TTC for 12 months +

Well that was a frustrating morning. Had an appointment with the clinic nurse to discuss our funded cycle. I assumed that I was going in to get my plan and my drugs, but no. They wanted me and MrADN to be there (wasn't made clear so he wasn't there) so we could both sign the B form in front of them (no need because they have numerous other forms of ours and our signatures on file) and so they could go through the basic overview of how an IVF cycle works. Uhh, this is number 4, I know how it works, thanks. And I don't need a lesson in injecting.

I mentioned that this was going to be cycle 4 in a year and the nurse looked at me and said "How could you have gone through that many cycles in a year?" to which I responded "Easy when they don't go well."

Then she asks if I want to speak to the counselor. No thanks. There's nothing the counselor can do to help. What would have been useful was to know that this wasn't a "lets get started" appointment. I was expecting to start next week. Instead I have to finish this cycle of the pill, have the week break THEN start on another 3 weeks of the pill.

You know what else would have been helpful? If the nurse had f**king read my file before my appointment. Or if there was some foresight that people who have been through private cycles probably don't need this type of wasteful bullsh*t appointment before starting a public cycle.

/rant

Edited by AnyDayNow - 13 March 2017 at 2:39pm

ADN that is crap! We were informed on our cycle (funded) that we both had to be there to sign the paper work so they could see us each sign it. The drugs won't come until just before you start them as they don't give me out encase the cycle doesn't go ahead as they can't take them back once given. So expect that one. Pretty sh*tty I must say. She should have read your file!

Thanks all, I felt so much better after I hit send on my rant :)

Oh great news, Lulu!

Yay Lulu! That's awesome news. I bet you are relieved.

ADN,that's so frustrating. With all that we've already had to go through, you'd think they'd be a bit more understanding. I don't know why they wouldn't let you sign it and scan it back - that's what we always did living so far from the clinic.

Storm, all the best with your upcoming FET :-) That's awesome that you ended up with 3! yay. Quality over quantity for sure.

Sweetpea, so good to hear that all is ticking along smoothly. Keep us posted!

AFM, I think I mentioned a few weeks ago about our search to find an egg donor (aka "our egg hunt" haha). Well, we've narrowed it down to 3 lovely ladies. All friends of mine! If we go with our top choice, we have to wait 6-12 months unfortunately, so we're trying to decide if we want to wait that long (so much can change in that amount of time. In the meantime, DH and I are still TTC on our own (3dpo now! it's my first cycle in 4 years where I ovulated before day 16!). We still hold onto a wee bit of hope...

Also, I published another article in stuff a few weeks ago about coming to terms with finding an egg donor. I haven't really told many people I wrote it because we're still being pretty quiet about things (and really want to respect our potential donors). But luckily it was published under my married name that no recognises. Here is it..

http://www.stuff.co.nz/stuff-nation/assignments/share-your-news-and-views/17590158/Why-is-asking-for-help-so-hard

You have a gift a.girl, a beautiful way of using words. Its a lovely read and resonants with me.

Yes, i am in my 7th week now, and feeling like this might actually work this time. I wish I could understand how its possible to have so many failed months, and yet one day, one month is just works. Its a game of russian roulette!



Storm i wonder which two the doc will recommend... what a difficult thing to decide.

Agirl lovely article and you must feel very lucky to have so many to choose from! I doubt I'd have any!
Lulu yay congrats !

Storm hope you hear some news soon.

AFM just waiting out the cycle , AF due Monday and booked in for the hysteroscopy next Thursday aslong as AF arrives on time.

That's a great point about being open about your journey a.girl. People get invested and want to help.

Did anyone watch "A year from now" on three on Wed night? I caught up with it on 3 on demand this arvo. It's a UK show with people coming on saying what they want to do/have achieved in a year from now then BOOM through the magic of television they are there, a year later, to show if they've achieved whatever it is.

Anyway, there is a family on there. A wife, husband, and 13 yr old from the wife's first marriage. The wife and husband have had two ectopic pregnancies (OMG HOW sh*t!?) so have to use IVF to try for a baby. Anyways they come back a year later and she's 36 weeks gone. Which means pretty much their first try took. And here's me going "well that's bloody brave going on a show wanting something you have absolutely no control over". But no. Pregnant. f**k.

Yeah, I'm a glutton for punishment though.

Hi all. I had first scan yesterday for ivf #3. I am on a different protocol this time (burserelin with gonal f) and day 8 of taking gonal f I only had 4 follicles. Big blow, they think maybe it's too early - I don't know. I go back Monday which will be day 11 on stims. Has anyone had this and seen more show up along the way? I hav been so positive and was willing this to b great but can't see how this is going to improve 😥