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angel4 
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Posted: 14 July 2009 at 4:13pm |
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my son henry is almost 1 and he has started what i would call tantrums. Its generally because he doesnt get something he wants or he is frustrated about something (like his block trolley being stuck against a wall and he cant turn it). He also does it if i tell him not to touch something or tell him off. He does the head shaking thing and if he's sitting bouncing up and down on his bottom and screaming (hope that made sense). It looks like tantrums ive seen older children do. The question i have is what do i do? do i just leave him there and walk away? when its his block trolley i try and help him turn it round rather than just solving the problem for him im trying to help him learn to fix it himself. What about when hes being naughty? he seems to know things hes not meant to do - he's too young for time out right?
Sorry im just a bit confused as to how im meant to deal with this. Id quite like to nip it in the bud earlier rather than later if you know what i mean.
TIA
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Febgirl
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Posted: 14 July 2009 at 4:46pm |
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Is he walking yet? My DD went through a similar thing at around that age and it was because she couldn't move to get what she wanted and got frustrated.
As for being naughty I'm probably not much help as I tend to giggle at DD tantrums! I've found distraction works quite well though - if she is touching or picking up something she shouldn't I say no, we don't touch that as it can hurt us (or whatever the reason is I don't want her to do what she is doing), then show her something else to play with.
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Posted: 14 July 2009 at 5:42pm |
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no hes not walking yet. Though today decided to quite independently push his block trolley around - which is actually quite impressive as it goes really fast on our wooden floors. The thing is though he can get everything he wants to (mostly things we dont want him to) by crawling and standing up. Im wondering if we need more things for him to play with - we dont have many toys you see. When we are at other peoples places he is fine so maybe he's bored. It just does my head in a bit at the moment
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Posted: 14 July 2009 at 8:09pm |
Caden Is the same, he is just over one, and he started doing it a little while before he turned one.
If I tell him no, he will get angry and get on his hands and knees and bang his head on the ground a few times, or he will throw his arms around and hit stuff and me, he screams and arches his back too 
I have started ti ignore him when he does it, and he doesnt do it for very long now cos he knows Im not watching him.
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Posted: 14 July 2009 at 8:28pm |
hehehe Febgirl, I can't help giggling at DS tantrums either. We've been trying out some of these techniques angel4 - hope they work for you too  .
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Posted: 15 July 2009 at 8:09am |
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Hayden has started throwing himself backward when he's pissy at something, he doesnt usually doe it with such force that he hurts himself so I just ignore it and carry on playing with the toys or whatever distraction is close by, I dont change my tone of voice or pay any head to his behaviour.
When he is doing something he knows he shouldnt, like touching the TV etc, I just say Dont Touch and remove him from the object and distract him with something else.
No idea if this is the 'right' way to do things but there you go!!!
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Posted: 15 July 2009 at 11:14am |
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YIp my boy is up there with the rest of you on the tantrum front. I try to decide if it an attention seeking I didn't get my own way tatrum or a I need help and a support tantrum and I deal with them individually.
If it is attention seeking after I've just said no I just say "when you are finished being angry I will play with you" I usually just move a little bit away from him and start playing with one of his toys or go back to whatever it was that I was doing.
If he is needing support I try name the emotions he is feeling so that as soon as he is old enough to use words he'll know how to use them. Then I cuddle him and help him out. Usually that will solve it.
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Posted: 15 July 2009 at 11:27am |
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I can remeber this hapenning to Gabrielle when she was getting frustrated about not being able to do things. I think it helps to teach them how to deal with the frustration. Gabrielle would mostly get frustrated cos she didn't know how to say what she wanted, like to be picked up, or for more drink, or for helo with something, so we spent time teaching her the words she needed to say; 'help, 'more', 'up' - before then she would whine hysterically and drop herself to the floor or throw her cup etc etc etc.
Maybe when your son gets frustrated with the trolley you can teach him to ask you to help. It will take a while but he will get it :)
For naughty tantrums I would ignore if you know he is safe :)
Good luck!
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1 yr old behaviour
