Do you have a horder?

I'm the hoarder in our house but I am on top of my problem lol. We have very regular decluters as even though I am a hoarder I like a minimalist look. I used to keep EVERYTHING but DF managed to teach me that I don't need to keep everything afterall and I love not having quite soooo much stuff!

DF has his own spaces and he can do what he wants with them. He has his own cupboard all for himself and the shed and the carport. I have to get onto him to clean it out but as long as it's clean and tidy I don't take issue to what he has there. If he leaves stuff lying around I just put it in one of his spaces and he can do what he will with it :-)

DP likes to keep clothes. He knows what I do though, he just laughed about it with my brother.

I'll take bits at a time and throw them out, or take them to the clothing bins when he doesn't know. Then when he tries to find it he usually asks me and my response is "I don't know, where did you leave it?" if he asks again then I say the same thing in an exasperated tone as though its his fault lol.

We have most of our stuff in storage atm as we couldn't bring it to mum and dads and he seriously packed a box full of clothes he doesn't wearjavascript:AddSmileyIcon('') AND threw out a whole bag of clothes! He even keeps his holey socks! I go through and throw them out.

DP also has a really annoying habit of bringing home jackets from work that people leave behind. (These jackets are left there for 6months at a time so aren't going to be collected and otherwise get donated to the salvation army lots of places do that) But seriously why does anyone need 20 jackets? I have 2 yep 2! One thick one and one thinner one grrr

Oh I'm guilty of keeping things too but every once in awhile I go through the wardrobe or whatever and biff things.

I do the handbag clean out too! (Back in my party days I used to do it at a bar at 10am on Sunday morning when I had been up all night ) the bartender said it wasn't Sunday unless I cleaned my bag out lol

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The only reason it really irritates me at the moment is
a) the mess - hes not a tidy person and I'm not a clean freak by any means but any "area" that is dedicated to his junk is a pigsty.

b) when I sat down and thought about what we wanna buy house wise the only real reason we need more space is cause of his hording. It makes no sense to spend thousands of dollars on a bigger house just to keep stuff he never uses.

He will hear about this once I've figured out my tact on how I'm going to approach it.


Oh what is it with some men and holey socks?? My dad does this as well. Keeps holey socks until they actually start slipping off his toes and into the massive holes. DH ain't much better. As soon as mine have what looks like a hole they go in the bin.

I just like to see how bad he will let them get until he decides to just go and get new ones. Same with underwear. They seem to have to have the elastic completely break before he decides its time to go shopping lol.

Men are funny creatures sometimes.

Stacey how about working out how much extra a bigger house will cost. What reasons you have for wanting to buy a bigger house and then work out how much it will cost to rent some storage space.

Then ask hubby/partner the same. If you find that you are constantly having to struggle with this bring it up. I know things like these can cause fights ect. But if you try and keep emotions out ect and willing to also compromise.

Like maybe get a shed? or something like that perhaps.

I know this relationship thing can be very hard. This side I sit with a hubby into model aeroplane flying things and he has his stuff all over the dining room table where we are suppose to eat but if water goes near it it can short things out so have to constantly keep the kids away from it. Drives me batty. But he does have a workshop and a garage so no reason for it to be where the kids can mess with it.

That sounds like an excellent idea Stacey. And I am sure he will part with quite a lot once you have the skip bin.

(sorry didnt try to sounds condescending in my previous comments btw.)

If you want a hand and I am not trying to sort my own life out I have next Mon - Fri free from 9-3 if you want a hand.

DH is a hoarder!

Before we moved (2 years ago) one of our spare rooms had alot of his stuff that we had since he was a little boy. I made him throw most of it out, but we kept the treasured memories.

His parents are worse though, must be where he gets it from. If you want anything - just ask them and his dad pulls something out of a cupboard that has been secretly stashed away for 30 years.