TTC for 12 months +

Oh Garcat my heart is breaking for you and I feel your sadness and pain. I'm so so sorry this wasn't your miracle after all the heartache. As I've said before I've never come across anyone anywhere who's suffered continuous chemicals as I have and I'm heartbroken it hasn't ended differently for you. I wish you all the best for whatever is next for you, your partner and your little miracle #1 ..... and please - have more than a couple of wines! lol

Oh no garcat! I'm so sorry 😪😪😪 I hope you can find peace in all this. Big hugs to you. Xx

Oh Garcat, that is terrible news, I am devastated for you. I have been thinking of you often and really hoping for a better outcome for you and your family. That's a bit rough having to stay in Auckland for three days by yourself. I hope the course you are doing is not too challenging and is a good distraction. I spent Monday and Tuesday night in a motel in Auckland because I took my mum up there for a knee replacement operation. Shame we weren't up there at the same time, we could have cried over a bottle of wine together. Know that I am thinking of you heaps, and any time you want to talk or rant, we are here.

AFM, still feeling pretty low about everything, really trying hard to not give up all hope of extending our family, but am struggling to make sense of why the IVF didn't work. We have our review appointment 7th March so it will be interesting to see what the Dr has to say, and if he can make suggestions for next time around.

Oh Storm your GP sounds lovely! Glad you had a good visit with her. Sorry AF is being a right pain. Bring on this next cycle for you though - I'm refusing to give up on you my girl!

Moon sorry you're going through this. This time right after the end of a cycle can be really rough because not only are you dealing with the grief of it not working but also contending with the hormones that are still floating around.
I remember after my second ivf which was 3rd failed transfer in total I was a right mess for quite a few weeks. I couldn't bear the thought of even going there with a discussion about what next or even thinking about anything - I just lived my day to day life. In hindsight it was grief of course but also once those drugs left the system completely I felt much brighter. After that I took most of the year (last year) to regroup (and save more money). I just lived my life - eating whatever, exercising how I liked, playing netball without fertility hanging over me, drinking when I liked and really got my head back in the right place. As dumb as putting things on hold was it did me the world of good.
Just my experience.

Oh Garcat, I am so, so sorry. My heart breaks for you. It is such a brave decision to make deciding it is the end of your TTC journey. All the best xo

Moon, thinking of you still too.

And storm, yay for your GP. I hope your review appt is helpful too.

I've just started pessaries today, FET booked for Wednesday.

I thought this article was interesting... Wish we had this test in NZ!!
http://m.independent.ie/life/family/mothers-babies/genetic-test-will-tell-if-a-woman-will-never-get-pregnant-through-ivf-34390309.html

Edited by *Star* - 20 February 2016 at 9:22pm

Hugs again moon. At the time I didn't factor in the hormones it was later that I connected the dots. I'm glad you're starting to get through it. Work will be a good distraction believe it or not.

Good luck for Wednesday Star xx

What's everyone else's goss?

Hugs Kiwi - what a long drawn our process for you. I'm crossing everything this time is the magic time. Seems that it's clinic standard to just tell you what fertilised and what you've got come transfer day. I think mine told me that they check for fertilisation then they don't go near them again until day 5 to let them be.

True Storm my medicated cycle AF was horrid now I look back - right on xmas time too. Yucky cramps that I had to take pain relief for which isn't like me at all.
Yep pretty crazy - I can't believe this is actually happening still. Next scan is 9th March.

Yay Kiwi. I am going to be your power of hope. This is good news that you get on board and a frozen. I know it's disheartening to have been here before. Wishing you all the luck in the world hun xx

Hi all, I have FET booked for Wednesday morning in Chch - I was lucky enough to get one overpriced room in Chch there is no accommodation this week!
some sad news on here over the last week, man it doesn't get any easier does it
Mushroom how r u going, I am holding on to the hope that FET's sometimes do work so I hope everything is going well for you 😀
Good luck everyone