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Topic: Over 30s: how long did it take.... Posted: 09 May 2008 at 10:58am |
How long did it take you to get pregnant?
I turn 30 in a few months and DH and I are going to TTC #2. Like with everything else in my life I'm ultra organised and am already preparing myself to a point where I may be over-analysing, actually freaking out would be a better word.
It took us 3 months to conceive Michaela 3 years ago but that's not to say this one will be as easy, infact according to the stats it will be harder. I also read that if you don't conceive within 12 months to see a doctor but if you're over 30 go sooner (how much sooner? maybe I should go and see one now  or do you think a couple of month prior to TTC is too early  ).
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Posted: 09 May 2008 at 11:14am |
Hehe, I know where you're coming from - I'm the kinda person who likes to be organised (actually DH would say 'control freak!'  )... growing up I had always thought 'married at 28, kids at 30' - I got the marriage bit right but am now 31 1/2 and we've been TTC for 18mths without success.
To be honest I'm not entirely sure if it's my age as I'm about to see a specialist for suspected endo but I do know the stats on rates of fertility at this age  and it can be a bit depressing (google is not your friend!)
Unfortunately what I've found is 30-35 is a bit of a limbo land... what I've been told was under 30 wait at least til 12 months has passed before further investigation and over 35 it's only six months 
My doc was lovely tho' and after a chat with her about our plans she said at about 6mths in to start charting to see what my cycles were doing and if not PG by 10 months trying she'd start with what tests she could... and hence me now going to fert specialist, cause scans on me show an endometrioma on my right ovary.
Sorry for the ramble, hope this helps a bit
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Posted: 09 May 2008 at 12:09pm |
I read somewhere in the OhBaby! planning pregnacy info that over 30 you should see the doc, I think you are also ment to get a pre pregnacy check done before ttc anyway regardless of age, they will give you folic acid to take while concieving and do some blood tests.
The amount of time it takes to concieve depends more on the individual I think. A friend of mine took 5 years to concieve #1 when she was under 30 then at 35 it only took 6mths for #2 then #3 took 1 month of accidently forgetting to get her depo on time when she was 41! So I think it would be hard to work out an exact time.
I would suggest charting right from the beginning so if it doesn't happen in 6mths the doc will have some idea of how your cycles are.
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Posted: 09 May 2008 at 12:25pm |
Pfft I didn't go and see anyone. I stopped taking the pill in April and we were pregnant by December. I didn't do anything special, took the Folic Acid when I remembered and just carried on as normal.
I did try the charting thing, but I found that was stressing me out and I felt the added pressure of doing things at the right time, so we basically "winged" it.
Have fun practicing though
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Posted: 09 May 2008 at 12:43pm |
I don't think being 30 makes any difference really - it all depends on the individual. With Elle, I started TTC at 25 and it took 2 years and treatment for "unexplained" infertility. With the last 2 I got pregnant straight away (and only lost them 'cause one was a blighted ovum and one was a partial molar, both of which are just bad luck, not because there was something wrong with me).
My friend started TTC her first child at 38 and she got pregnant 1st month trying! She ended up having twins  .
As hard as it is, the important thing is to relax :) If you feel like it, go get the once over from your doc for peace of mind. Otherwise, just try and if not pregnant within 6 months see your doctor.
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Posted: 09 May 2008 at 1:01pm |
I was 34 when I had Eva. It took us about 8 months to fall pregnant, but were only really trying in the last 4 months.
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Posted: 09 May 2008 at 1:02pm |
I'm 32 and it took us one month  We were very lucky
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Posted: 09 May 2008 at 1:05pm |
ok, dont shoot me! I am 35 (was 34 when we conceived Tom).
Tom.....first month trying
MC......first month trying
this one......one time unprotected while waiting for first AF after MC
needless to say I am VERY scared of my husband's sperm!
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Posted: 09 May 2008 at 1:16pm |
I'm with nzpiper in the don't shoot me group. I stopped taking the pill 31 December 2006, turned 33 January 5, Found out we were about pregnant late Feb, Blair arrived 15 October
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Posted: 09 May 2008 at 2:40pm |
i relly hope it donst take long in your 30s because by the time i have another i will be in my 30s
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Posted: 09 May 2008 at 2:51pm |
I'm 32, been ttc a year.
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Posted: 09 May 2008 at 3:04pm |
i was 29(by 10 days) when we got preg..1st month after we were allowed too.. i got married and preg by 30 (by 10 days ) lol..
:)as the others said i think its an individual thing..so i would give it 6 months and if nothing happened go see doc..
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Posted: 09 May 2008 at 3:32pm |
With Zac I was 34 and got pregnant as soon as I went off the pill. With Samara I was 36 and it took 3 months of trying.
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Posted: 09 May 2008 at 3:33pm |
I have a friend who got pregnant at 38 without actively 'trying' after being told she was infertile, then got pregnant accidentally 4 months after the first one was born. seems like anything can happen...
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Posted: 09 May 2008 at 4:01pm |
i conceived all of my kids in my thirties....started in 2000 and now have three kids.
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Posted: 09 May 2008 at 4:10pm |
I'll hopefully be able to let you know in a month or so!!
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Posted: 09 May 2008 at 4:23pm |
oh and I should add....I am meant to have PCOS...go figure
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Posted: 09 May 2008 at 4:57pm |
I was 30 when I got pregnant with No 1 and it took 3 months and then 31 when I got pregnant with this baby and it also took 3 months.
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Posted: 09 May 2008 at 5:18pm |
Okay...I thought I'd reply since your age/scenario is very similar to my own!
I conceived my DS during our first month of ttcing. I was 28 at the time when I concieved, and was 29 when DS was born. Perhaps I was more fertile when I was younger...or perhaps we were just incredibly lucky to concieve so quickly!?!?!?
Now, we are trying for #2 and I'm 30 (going on 31 in a couple of weeks) and its definately not so easy this time round!
I sort of knew that statiscally speaking it would be harder, now that I'm 'over 30'...but we have been trying for 8/9 months now, and still no luck....
I've been charting for 6/7 months of that time, and have discovered that my Luteral phase is substantially shorter than it was prior to the birth of DS, so suspect that might be causing a bit of difficulty in us concieving? ANyway, I've made an appointment with the FPA doctor for next week to run some tests and find out whats going on...
WHY OH WHY is it taking so long this time round?!?!?!
So anyway, I'm glad I didnt put off ttcing any longer! And I'm glad I started charting early on, so I am armed with the facts, for when I go to my doctors appt!  Reckon I can justify going to the doctor before 12 months is up based on the fact that I KNOW our timing was perfect every month based on ovulation dates, rather than an average non-educated ttcer iykwim?
Will be interesting to see if the doctor agrees with me, next week!
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Posted: 09 May 2008 at 8:54pm |
I've heard the average is 6 months for a 30 year old. This was our 6th cycle and no luck yet :( I've got two friends who got pregnant first try and one 3rd try (all in their 30s)so I guess you never know.
Charting is probably a good idea so you know when you ovulate, just in case you miss the window.
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