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Syd
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Topic: working after baby has arrived? Posted: 25 May 2006 at 3:16pm |
Hi Ladies, just wondering what everyone is up do after bubs arrives? I have a small business that I run from home parttime and also am employed part-time. I am planning on giving up the employed work and concentrating fully on my business after bubs arrives. My only worry is in reality how hard will be to continue the business from home with a baby? I'm trying to work out what childcare I will need if any and how much? I given myself three months off from the business after the birth but when I start up again it will be summer and my busy time. Does anyone else have any experience/advice with this sort of thing?! And what are other people up to? Its good to get other opinions!!
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Posted: 25 May 2006 at 3:20pm |
I'll be on a years maternity leave but whether or not I acutally go back is up for debate. If we can manage on one income then great I won't go back. I can't see myself wanting to.
I'd love to find something I could do from home.
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Posted: 25 May 2006 at 3:22pm |
I am taking 12 months maternity leave also and within that time I will decide on whether or not to go back to work. Possibly not as we are wanting to have two children quite close in age.
Like you Paws I would also like to find something to do from home and earn my own money as I am going to feel guilty spending my husband's money as I am so used to getting my own pay packet
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Posted: 25 May 2006 at 3:24pm |
Yeah we probably won't be putting off trying for number 2 either. And with 2 youngsters it seems pointless working full time if most of it would go to daycare!
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Posted: 25 May 2006 at 3:29pm |
I am going to take 4 months maternity leave - one before and three after, I am just about to start a new venture taht I can do from home, and by the time my maternity leave finishes I will have been doing it for about 6 - 7 months. If it is working by the time I sais I would go back then I will stay at home, but if it looks like it is miles away from working I will have to go back to work for a while just to get cash flow going again...I am going to try my hardest to make this home business work so taht I can stay at home, but at the end of the day it's all down to cash flow unfortunatley!
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Posted: 25 May 2006 at 3:31pm |
When I started maternity leave, I thought I would be back at work within four months....now it is 15 months since I finished.....
We decided to go for trying to have two close together in age - and here we are - 22 odd weeks preggers with Andrew turning one on Saturday. It's starting to get scary now!
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Posted: 25 May 2006 at 3:31pm |
Do you think its feasable to work from home and still not need any extra daycare/nanny? I'm the same, its does all seem a bit pointless if you end up spending most of your earnings on childcare, although I know my work will require about 20 hours a week of my time. I just don't want it all be at night so I don't see the hubby anymore :( I suppose it all depends on what your baby is like aye? Saturdays are sussed as I have a very enthusiastic nanna round the corner, and hubby sometime sget Saturdays off.
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Posted: 25 May 2006 at 3:35pm |
just read you post mrs fantic and that is pretty my plan too. My business gives me a part time income at the mo, but really need to crank it up over the next year while I take my extended leave from my part time job. If all goes to plan I can just stay working from home. Its really important for me to work for myself as I want to be able to take the kids to school and be there for them after school. fingers crossed!!
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Posted: 25 May 2006 at 3:36pm |
oh and good luck with it!!
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Posted: 25 May 2006 at 3:52pm |
Hi
Im having just over 4 months off. My husband works from home so plans to do that and look after the baby as well after I go back to work. Realistically, though I dont see that working too well, and am already looking at some other options. I think I will probably work from home 1 day or 2 half days, and we have an aunty who is very keen to have him one day a week. My husband has clients that come to the house and meetings etc, so if he has the baby full time, I think he will be run of his feet and not able to do justice to either.
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Posted: 25 May 2006 at 3:58pm |
umm.... that was my worry too?! What other options are you looking at?
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Posted: 25 May 2006 at 4:01pm |
Hi there, it really depends on what kind of work you do & if you will be able to drop everything if necessary to sort bubs.
I was milking cows which only required me to work a couple of hours in the morning & a couple of hours in the afternoon so I managed to tweak my boy's naptimes to suit & he would quite happily sleep in his pram in the dairy where he was safe.
I started milking cows when he was about 2-3 weeks old & now he is 19 months old. I very rarely had any problems but if I need to sort him out then I dropped my work. If I had to pay for childcare then it would have been pointless working.
