Tears & obstetric damage support Group

My little guy is 5 months, and I had a 3rd degree tear through my cervix, heading back. Not as bad as yours, but I'm not happy with how it's healed, ongoing consultations with the Tear Clinic at the hospital etc. It would be good to talk to someone in a similar situation.

I am in a similar situation too. I was meant to have surgery to correct it in May, but a couple of days before the surgery, after feeling unwell for quite a while I found out I was pregnant again (I swear it must have been an immaculate conception). I am pretty upset by it all. I am sorry to hear what you have been through, but also glad to be not the only one

Hi Ladies

I had a horrible birth in January, I was treated disgustingly and it resulted in a forth degree tear. Its been five and half months and I experience chronic perennial pain when carrying out normal daily activities. But I have no prolapse. I have been told be Gyane at CHCH Women's that my tear has healed correctly and the pain I am in is not normal. I was told to have sex at 13 weeks postpartum which was awful and I was confined to bed for 3 days afterwards. I have tried again twice since then with the same results. I have also been told this is not normal.

After being fobbed off twice in follow up appointments where I was basically told to go home and suffer in silence, I was told I would need a minor surgery where Botox is applied to the area to paralyze muscle spasms, which could be what is causing the pain. However the Dr was not convinced that this was the problem and told me the surgery probably wont work and to come back in 3 months and she would put me on the waiting list. I asked to be refereed to go private and she consulted with a colleague, which she then said they would so the surgery as early as August.

What I would like to know is:
1) Are there any other women who have been experiencing the same ongoing pain symptoms and been told its not normal?
2) And what have you been recommended for treatment?
3) Has anyone had the Botox surgery?

Great idea of forming a support forum. Is anyone else in chch?

Dr. Perry did my suturing, and Dr Ben Sharp does the Botox treatment. A friend had him for her third baby and said he has excellent bedside manner, he went above and beyond in her care.

I got a second opinion today with Dr Colin Conaghan at Christchurch Obstetrics Associates, he agreed with all the conservative treatment I had so far and agrees the surgery is the best option for me now. But in his opinion he would hold off on the Botox treatment, to see if surgery itself would work and try Botox as a second option if it didn't work.

I didn't realise that my private consultation would be cover under ACC, and my other therapies should be covered too. Thank goodness I have kept all the receipts so I can claim on them.

I tried to get some information from Outpatients on when I would get an opportunity to meet with Dr Sharp but they were clueless as to how the process works. Dr Conghan reassured me I will have an appointment to ask questions before the surgery.

Now I just need to decide where to proceed from here.

Are you on the wait list to have surgery after you have next baby? Are you interested in meeting up? I am in St Albans.

Just subscribing to this thread!

That is great Eassa! My GP and other Dr's as soon as I mentioned ACC went very funny. Like they didn't want to nark on each other. Who was the physio that you saw?

I'm curious 4 months pp and sex hurts like mad, and my scar is bulgy. However normal activities don't bother me, tampons hurt too.

Wondering if I should be concerned or am I being a sissy, I didn't have a tear I had an epistostmy (?) but she said it was 4 layers?

I'm not sure if this is related but I have had chronic thrush since birth.

In addition any laddies that need to have further surgery in the future for their tear. I was just on the phone to ACC today and have been told I should be entitled to care for my son in the weeks following my surgery. I can also pick the carer and ACC will pay them. So if you are in a similar position get on to ACC.

I only wish I had know this post birth as I really could have done with someone then.

All the things they don't tell you! I have an appointment to see a new gyne next week. Really looking forward to a second opinion.

I have not been through anything like this but i just wanted to say how sorry i am that you laddies have had to go through such a traumatic thing at what should be such a special time. I will say i no someone who tore out the whole side and back of her. The Ob had never seen anything like it and that person spent hours getting it fixed. Her next child 4 years later she had a csection and it was a very happy out come with no PND etc like the first time after everything she went through. I wish you all the best with everything.