Child Support Payments & DPB

"Shared care" is just a really fluffy warm strokey term.

If the father sees the child for one day out of a whole month, the courts consider this "shared care".

So if the mothers play it smart, they can basically weasle through on one or two day visits with the father and that'd be considered "shared care". And when the courts see that she's offering "something" rather than nothing they go "awww, isn't that nice, she's meeting halfway" and accept the agreement.

Also, Lawyer for Child is a pretty awesome thing to have in those (well actually any) situations. They take the childs best interests into consideration.

BTW - Those comments aren't meant to take the pi$$ out of the courts, it's just my way of phrasing things which is probably totally un-PC but then thats just me.

You're correct Honeybuns, if you receive private child support, or any income at all while on the DPB, you must declare it and they will adjust your benefit accordingly.

The good news for your brother is that the Family Court seems to be quite well set up now to get a parenting agreement in place for the child and will always act in the best interests of the child. In most cases this means having regular contact with both parents and having both parents actively involved in making decisions pertaining to the child.

Somehow we got on the subject of Dad's having nothing to do with their kids for years, and whether they could or couldn't prevent the mother and child from moving away. Unfortunately these types have made it tough over the years for good Fathers to be actively involved in their childrens lifes if the mother doesn't want it, or is just being a b#tch.

Hi,

Has anyone been in the situation of having a donor daddy and going on DPB? WINZ has got me to do a formula assessment application, and there is no father named on the form (or on the birth cert of course). The donation was done by personal arrangement (fertility clinic only did some initial tests). I've attached the contract signed by donor and me and some docs from the fertility clinic to the application. IRD has sent a standard letter back saying they can’t do a formula assessment and therefor my benefit will be reduced. They don’t appear to have taken any notice of the donor situation, certainly no mention of it. I called the human rights commission re this and how the clause applies to this type of situation and they were a little stumped as it was 'new territory" but seemed to think that someone in my position would have a legitimate grievance with having reduced benefit because of my situation. Has anyone been able to argue a case like this and were they successful?

Ehm but Guest_71638, you went to some considerable effort to become preggers, did you not also make financial plans for supporting yourself? Of course the donor should not provide assistance, that would be your responsibility having made the choice to go down that road. I'm not really sure that that is what the DPB is for though either!

Candkids wrote: havnt read all the posts but if you come to a private childsupport agreement it can still be inforced by ird, thats what me and my ex did made things so much easier as if he doesnt pay then they chase it up no me so i dont get all the drama with it all

this is an old thread brought back by guest.... she had a sperm donor, & personally I think if you are doing that then you should be able to afford to support the child you planed. Don't think he will be paying child support because he is only a donor.