Finding it hard to be a Mum today...

I just read Marlene's post about her darling boys, and I have to say right about now I can so relate. Maya has a nasty case of tonsilitis, has had a fever now for 5 days, 4 trips to the doctor, the antibiotics *might* (touch wood) finally be working today, and I am just soooo tired.

I know it's not her fault that she's sick, and she's grumpy and needy, but it's so hard not to lose my temper when she cries inconsolably and won't tell me what I can do to fix it. Plus she's been sleeping in my bed (Willie's in the spare room) so I don't have to get up to her half a dozen times a night, but the flipside is that I don't get much sleep in between her grizzling and wriggling in her sleep. And I am still feeling revolting with morning sickness myself.

How on earth am I going to cope when the twins are here?

your doing a fantastic job already emma, dont get discouraged

Hey Emma - it's completely normal to feel overwhelmed when you're tired. Maybe Willie can have a night to look after her (or another family member) so you can have a full nights sleep?
You'll feel a whole lot better about it all in a week or two when you've both recovered and wonder why/how you felt like this.
The newborn twin stage doesn't last too long and you'll have a support network around you as well.
Are you taking multi vits yet? One thing that I do is have a handful of (wait for it ....) peanuts and raisins at lunch/afternoon tea when I'm tired and that gets me through the rest of the day. Women avoid these b/c we know they're fattening, but a handful when you're exhausted can't do any harm.
Rosie

Yeah i think you should be able to qualify for something?

can totally relate to you was going to post the other day about the same thing, Ayja has decided that 1 sleep a day, of 1 hour is all good. then proceeds to spend the afternoon screaming away in her cot when she is clearly tired - no matter what i do nothing works, getting her up, feeding her, ensuring routine, leaving her till she;s really tired, leaving her to cry, resettling.. NOTHING

she then will sit in her highchair at dinner time and pretty much fall asleep - actually she DID fall asleep the other night. she was sleeping as i lifted her up and stuck her in bed but nooooo still she stood up and screamed. we then spend the night doing the same until she finally falls at about 10.30 lately leaving us to try and do housework, and anything else we have to. she full on choked the other night after inhaling aleaf also - leaving me trying frantically to get the leaf out of her windpipe for about 5 mins, all the time thinking that she would stop breathing. Paris is being a bit of a brat too and screams and yells and tantrums at nothing, bites, stomps, hits and is nasty, and it all just feels ick. I hate how i act, i hate how they act, i just want my happy healthy kids again.. and sleeeep.

Hang in there Emma. I can relate and feel for you as being preg and tired just makes everything so much worse and hard to handle.

Hope it all gets better for you.,

Edited by mum2paris

Can I ask how she managed to inhale a leaf ?? I'm hoping it's a salad leaf rather than an outdoor leaf, ick LOL

Oh emma I so know the feeling. And yep about the help from WINZ - its if you have twins and an older child under the age of 5. Cant remember how many hours it is but just give them a call and find out

Re the coping once they are here - well I told my friend yesterday that I was mailing a boy to her after Jaidyns poo thing lol.
But seriouly you will be fine. You just have to learn to take advantage of all offers of help and to ask for it is you need it.
Also i was reading an old treasures and they said to write a list of things you need doing (when the bubs are here) like the dishes or fold washing etc so when you get visitors and they ask if there is anything they can do you get them to pick something off the list to do and cross it off.
I thought that was a great idea and wish I had known when the boys were younger

Big hugs, Emma!

You can do it! And we're all here for you to vent to when your family is driving you nuts!

Emma - glad to hear it isn't to much atm.. atleast you know it does get better! In the mean time, make the most of any help you can get!!!

And Jax - re: kids choking on leaves (or ANYTHING) you'll be surpised what they find! I can't wait until you have your babe and you discover the delights of an explorative little mongrel!