this is kinda long winded(arent all my posts lol) but i am rather peeved off.....
some of you may remeber that when i found out i was preggy we had 'mates' living with us as we had gotten the guy shall we call B a job on the farm df works on, but their house wasnt ready so B(aged 17) and his partner S(just turned 18) and her baby(now 17 weeks) lived with us for a week. and during that week i got my pos preg test. i also had a bit of horrible morning sickness.
while they were here i did all the cooking, all the cleaning, and their washing. S just sat on her butt all day and always complained that she was bored. she knew i was preg and knew i was rather sick but never once offered to help.
then when their house was ready we were given first option to take it if we wanted as our house is really really horrible, but we let them take the house as we thought it would be a better house for them and the young baby.
the day before they moved in i went down and helped S do a big clean as it hadnt been cleaned properly when previous people left. and i lent her all my cleaning stuff as they had nothing...
we also lent them our spare bed as they didnt have one...
the night they moved out S's parents came over and helped, and once all their stuff was out of our spare room we realised what a massive tip they had left it in, then df found my white towel. now when df and i got engaged my nanna and poppa sent us a set of expensive white towels with our names embrodiered on them. these towels we have used once and live on a shelf above my normal towels so no-one uses them.....
anyway df found my white towel and it was seriously stained in cow poo.green cow poo and had been sitting in the room for awhile looking at it. B had used it when he had a shower and evidently doesnt shower very well as this towel was almost all green!! anyway i just lost it and burst into tears and told B exactly what the towel was and why couldnt he use a normal towel, and S's dad offered to take it and scrub it clean as even he looked horrified at the state of it, but after numerous soaking and washing the towel now only has the faintest green stain.
this was a few months ago now. we havent recieved a thank you for getting us the job, or a thank you for letting us live with you, for loaning us the bed and everything else, no thanks you for me taking them into town once a week for several weeks so they could go shopping as they had no car, no thank you for taking S to the emergancy room at tokoroa hosp when she got glass stuck in her foot.
B comes up at least once a night to ask df what they are doing on the farm the next day even though he has already been told at the shed after milking. he always turns up when we are having tea and just stands there and looks at us, df will go out and have a quick chat then come back and have to reheat his tea cos its gone cold.
if i am going to hamilton or over to the mount or even just to matamata i always text and ask if she wants to come for a drive or what ever. she always just texts back 'no'. i even took her to play center a couple of times to meet new people as i remember what it was like to be stuck out on a farm and not knowing anyone and not being used to living out in the country.
if B turns up and df isnt here i just say hey hows everything going S and baby ok, df isnt here but he should be back soon...unless i am super busy then i normally just say sorry df isnt here at the moment....
a couple of weeks ago df mentioned that we need our spare bed back for people coming to stay over christmas and could they get the matress cleaned(they dont use a condom when they have sex, and i dont want my guests sleeping on other peoples 'left overs') and have the bed returned to us by the end of this month. to me that sounds perfectly resonable.the bed was only on short term loan, they have had plenty of time i get one of their own and df did ask a couple of weeks ago so its over a months notice... now B is all peed at me and i find out yesterday he has been telling the other workers on both farms about how much of a bitch i am and i am never nice to him or S and how i gave them the bed and now i am all sh*tty cos i want it back now. one of the other workers just turned to him and said 'every time i am up there she is really nice to me'. and B said most of this infront of df and df was too shocked to say anything lol.
but how would you feel about all this??? we bent over backwards for them and this is how they repay us?i am feeling rather hurt about all this
whew sorry for the long post...... i just need to get it all out and get some opinions......
how would you feel???
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