Did I over react and expected too much

Did I over react and expected too much from a 23 year old?

Ok well I have my 23-year-old sister and her BF from the states staying with us. Mike, the girls and I went out this afternoon partly because they were doing my head in! I knew we were going to be home a little late so I pre made a salad and lasagne so all I had to do was reheat it. Any who it got to 5.30 and we were still out (in Auckland) so I phoned her and said we will be home bout 6.30 no later and could she please but the lasagne in the over to reheat, feed the cats and give the dog his bone.

Well when we got home I walked in the door dead on 6.30 with 2 screaming, hungry babies expecting that at least I wouldn’t have to do dinner, their they were watching a DVD eating pizza, dinner still in the fridge, no animals feed, well that was it I snapped big time!

My question is did I over react and expect too much? Personally I don’t see what’s so hard about what I asked and I even rang before hand.

Oh and Mike thinks I did

I think if they were in your house and you asked them to do that, she could have at least said on the phone if it was a problem. You might have asked too much (I think I would have asked her to heat the lasagne) but the fact that you asked and she presumably didn't say no or that she couldn't - and then didn't - is a bit immature.

And maybe the way you reacted probably had a lot more to do with the babies crying than your sister failing expectations?

Nope I would have been pissed too! I guess the animals could have waited but it only takes a minute to turn an oven on and chuck something in there to heat up!

NO you did not over react in my familiy were taught to allways at least offer to help out whe staying at someones house its plan ruedness not to help out and you have twins i would of lost it too and pop kicked her out or sent her on the next plane

Kellz wrote: Now I have a baby, I realise I could have been a lot more helpful and supportive to my friends that had kids before me, I just really had no clue what it was like.

Me too I had no idea!

No I don't think you expected too much.

When I was 23 there was only one person my life revolved around and that was me.

I suspect your sister took the call, hung up and went back to her DVD and forgot all about it.

Its probably good that you snapped at her, might make her think next time.

No I don't think you asked to much....I don't suppose they kept you all pizza for dinner did they??

busymum wrote: meow wrote: Just wanted to point out that it's not the age but the fact that she doesn't have kids and responsibilities like we do.. I'm 23 I was thinking that too... I'm 24

Me too - I'm 23 and have no kids yet - but I was raised to help out wherever necessary. It really isn't hard to help out a little, especially when asked.

I was just going to say it when someone else did, but hello, for them to not only not heat the dinner, but then go and get themselves pizza.. that really is the height of rudeness. I would have gone off too.

yeah, it'd be the ordering in pizza instead of just putting the lasagne for everyone in the over that would have made me the most angry.  I don't really get why you'd stay at your sister's house with her little new twin babies, and not expect to help out.  Even without the babies in the picture - I'd still expect to pull my own weight about the place!