flat mate

hi, i have a problem with our flat mate, he lives in our sleep-out out side and is also my partners mate, but recently he has been doing dumb things like growing drugs for his friend after i said no and not evn tring to hide it whn i found out i told him to remove them from our proberty and they were but no apology nothing just has avoided me for a week to scard to talk to me i guess..... and him and his mates were drinking he drunk to much and wnt to bed so the others like silly boys do put paint in his hair i was away at my mums 4 hours from home and he txtd me at 4.30 in the morning blaming me for it and he wouldn't clean it up and made it sound way worse then it was, said it was on the carpet and walls when it wasnt, and all his bedding is ours coz he had none so i dont see y he was so angry i wasn't very angry at what happened but how he blaimed me and swore at me etc and neva apologized or anything i dont know what to do, i want to get a new flat mate but because my partner is friends with him, im just not sure what to do, he also pays harly anything just 115 a week for rent power sky internet and phone and we have a swimming pool he neva helps clean it or the house, i think we could get a better renter more money to help pay the mortgage and somebody thats cleaner and helps out. any suggestions? please......

Edited by cole88

Make sure you and your DH is on the same page.

Have a short, but very firm conversation with your renter, explaining that it is not working out and that it is better for everyone if he leaves.

Had him a formal 1 month notice to leave - make sure it is formal. I assume you have no rental agreement, but 1 month is standard.

If he doesnt leave, then you have grounds to have him legally removed.

thanks guys, yea i think ill tell him that you need to pay more and i no he wont so will move out or im going find somebody and give him 2 weeks notice lol

Yea - the one thing I'd do first is make sure you and your husband are on the same page that he's going (even if you have to be firm with your hubby about that!) You don't need this chap to make trouble between you two, easier to avoid that by both being clear he's leaving.

To be honest, I'd tell him exactly why you're kicking him out, rather than just hiking the rent (although that is an easy out). What a drop-kick, having a cushy ride like he's got and then abusing the position he's got with you guys Specially with your daughter round, like Jazzy said it could have all sorts of consequences.

Holy Crap yes kick him out, definitely make sure your man is on the same page as you though. If he got done for even possession CYF would be looking at you & your little girl, a total nightmare you do not want to go through, I've seen it happen far too many times before, =(.

hehe is the sleep out big enough for a couple and a baby ?