The only thing I can suggest is maybe start back up before you get into your busy season so you can ease into it & see if it will work.
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Posted: 25 May 2006 at 4:02pm |
my work is pretty good and my boss has suggested me working from home some of the week. Cant imagine Ill be doing much work :). Also my husbands sister is a sahm and my Aunty is keen to look after him one day a week - so really Im just looking at ways that my husband can continue with his business, but also avoiding daycare, for as long as we can.
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Posted: 25 May 2006 at 4:08pm |
I can't work much now, so when baby arrives I expect looking after her to take up all my energy, so won't be continuing employment. If my health picked up, and I end up feeling too housebound or unstimulated, I'd consider a few hours a week work or volunteering somewhere. I can understand the reluctance to give up earning any of the household pinga's and leave your hubby/partner to earn the lot... it's a HUGE change! Not only less money, but it changes your relationship. We encountered it earlier than expected, and you just have to be prepared to review how your finances work and what goes where and whose responsible for what, and the magic word: communicate about where you're at with adjusting to it. 'Cause it's a biggie but will only make you stronger if it doesn't kill you!!
Hope I don't sound like I'm pushing for mums to stay at home... regardless of whatever my plans are, I'm not trying to convert anyone!! It's just that I don't know what it's like to return to work so can't comment!
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Posted: 25 May 2006 at 4:10pm |
That sounds like a good plan, getting the sleeps to work in with you as well?! I'm lucky in that I could just drop what I'm doing if need be except whan I'm out on a job, whoch is mostly weekends anyway, in which case nana has already offered her services. Toni, does your boy still sleep for those two two hour stints when you need him to at 19 months?
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Posted: 25 May 2006 at 4:18pm |
Hi Syd, unfortunately no he doesn't sleep in two lots now he just has one sleep for about 3-4 hours.
But he is quite independant & I get him playing with his toys & have snacks & drink ready for him when I need to get stuff done.
It is definitely do-able its just a matter of being a little organised & having a flexible routine.
I hope that helps?
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Posted: 25 May 2006 at 4:21pm |
Yeah Syd it sounds like we are in similar situations! The reality is I need to earn a set amount of money, we have financial commitments so I figure if I can manage it at home taht will be great, but if not I dont see that I will have much choice but to go back to work...but I am pretty confident I can make it work - if I get too busy and I can afford it I will probably get someone in to do the housework a couple of times a week - that way if I am runnign around doing work and looking after baby at least I will know that the cleaning is done, thats one strategy to make it work at home...but like I said only if we can afford it. Ideally my grand master plan is to grow my business to the point where I can afford someone to come in in teh mornings to watch bubs so I can get out and meet clients, do stuff etc, and then I can be home in teh afternoons. MOst of my actual "work" is on a computor so I can do that at whatever hour suits really, if baby is awake through the night I can sit up and work, and it wont matter too much if I sleep later the next day...
but it will be tough...and good luck to you too ofcourse...you shoudl keep me updated on how you are going and I will do teh same, we can share strategies for coping with work and baby at home
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Posted: 25 May 2006 at 4:24pm |
dont forget to share your stragegies online - then I can pass them along to my hubby!
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Posted: 25 May 2006 at 4:42pm |
Sounds like a good plan will defiantly have to share strategies!! I've just noticed our bubs are due around the same time - and this is also your first. It will be a big learning curve for us then!! And for you Erin and your hubby!
I like the idea of a someone to do the housework!!! Like you most of my work is computer based during the week, then I meet clients and have my 'definatly no baby interuptions' jobs at the weekend. (I'm a wedding portrait photographer in case you were wondering!) I have an assiatnt who works with me on jobs who keen for more work, so If I find I get more than I can manage alone that should work for her also. She is also a mum so need flexibility as well.
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Posted: 25 May 2006 at 5:32pm |
I haven't read ALL of the posts but was just thinking, if you need to do some "hard" work that you need to concentrate on is it worth putting baby in daycare for a morning a week / fortnight? Gives them other kids to play with (Social skills) and you a break...
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