Godparents

for me T's godmum is my best friend and his godfather is DP's bestfriend, for us it was mainly just a special title I guess because they are such good friends of ours. They don't have a specific function or anything like that, just lets them know that they are two really important people in ours and DS's lives

I thought God Parents were a religious thing I got God parents when I was baptised catholic as a baby.

We're not baptising baby at this stage she won't be having god parents.
Doesn't mean you can't you can do whatever you want these days I guess.
I've seen those naming ceremony's where the couple nominates people usually non-relatives for the baby, another adult infulence I guess.

Having a legal guardian if anything happens to Dh and I something we need to think about I guess. There aren't many people I'd want baby to go to.

caliandjack wrote: I thought God Parents were a religious thing .

Yep i thought this too.

DD isnt baptized therefore she doesnt have any godparents.

I have friends who have about 6 godparents if not more for there daughter because they didnt want certain friends to feel left out

(oh, and mine were both baptised ,and have 2 god mothers and 1 god father each( we have more female friends than male )

I think godparents are supposed to be a religious thing, ie you have a ceremony like a baptism or christening. If you're not religious you can do a naming ceremony and have god parents that way but I don't know if they are called something else? I think it's one of those things with not too many rules anymore and you can do it how you think fits your family best. The function of them used to be that they would care for the children if the parents died but I don't think it's that anymore. I see it more as being a role model and good influence and someone who will always be there for them.

I am going to have my sister as godmother and brother and brother in law as godfathers. The reason Im having 2 godfathers is because brother in law lives in England and works as a pilot so he's not around that much so I'd like to have him but have my brother who will be more of an influence in baby's life. We will be having baby christened at the same church we married in, when he's a few months old I think.



Edited by mrsh101

Just wanted to say re Godparents being involved in your life/your kids' lives ... my Godparents were close friends of my parents when they were all younger. They've stayed good friends of BOTH my parents through their divorce and remarriages and came to my wedding as well I get emails from them every once in a while and they always seem to keep up with what's going on over here. They're also good friends of my aunty and uncle so I suppose that helps

DH on the other hand hasn't seen his Godparents since he was school age and when he asked his parents if they wanted to invite them to our wedding they said they'd rather invite another couple instead! So I don't think it's just a modern thing that Godparents do or don't keep in touch.

I have found that the role of the Godparent depends on the religious practices of the family. If you are regular church goers then the more traditional role of godparent would be considered when choosing the person.

If you are more an occasional or special occasion only chruch goer then the criteria becomes more about giving someone a place of honour. This may be to the people who would be your childs guardians should the worse happen, or for a family friend to recognise the close relationship you have with them.

As for the relationship your child has with their godparents. Maybe this is something you could discuss with the possible candidates. Do you want them to be part of the childs life and act as a secondary support system or are you happy for a more honorific position.

Edited by milipidi

^^ Thats a good point as well - i'd love him to have someone cool in his life that he can go to when he's older and his uncool parents don't understand. Or when its too embaressing to come to us.