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Topic: Co-sleeping Posted: 03 January 2011 at 10:30pm |
So those that do, how do you do it? Does your child share your bed, do they have their own next to yours? How do you get on with things like reading in bed, do you wake them up when you go to bed (by accident). How do you manage time alone with your partner and BDing?
I dont do it full time at the moment, but do sleep with DD after her last feed of the night in the king single in her room, as she tends to sleep later in the morning (bonus!) Im just wanting to know how it works for you and your partner TIA
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Posted: 03 January 2011 at 10:45pm |
We sleep under the covers, DD sleeps on top of them in a sleeping bag, though now she is over 18mo I would feel comfortable with her sharing the covers with us, but the sleeping bag is part of our bedtime routine, plus it stops her from getting up and walking away!
DD sleeps in between DP and I to start with, then at about 6/7am I swap sides (for BFing) so she will sleep a couple more hours with a tummy full of milk.
We don't read in bed, but if we did I am sure we could do it without waking DD up. We sometimes wake her up as we are going to bed but it's very easy to resettle her if that's the case as she likes having someone sleep next to her.
Time alone and BDing usually happens outside of the bedroom, though if we find DD has wriggled over to one side of the bed, we will share the other side of the bed and BD has been known to happen with a sleeping baby in the room
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Posted: 03 January 2011 at 10:45pm |
We do day naps in our bed lately (bfing to sleep because she's just learned to crawl so self settling is out as she just rolls over gets on her hands and knees and crawls around and won't sleep!)
I do her first night sleep the same and then move her after an hour (without waking) to her own bed.
When we do co sleep (my dp is over weight) so it's dp on his half and I lay on my side with arm out above dds head and she is face/head level with my boobs (for easy feeding) and lays on her back (occasionally side). But she is always on the edge and I place my top arm over her to stop her falling out.
Of course it's much simpler when it's just me and her in bed (more space!)
BDing, we find time, often when she's not in with us, I normally bring her in if it's a bad night for her, or she's waking hourly...
I always move her after the first hour though (start of night sleep).
I always am very quiet so she never wakes.
I love cosleeping, she sleeps heaps better, wakes less (I think it's reassuring for her) and we both get sleep!
I was coslept until I was 6-7!
Lots of people say they'll have attachment issues, you'll never get them out of your bed etc but I think the complete opposite, I completely love my space and value it.
ETA: DD is also in a sleeping bag over the covers too!
We don't read in bed, never have.
We've also BD with a baby in the room lol quietly.
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Posted: 03 January 2011 at 10:50pm |
Lil_Nic9 wrote:
dp on his half and I lay on my side with arm out above dds head and she is face/head level with my boobs (for easy feeding) |
That's how we did it too for the first 16-ish months
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Posted: 03 January 2011 at 11:14pm |
DS sleeps in between me and DH, under the covers (since he's been out of his sleeping bag at about 14-15 months). I'd enjoy the co-sleeping more if he didn't still wake me constantly over night! But it makes dealing with the night wakings so much easier!
He has his naps in his own king single bed, hoping to move him there for night time after he turns 2.
BDing usually happens outside of the bedroom for us too, but have also occasionally done it quietly beside a sleeping baby!
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Posted: 04 January 2011 at 1:02am |
Much the same as everyone else, ddLittlest sleeps on my side of the bed, I don't sleep with covers but swaddle her, dd2y still sleeps with us most nights too though she has her own bed that she starts out in, we don't normally wake when she sneaks in anymore. The older kids all co-slept too but decided for themselves around the 3-4y mark they were over it, though dd5&6y will come in the morn sometimes, ds9y would be mortified if we asked!
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Posted: 04 January 2011 at 1:11am |
Oh & bd-ing, much the same as everyone else, a lot of it happens outside the bedroom, but at times in same room as sleeping baby though I usually shift them into Bassinet which is next to bed as our bed is a bit too squeaky. No problems really overall with co-sleeping though DH complains we need a larger bed, =). Oh & I've used a safety-sleep before- tucked one side under mattress & slept on the other, when I was worried wriggly baby would fall out, but none of them ever have anyway.
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Posted: 04 January 2011 at 1:25am |
Sorry serial- currently when bubs is having a bad night with reflux I'll sleep her up in the centre of my pillow (firm one, from her waist up so no chance of it shifting under her), & I sleep lower with my head near her legs. (I'm short). She sleeps much better this way, I think half her distress is resolved just by knowing I'm there. She also snack-feeds & if I was getting up out of bed every hour to feed her I'd be a complete zombie. Don't know why not leavin bed is diff but it is!
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Posted: 04 January 2011 at 7:09am |
We don't co-sleep; Jacob likes to be by himself when he's going to sleep (the last time we managed to rock him to sleep was when he was a teeny tiny newborn and all tired from being born). Also I think I like my space too much, and I'd be scared of squishing him.
