My poor DH and my annoying side...

DH has been away on and off (mostly on) for the past 9 weeks, with another 3 to go. That's fine, but he's starting to get really down about the whole army experience seeing as he lost a promotion last year and a deployment due to me being pregnant (I was an 'inconvenience' to his boss basically).

Well he's been training corp trainees which he hates, but he's doing it (with much swearing and yelling at them etc etc).

So, long story short, in case you don't already know, there was a stabbing down in Tekapo yesterday at 1am. Guess who had to patch the poor guy up, call the ambulance, go and look for the offender then charge 9 of his trainees for a separate incident all on the same day! Man oh man, he's one tired puppy.

So what do I do? A day after he gets home (for 3 nights only) I start snapping at him to do things while he's home. I can see myself doing it and know I shouldn't but evil wife seems to take over and just wants things done now, now, now! It doesn't help that he missed Jack crawling etc so now he doesn't realise that he can't just leave things on the ground, so I'm picking up after 2 babies.

Do you feel like you sometimes (or maybe always) treat your partner with less respect than you should? Or treat them like a child (mainly cos men often act like them)? What would your DH/DP/DF say is your most annoying quality?

Mine would definitely be using the same tricks of 'mind control' I use on kids, on him Nothing wrong with that, is there?

Edited by emz

Absolutely agree about the respect thing. I find I'm worse if I've been at home all day by myself. You think I'd welcome some conversation but instead I'm often really snappy (and this is without the stress of a baby).

DH would say my worst quality is my lack of patience. If I have something I want done and I can't (or won't) do it, I get mightily pissed off if he doesn't move as soon as I give my "suggestion".

And, no, nothing wrong with a bit of mind control, esp if they don't realise you're doing it

Hugs Emz, must be hard having your man away so much, and must be hard for him being away from you guys too.
I don't even know where to start with my annoying qualities except that to say no matter how much I go on about how useless he is, Willie is a saint for putting up with me. I am an OCD control freak, when I want things done I want them done NOW and I want them done MY WAY, and being fat and pregnant and tired atm I am not physically able to do the things I usually do which frustrates the heck out of me and he ends up wearing that frustration.
To his credit, he doesn't ask me what I do all day even if he comes home to a pig sty coz he knows I work damn hard and look after the kids at the same time, in fact he was bugging me and bugging me about when I was going to start maternity leave coz he thought I was doing too much.

oh im so glad im not the only one!
DP is really good to me , i mean im on my new computer that he spent all week building , last night he looked after Cailtyn and my friends daughter so my friend and i could go out to have a drink for our friend who died a year ago today , he isnt C's real dad but never complains when i have to put her first and happily went to Waiwera yesterday AND went on the slides with her ( I dont like water slides)
and im so impatient with him , and so bossy , and i bet half the time he thinks i dont appreciate it , probably cos i dont think to thank him .
Gees poor guy, im gonna have to make a big effort too !

I'm suprised that Matt still wants to marry me to be honest :P He got the BIGGEST mouth full of abuse this afternoon for not helping me (thomas had a bad day and daddy wanted to play on the computer) poor thing.