Feeling like crap (long) sorry

It all started yesterday, when we took Rhiannon into Kents mums work as all the ladies wanted to see her, well she was asleep when we got there, and grandma purposely woke her up, well that was 11am, she got passed around to pratically every lady there, by the end of it she was grizzly and over stimulated, but i was told in no uncertain terms that it was a grandmothers peroative, and as she was being handed back to me, she didnt have to worry about the aftermath.

Well the aftermath was that Rhiannon did not go back to sleep until 12am, so she was awake for 13hours, so i spent all yesterday afternoon and evening with a baby who wouldnt be put down, who cried if anyone including daddy came near her, and on top of that my period suddenly decided to get 10times heavier, and i am just so tired and grumpy.

So my poor husband had a crying baby and a grumpy wife last night.

Oh and i did ring the grandmother and have a talk with her, and after she laughed at me and told me that, thems the breaks i laughed at her and told her, that because she was disrespecting my wishes like that, then i felt it was only fair that i disrecpted her wishes to see Rhiannon every week, and that for the next 2 weeks we were unavailable, and if she just turned up on our doorstep i would let her in, but Rhiannon and i would be leaving. ( a bit harsh but i put it down to being so tired and grumpy, and hormonal), then i hung up on her. and prompty burst into tears...

Anyway she rang me back and we had a good talk and sorted it all out, and she has promised not to do that again, and i promised never to threaten her with not seeing her only grandchild.

this morning is looking a bit better, Rhiannon slept until 6am when i feed her, and has been asleep since, i am going wake her in 10mins for her next feed, and hopefully she will just spend the day catching up on her sleep.

Sorry about my long winge but i just needed to vent

oh big hugs, sounds like you had a crap day yesterday!!!

I know how easy it is for the little ones to get overstimulated, I have found this with my DS who is 7 weeks and it is so hard to settle them back down again!!  Good on ya for sorting it out with the MIL, hopefully you wont have the same problem again!

Heres hoping your little one gives you a nice peaceful day today!!

As tired and grumpy as Rhiannon was yesterday, when i woke her at 10am for her feed, she was all smiles, and no matter what happens those smiles make it all better.

she is now in her pram almost asleep again, so after i have dosed up on hot chocolate and homemade chocolate brownie (which btw is really really yummy) i am going to camp on the couch and blob out.

Good grief. I would not put up with any of that nonsense!!!! Not that my Grandparents would do that anyway.

Oooooh I can sympathise on this one too! My DH's family all loved to wake Ella up if she was sleeping when we arrived and would then pass her around until she was completely overstimulated. Then it became a competition between them all as to who could settle her down. Of course this would just upset her further to the point where she was screaming so hard she'd make herself sick. (small satisfaction if it was over one of them )
Good on you for speaking up against your MIL, it can be a difficult thing to do. I hope she's more respectful of your decisions as her parent from now on.

oh I had that with my bestie and my nana. They came to visit me and the boys in hospital and I asked if the each wanted to hold a bub. Next thing I know they are passinf the boys around like rugby balls (my god daughter was there too) I made a comment and was pretty upset when my friend told me I have to learn not to be over protective to which I said i certainly do not!! It didnt help me that the boys had not long started to be handled, i think they were only about 4 weeks at that stage and they were still tiny 3 and 4 pounds about. And yep, they were really unsettled after that. Good on you for sticking up for your wee one

Well its been an interesting week, it took Rhiannon about 2 days to settle down, then on thursday we had a plunket visit, then a coffee group and again she was handled heaps and now is unsettled again, so we have stayed home this weekend, and have limited vistors.

I went out for about 3 hours this afternoon and apparently Kent couldnt put Rhiannon down, she just screamed everytime, i got home, took her from Kent, put her in her pram and shes been asleep ever since, Kent is not impressed...lol

rachaelcampagnolo wrote: Don't u just hate it wen bubs is screaming and the person holding them won't give them back, they just try to stop the crying and its just getting worse and worse until u take bubs back and they say sumthing like oh he must be teething

Sometimes if i'm holding a baby and it starts to cry, I won't hand them back straight away so the mum can have a break. I'll distract or shhh the baby first and then if they don't stop crying I'll hand them back. But if the mum asked for the baby back I'd definately hand him/her over, I remember whenever Ella cried as a little baby my heart would cry every time she did!