After Bubs do you have to go back to work

Maybe this has been bought up before? Not sure.
I am sitting here working out budgets and money and all that and I just dont want to go back to work after this baby is born!Not even for the few hours I had planned on. Just doesnt seem worth it.

I know we would only just manage on one wage however I really dont like struggling and worrying about money!


Is there anyone else in this situation?

I had to come back to work.....Even tho I did not feel like leaving bub....however I didnt have a choice. I earn more than hubby and we have a huge mortgage....

I'll be at home for the first year at least but if I can avoid going back I will. I figure things will be tight but we can learn to manage. And it will be worth it. I don't want others seeing my daughter walk or crawl or talk or anything of that other stuff before me.

We don't qualify for help because although we are in debt up to our eyeballs (or so it feels like!) B earns to much. He'll just keep doing over time everything other weekend if he can stand it to help boost the income.

I was actually thinking of going and seeing the Porse People or Plunket as I am qualified Childcare and Nanny so I could probably easily get two littlies to look after for a few hours a week at home. I think its tax free plus I would be home with BUBS!!

We lived on one wage until about two months ago when I got a very part time job... It was tricky, sometimes there were unexpected bills but we always managed. We very rarely bought new clothes except for birthday presents. We didn't have takeaways but we don't really do that even now. I find being super anal about the shopping list and being organised as to what meals we are having helps!

I have foudn thata part time job is super for my sanity but then I amnot sure Iwas meant to stay at home long term anyway (although I spose the almost two years i did stay at home counts as long term?)

And Kelly, I don't think porse is tax free but still a FAB way for making extra cash. I looked into it a while ago and it looks like a good plan. Basically you set your own rate (realistic) and they help you advertise yourself and send you any referals from your area!! If you're in Auckland on the shore the woman from Porse, Alana is great!!

I was always really money conscious and hated the thought of going down to one wage but when I had Kobe unexpectedly early and the second income stopped I realised I just didnt care. Now I work part time, only 12 hours a week but its more for me to get out than anything. Im also lucky that hubby works afternoon shift which means he will be home to look after baby rather than her going to preschool with Kobe until I think she is old enough and I dont plan on working longer hours until the youngest is at school and even then it will be school hours. As someone said, where there is a will there is a way.

There are lots of different companies that you can do it thru!! (well, three) Barnados, Jemmas or Porse. I phoned all of them to get the info. I had a look at them all and found that Porse was my fave. But never did it...

I do think you adjust to your income. There are some months where we really struggle (like this month). The car just cost me $700 today . We buy alot of clothes from savemart and dont ever say no to hand me downs.

Hey Kelly!
I take my hat of to you - its bloody hard being a single Mum. I was for 6 months last year while Mark had a mid-life crisis!!

It was odd I seemed to manage better on my own financially than with him!!! Not that he ever spends any money.But I did rely heavily on my Grandparents and probably would have ended up selling the house if it wasnt for them.
I could not stand being on the DPB - its sucked. i was happy to come off it and go and work 30 odd hours.

I hate scraping by too......I dont mind it so much as my Aunt looks after Zaara and she is very happy with her, and I go home at lunch time to feed her. However she is going to a day care when she turns 1. I phoned around and there is one next to my work and home and they charge $185 for the week and provide nappies! Not too bad I think.