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Posted: 01 April 2011 at 10:51am |
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Hi I'm due first week of november and planning a homebirth for baby 2 - just wondering how many others are also doing it at home?
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Posted: 01 April 2011 at 11:11am |
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Yip. That is the plan. We are having to do an unexpected shift of house but it is my intention to birth at home if at all possible.
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Posted: 01 April 2011 at 2:36pm |
*puts hand up* yup we're planning a homebirth for our 2nd bubs, due in 6 weeks 
Looking forward to seeing my mw in a week and a half so we can talk about it, ie when to start getting stuff ready, whether I need to pack a hospital bag just in case etc etc.
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Posted: 01 April 2011 at 2:52pm |
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Yip, me too. What are you going to do with your DS during the birth?
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Posted: 01 April 2011 at 4:10pm |
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I am planning on keeping our DS with us and having a close friend their to support him. If he starts finding it all too much she'll take him to her place but not expecting him to have issues, we've talked about it a lot and I think he has a pretty good understanding of what to expect.
Of course if our new home is super tiny he might have to go to my friends house just to free up some space.
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Posted: 01 April 2011 at 7:07pm |
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I'm not sure what to do about my toddler for the birth. He gets quite upset at the sight of blood and worries about me if I'm hurt so maybe not the best to have him there but I don't know where else he could go - I've never spend more than a couple of hours away from him! I'll be interested to hear how it goes for you all.
Rachelsea, only 6 weeks to go ... exciting! Is it your first homebirth?
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Posted: 01 April 2011 at 8:38pm |
Rach, definitely pack your hospital bag, and do it properly. We just did a half-hearted job, and then poor DH had to do a mad run-around packing job when we did need to transfer. It'll be easy enough to unpack it again afterwards when you don't need it 
I'm thinking I'll pretty much do the same re the toddler. Have her here with someone to mind her specifically. HOpefully it'll be at night, and she'll actually sleep through for a change! And if not, my friend can take her to the park or out on the farm for a bit if need be. I'm actually more concerned about the friend! She's one of very few people I'd be happy to have around, but she's never had a baby, and I kind of wish I had someone to ask who had.
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Posted: 01 April 2011 at 8:57pm |
Yup anahr, my first homebirth  very exciting! DD came 3.5wks early so I'm kinda wondering how long I really have left to go hehe, bubs will probably be overdue this time just to spite me
T-Rex yeah that's what I thought, best to be safe and pack a bag, then I won't need it! Really should have one ready anyway in case he does decide to come before 37wks in which case I'll have to go to hospital anyway.
I'm not sure what to do with the toddler either. I don't know who to ask to watch her, because I do want her here. My Mum thinks I'll be calling her to come and take Chelsea away, because she says a birth is no place for a child to be! But I don't want her taken away! No point asking Dad, lol he wouldn't be into it, and my step-mum is completely anti-homebirth so that won't work. I'd be happy having my friend who was at DD's birth there again, but she's a nurse and doesn't like homebirth either! And my other friends who I'd be happy to have there all have toddlers/babies too so don't want to put them out!
So am hoping it happens over night and Chelsea sleeps thru hehe.
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Posted: 02 April 2011 at 7:35am |
Oh I hope you make it to 37 weeks! I'm pretty sure most MW will only do homebirth between 37-42 weeks because outside of that it's not considered a *normal* pregnancy.
Gosh, it's tricky isn't it? You don't want the support person stressed out, do ya?! I'd have my mum but she'd panic about it being a homebirth (i'm not even telling her that!) so she's not much use. Plus she's hours away, I'm hoping labour won't take that long this time
If we decide to leave her in care for a bit post-baby, I might just let her go off to daycare for the day too, I'm not sure. And maybe get my friend to collect her asap once the baby is here. It's tricky cos my friend is doing her surgery training the week baby is due, so if she ends up in surgery... 
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Posted: 02 April 2011 at 9:48am |
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Ohh I would of loved a home birth! Good on ya guys for doing it though! Had an emergency CS, so no home birth for me! But all the best with that!
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Posted: 02 April 2011 at 10:11am |
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I was keen on a homebirth for this one but had placenta previa..please let us know how it goes for you ladies - if i am ever crazy enough to do this baby thing again a home birth is what i'd prefer and love to hear how it works for others!
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Posted: 02 April 2011 at 11:24am |
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I would 2nd packing a hospital bag. Last time I didnt because I was so sure it was going to be fine. So when I went to hospital, I had nothing... didn't realise I'd have to stay there for 3 days. I had to rely on my partner to bring stuff in but he brought clothes that didn't fit, didn't match & I had to go round looking like a total spaz!
Are you guys doing anything special to prepare, like hypnobirthing, exercises, yoga, meditation etc? I think the reason it didn't work out for me last time was being in the wrong state of mind ... I didn't know how to relax and put everything else out of my mind.
Sorry to hear about the unsupportive relatives. I haven't told my family yet, but I think I'll just be really vague about my plans when I do tell. I just don't even want to hear anyone's negativity.
