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MissCandice
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Topic: Family Money Posted: 01 December 2008 at 10:18am |
How do you work it at your house.
Is it all family money no matter what you earn compared to him?
DP's money is his money, mine is mine. I earn less but we pay half of everything each.
I want this to change. Im really good with money, DP is not. He makes more than me yet has less than me cos he spends it on crap.
I am doing a degree in 2010, and i dont know what to do about money. Iv been told that working just isnt advisable. I mentioned this to DP and he didnt say anything..
So how does money work in your house?
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Kellz
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Posted: 01 December 2008 at 10:25am |
We have had combined bank account since 2003 (been together 3 years by then).
I havent worked for the last 2 1/2 years, but do get family assistance. It all goes into one account. I pay the morgate and all the bills. I always have. DH wouldnt have a clue what needs paying when. DH doesnt ever spend anything on himself tho, doesnt even by his lunch or anything.
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Posted: 01 December 2008 at 10:29am |
All our money is joint money - we earn about the same, when averaged out over the year (I am on salary, DF is on hourly wage, so some weeks may earn up to $200 more than me, but other weeks may earn a lot less). I pay all the bills etc though, DF wouldn't have a clue what's in what account. We've had joint accounts since we bought our house in February - before that we had separate accounts, but it was still "our" money, no matter whose account it was in.
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Posted: 01 December 2008 at 10:30am |
DP wastes heaps, pack of taily ciggerettes a day, so 7 a week! thats like $75. He buys lunch everyday, morning tea and lunch so at least $20. He buys 2x Vs on the way to work so $5-6 dollars..
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Posted: 01 December 2008 at 10:31am |
We've had a joint bank account since just after we moved in together (had been going out for about a year by then).
Both our wages (when I was working) go in and all our bills and personal shopping etc come out of that.
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Posted: 01 December 2008 at 10:31am |
We only have one income in our house and one bank account.
DH gets spending money .. and I look after paying the bills etc.
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Posted: 01 December 2008 at 10:32am |
We have seperate acounts but share expenses.
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Posted: 01 December 2008 at 10:34am |
edited so I could add the quote so can see what im talking about, cos heaps of posts since the post I was commenting on
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Posted: 01 December 2008 at 10:35am |
KylahsMum wrote:
DP wastes heaps, pack of taily ciggerettes a day, so 7 a week! thats like $75. He buys lunch everyday, morning tea and lunch so at least $20. He buys 2x Vs on the way to work so $5-6 dollars.. |
Gee thats heaps- DH seriuosly wouldnt spend that much on himself in a year - if u exclude the takeawys we get for both of us for dinner every few weeks.
I get a coffee a week and maybe a muffin or something with it. I have got clothes lately, and I got DH 2 pairs shorts for chritmas. He never usually gets new clothes, and if I dont through out his unders and socks that are fill of holes and buy him more, he never would! He doesnt drink or smoke or anything. I guess Im lucky. If we had more money we would definatly spoend more. We have never saved much, and nothing since we been on one income.
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Posted: 01 December 2008 at 10:35am |
I earn over double what DH does but it all goes into the same account and I pay all the bills (because he doesn't know how to use Internet banking!). We both usually buy lunch (he is better at taking his than I am).
Sometimes I get a bit p*ssed that I have to sacrifice so much of my salary to bills etc (as I used to spend spend spend!) but its all towards the same common goals.
I also cost more to "run", ie hair cuts, nicer clothes for work etc. It swings in roundabouts I guess.
We have a loose budget but are rubbish at sticking to it.
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Posted: 01 December 2008 at 10:38am |
Danni-chick wrote:
We have seperate acounts but share expenses. |
best way to explain our situation too
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Posted: 01 December 2008 at 10:41am |
Do u mean you pay your share of every bill, like half of the phone, and half rent, foos shopping etc? Thats what BIL and his gf do and we think its odd since they been togtehr 5 years. No offence intended if thats how it works for you, we just couldnt be bothered having to divide up everything!
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Posted: 01 December 2008 at 10:42am |
We have a revolving credit mortgage, so try and have as much money as poss in that account. We effectively have one account, but I still have my credit card and bank account from the single days (even still in maiden name - because I am lazy!). The credit card is really only for buying online stuff and the account is to pay off the credit card and we get WFF into it - means I can buy a coffee and things for Luke without getting into mortgage.
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Posted: 01 December 2008 at 10:44am |
Kellz wrote:
Do u mean you pay your share of every bill, like half of the phone, and half rent, foos shopping etc? Thats what BIL and his gf do and we think its odd since they been togtehr 5 years. No offence intended if thats how it works for you, we just couldnt be bothered having to divide up everything! |
Thats how we are doing it, except alot of the time i jut buy the stuff, or pay the bill. I hate it, i hate having to make him pay his half. He complains alot about having no money too.
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Posted: 01 December 2008 at 10:44am |
no we dont divide everything up (except rent , we pay half each ) , its more whoever has the more money that week does the grocerys etc, but the following week it will be the other person .
Lately tho , DF has been paying more , because my hours (and therefore wages) have dropped and hes got a pay rise so his have increased , so we are starting to do it that he pays the bills and the rent and I cover the groceries , and other expenses that come up .
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Posted: 01 December 2008 at 10:44am |
We have a joint account and it's "our" money, even though he's the only one earning, it's not his and mine. We have a strict budget (well, if I stick to it!) that gives us both $50 spending money a week, and we have limits for all other spending eg groceries and petrol. I have been doing a bit of contract work and when that comes in I tend to buy myself a few things that I've been putting off (e.g. clothes) and we have a more relaxed week with the budget, but the rest goes to keep our budget on track. All our bills are on AP. DH monitors the money and sends me email updates each week which I don't always like but know I need them to keep me on track!
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Posted: 01 December 2008 at 10:44am |
We've had joint finances for the past 11 years (we'd been together nearly 1 year when we combined our finances).
We calculate our income as a total amount, not what I earn vs. what he earns. We both contribute to each others success in all facets of life and we share household chores and parenting responsibilities so it makes sense to share our income too (if either of us had to go it alone we'd be stuffed).
We both get the same amount of spending money. I am the treasurer and therefore manage our joint finances but we make joint decisions on household purchases.
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Posted: 01 December 2008 at 10:48am |
MrsMojo wrote:
We've had joint finances for the past 11 years (we'd been together nearly 1 year when we combined our finances).
We calculate our income as a total amount, not what I earn vs. what he earns. We both contribute to each others success in all facets of life and we share household chores and parenting responsibilities so it makes sense to share our income too (if either of us had to go it alone we'd be stuffed).
We both get the same amount of spending money. I am the treasurer and therefore manage our joint finances but we make joint decisions on household purchases. |
I wish ours could be like that! It would be soooo good!
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Posted: 01 December 2008 at 10:50am |
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I am the treasurer |
Hehehe! Thats another offical sounding role to add to my SAHM jobs! Lol! One of which is not "talk on ohbaby all day' opps! Oh well, its Monday!
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Posted: 01 December 2008 at 10:51am |
We have a joint account and it's all our money. However every pay day I split it up into different accounts that I have made. DH and I get an equal "allowance" each pay day ($70 ea per fortnight) and that's our money to do what we please with it.
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