BUT... the point of this post was to say that even though we don't co-sleep, I genuinely don't get those people who talk about attachment issues. I mean, babies all over the world have been sleeping with their parents for years (sometimes because there's only one bed!) and I don't notice half the population / the populations of certain countries having attachment issues.
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Posted: 04 January 2011 at 7:10am |
Now DS starts off in his cot right next to the bed, and then when he wakes up which is arounf 6 he comes into the middle of the bed for more milk and sleeps till about 730, ive co-slept since he was born (in and out of bassinet/cot right next to the bed) and I have gotten so much more sleep than I would have if I had put DS into his own room. DS sleeps under the covers, but normally up quite high, or attached to the boob haha! Tyler doesn't wake up, I go in rearrange the sheets, get changed, move stuff around and he doesn't wake lol, BDing you'll find time lol, or other places
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Posted: 04 January 2011 at 7:43am |
Oh yeah, BD outside the bedroom here too and sometimes I prop Lily up on the pillow waste up too, esp if it's just her in the bed and place pillows around her body to stop her rolling out, but when it's just her in the bed I check her very regularly and listen over the monitor.
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Posted: 04 January 2011 at 10:06am |
We dont co sleep, only time they come into my bed is if they are really upset over something, and then when they settle its right back into their own bed.
I dont think co sleeping causes attachment issues or anything and I dont have anything against people who co sleep full time, its just not for me, I like my space, and I personally dont want my kids sleeping where DH and I sleep and....
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Posted: 04 January 2011 at 2:50pm |
We've fulltime bed shared with DS since day dot. We've got the bed pushed up against the wall and he sleeps between me and the wall. when he was tiny I slept with my arm around him. It's been fanatstic for us as if he'd been in his own room/bed I would've been awake from when he was born till about a month ago. Co sleeping rocks!
We also have DD in our bed, she goes down inher own bed then comes through if she wakes.
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Posted: 04 January 2011 at 3:38pm |
I actually thought co sleeping was a huge Sids risk and a major no-no but was surprised when (on the first night after DD was born) the nurses showed me how to safely co sleep (that arm trick) and feed. But that may have been them telling me to buzz them if I needed anything and me buzzing every 5 mins to ask if DD was ok, or they could pass her to me, if she was too hot, needed changing
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Posted: 04 January 2011 at 8:09pm |
Im the same as Sheza,although lately Ty has been waking around 4am every morning and im too tired to sit there trying to get him back to sleep so I just bring him in with me .
...Which brings me to my questions.....
when do you say you co sleep?if you do it occasionally,or if you sleep like that every night ?
and those that do,do you have a plan of when they will sleep in their own beds, by that I mean what age,or is it more of a go with the flow thing ? eg, you will just know when you are both ready
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Posted: 04 January 2011 at 8:29pm |
You co-sleep while you're co-sleeping IMO
I too have co-slept from day dot. For 7months he was in my bed with me but since then Ive pushed my bed against the cot (side-carring) which is great
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Posted: 04 January 2011 at 8:49pm |
Awesome, thanks for the replies, Im thinking that I might start doing this as my DP has started a new job where he works away from home alot.
Oh and how do you have your baby sleep during the day in your bed? I have to have DD's legs wrapped and a tight sheet over the top otherwise she just plays with her feet and doesnt sleep (even in a sleeping bag), and there is no way I can get my bed sheets tight enough
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Posted: 04 January 2011 at 8:50pm |
We roll with how the babies flow lol  We co sleep with both babies (not at the same time!) if it's easier or they're restless, and they both each have their own cot/bassinette. Most nights DF end up in a single bed with Clodagh for a few hours while I end up with Scarlett cos I'm too knackered to keep getting up to her. Clodagh prefers to sleep over the covers, Scarlett sleeps under them (safely, not near her chin).  It's totally normal and if done safely then IMO benefits parents and child. I also totally like my own space though so try to get at least part of the night on my own so I get some good quality sleep hehe
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Posted: 04 January 2011 at 8:54pm |
And BD??? What's that?? lol
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Posted: 04 January 2011 at 9:31pm |
I have had both my girl's sleeping with me... my oldest until she was 4 and a half, and my youngest is a few days off 3 and still sleeps in our bed. I do start her in her own bed most nights but she's usually in our bed well before midnight. When they were babies I used the cot for day sleeps but at night they were in bed with me/us all night cos it was just soooo much easier.
Kelly, we did have a plan that DD2 would be in her own bed months ago but it just hasn't happened so looks like we'll have two in the bed soon  ... might be time to upgrade to a kingsize bed... It's funny cos really I love having her in our bed, she is such a cuddly wee girl and the only reason I feel like she should be in her own bed is other people suggesting she should be... I guess it's one of those things that works for some and not for others eh... and occasionally I do get a bit annoyed if she'd in a real wriggly mood or wants to play Barbies at 3 in the morning
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