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Posted: 02 April 2011 at 12:02pm |
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I haven't told my family but have been really open with friends about it and they all seem really supportive or at least keep their opinions to themselves.
As for preparing I've been spending a few minutes each day in location and positions where I think I might be comfortable and just practising my breathing and focusing.
We have to shift now so I'll start the process over again in the new house when we shift. It has been quite hard since knowing we had to shift to try and visualise the birth as I don't know where it will happen anymore.
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Posted: 02 April 2011 at 12:25pm |
How long till you shift puddleducks?
I've told a few friends, but only ones I know will be supportive. Because DD ended up being a hospital birth, I didn't tell most people she was meant to be a home birth. Only a select group of friends. It was easy enough, because most people just presumed it would be a hospital birth and I never bothered to correct them
I think I'm in a pretty good state of mind - I'm very educated about birth which is handy; the trouble last time was with DD not engaging properly so the contractions never really got going. I'll be having a lot of heart-to-hearts with DH in between now and then as to what I want/need from him, but mostly this is up to me.
I'm actually really looking forward to the birth 
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Posted: 03 April 2011 at 10:12am |
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I have had two home births first unplanned second planned and loved it it was fantastic. with my second home birth we had my first DD there she was 20 months old - we had a friend who lived around the corner who could come pick her up if she needed but she was fine I had spoken to her before about how it would be hard work and it would hurt and she could help by holding my hand and that i might scream and yell a lot. just over a year old she remembers it and often comments that her little sister came out of mummy but she was more concerned about the mess than anything else lol. i would totally to it again
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Posted: 03 April 2011 at 11:07am |
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Im toying with the idea of having a HB, mine will be a HBAC, but my MW supports it (she was the one who first suggested it to me!) Im not convinced to, but the more I think about it the more I want to...
Im looking forward to hearing all your home birth stories!
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Posted: 03 April 2011 at 11:15am |
Aww Emmi! Do think about it
Bubba2, thanks for sharing. So you had no support person in the end for your DD? Just someone you could call if you had to, but didn't? Love hearing from someone who's done it before. My DD will be 21-22 months depending how overdue this little one goes...
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Posted: 03 April 2011 at 12:02pm |
Do it Emmi!!
I've only told my mum we're planning a homebirth. She said to my dad and stepmum (when I wasn't there) "I've met Rachel's midwife and am happy about her having a homebirth now" and my stepmum went all crazy, hands over her face and yelling "Oh, she's NOT! OH NO! She CAN'T have a homebirth! I've heard horror stories!!"  lol. So I was expecting a lecture, but she hasn't brought it up with me. But last time I saw her I just casually made up a story about how my mw joked that I might not make it to the hospital in time and end up having the baby at home  hehe she doesn't need to know that we're hoping to not go to hospital at all. Anyway it could be quick seeing as my labour with DD was 3.5hrs and they say the time halves with subsequent labours (secretly hoping that's true!)
I haven't done anything to prepare yet, am waiting till I see my mw next Tues to talk about the birth etc. Will be 35.3wks then. Was looking at the list of essentials for a homebirth this morning though and all I really need to buy is a new shower curtain (we need a new one anyway) so we can use the old one for the birth. I'm not gonna worry about the essential oils and all that as I have no sense of smell so don't really see the point. Everything else we have in the house already.
I'm not sure where exactly I'll give birth, probably in the lounge if it's night time.
Bubba2 that's awesome to hear how your DD was at your 2nd homebirth. I will have to explain about it to my DD. She knows there is a baby in my tummy, she always talks to him and reads him stories. And she says "Brudda come out mama's tummy" then gets a serious look on her face, shakes her head and says "Not yet"  I think she would be concerned about the mess too lol, seeing as whenever she makes a mess she chants "Chelsea made mess. Mama clean it" over and over until it's clean
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Posted: 03 April 2011 at 1:29pm |
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Hi Emmi, you've got to be wherever you feel most comfortable but I think the thing with hospital VBACs (hospitals in general for that matter) is that they can put quite a bit of pressure on you, like to conform to their schedule or to accept interventions. My experience of hospital was that it was really hard to say no to them, because they just kept pushing, offering drugs every 5 minutes. So if you really have your heart set on VBAC, it might be worth at least staying home for most of your labour. If you go for hospital, find out what their VBAC statistics are - if their rates are really low then they are probably not very supportive of it in practice. Sounds like you have a cool MW anyway.
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Posted: 03 April 2011 at 1:40pm |
Are you going to have a pool Rach? I guess if you are a short-labours kind of lady, you might not have time to fill it! I'll be more worried about filling it too soon and having it go cold given my labour was 27 hours last time!!
We live rural, so I laboured on the deck during the day last time and retreated to the family room once it got dark. I'll probably do that again, I think. We have a bathroom just off the family room so it was quite nice being able to go in there and lean over the basin during a contraction.
We'll definitely be hiring one of those gas hot-water heaters this time so that DH doesn't have to spend heaps of time heating water for the pool and can focus on me and DD instead.
Hmm, I wonder how much luck I'll have keeping her out of the pool
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