while going on the list!

More waiting Charilie - torture! Fingers crossed it's a late bloomer and those numbers keep doubling! My beta is on Sunday and I'm not feeling optimistic.

Oh Charlie my heart goes out to you. Been there twice. One was 16 and one 14. Sucky sucky times.
Hugs hun xxxx