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Posted: 06 November 2006 at 12:45pm |
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I have been doing some serious thinking about my life...
I have:
No self esteem
No confidence
No libido
Im always emotional and have random little breakdowns when noones around
I get EXTREMELY lonely and sad almost depressed
I have BAD mood swings
Thing is i have never had depression, it runs in the family mum has it. But i can almost see it starting to affect my relationship and want to know from other women what you think? Do i have some minor mild case of PND or just depression? I have no idea about this kinda thing or what to look out for!
Thanks for reading this!
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baalamb
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Posted: 06 November 2006 at 12:56pm |
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Posted: 06 November 2006 at 12:58pm |
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Has it been particularly since you got pregnant or gave birth Jess? I'm no expert but it sounds like something worth talking to a "professional" about be it your GP or a counsellor.
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Posted: 06 November 2006 at 12:58pm |
Sorry, I have no experience with this so can't offer any advice. Just want to send some  your way. I'm trying to send you a PM but your inbox is full....
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Posted: 06 November 2006 at 1:02pm |
Jess, it sounds like you may have the beginnings of PND. Or at least heading in that general direction. Contact your GP and see if he/she can refer you to maternal mental health - they provide counselling, drugs, home help, etc etc and are a fantastic support network. Failing that, have you good friends you can talk to? I know it can get pretty lonely at home with a baby, so perhaps you need to get out to coffee groups, go walking - the weather is brightening up now and people tend to feel sunnier in the summer. Big hugs to you Jess, I really understand how you feel
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Posted: 06 November 2006 at 1:02pm |
Firstly,...
Secondly,...good on you for acknowleging that u might have a prob and may need some help.
It may pay to speak to your Dr, and have a bit of a check-up and a chat. I have a family history of depression also,..and I was very concious of thinking about things that would help me to avoid feeling lonely, isolated etc and putting into place support systems before I had bub.
Do u belong to parent centre or a coffee group or could u phone plunket to see what they can offer u, so u can feel less lonely? I know that u are definatly not alone, and it may help to talk with/ meet with others who are experiencing similar things.
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Posted: 06 November 2006 at 1:09pm |
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Jax - Yer it started when i was later in my pregnancy and sorta hit its peak just recently when i actually noticed that something was up.
To be honest i felt like a bit of a dork asking like i should just know!
I do belong to coffee groups etc but everytime i want to go to the plunket one i have a bad time with Ella her reflux is worse now shes spilling allll the time.
Thanks everyone i have made an appt with my dr for tomorrow. Will get my scan form hopefully for my ovaries to. Good thing is this dr has a 9 month old and is awesome for talking to about stuff!
Im not a fan of counsellors due to seeing them heaps when i was younger with my family for my brother who is ADD ADHD just seemed like they were always saying the things i didnt wanna hear so i naturally hate them now.
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Posted: 06 November 2006 at 1:19pm |
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Jess - for me coffee groups aren't really that relaxing (don't take this personally Wellington ladies!), I don't know whether it is my age or mums generally, but sometimes you need to hang with friends that you aren't just buddies with because of the kid thing. (Good old identity crisis!)
I have a friend who is both. She's a really cool chick to hang with and she just happens to have kids too. I always go and hang with her when I am feeling claustrophobic and need to have a whinge.
So maybe source someone who you can hang with that is fairly close, understands the kid thing, and you know you can talk to about more than pooey nappies and bottle sterilisation!
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Posted: 06 November 2006 at 1:21pm |
Yer Kirst is good for that  Shes a super good friend
I have friends who have PND aswell so thats also good. Now to tell mum she will probably say shes not surprised and my plunket nurse i swear she suspected something!!!
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Posted: 06 November 2006 at 1:25pm |
Wish Ashlee didn't have this stinkin cold Jez but you know you and Ella are welcome here any time... And you know we don't have to talk nappies or bottles either hehehe 
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Posted: 06 November 2006 at 1:31pm |
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Posted: 06 November 2006 at 1:32pm |
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Posted: 06 November 2006 at 1:35pm |
Jess, I'm always here too if you need someone to chat to! Good on you for making that drs appt, hopefully you can find out what is going on with your body as well and the doc can help you out.
Hope you are feeling ok!!
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Posted: 06 November 2006 at 1:54pm |
Jess, it does sound like depression is starting - i've jsut had an exam on it so it is sounding familar. Combined witht he family history I would be seeing someone about it. Def ask your dr tomorrow when you go in and ask to see someone that specialies in PND as not everyone can help with PND and as you have had trouble with councillers before (with your brother) asking for one that knows a lot about PND will have a lot of difference.
Are you going to go back to work at all?? Sometimes having that time away with just adults makes all the difference.
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Posted: 06 November 2006 at 2:01pm |
Oh Jess im sorry to hear that things are a bit rough for you. . Evening primrose oil tablets 3000mg (3 tablets) are ment to be great for moods. I can actually vouch for that as im taking them as part of the treatment for my breast but they also help with PMT BONUS.
I hope that you start feeling better about yourself soon. Do you have anything that you do just for you (hobby wise?) or even if you treat yourself to a facial or manicure of massage once a month or so, they are great pick me ups.
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Posted: 06 November 2006 at 2:08pm |
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Jess. big hugs from me as well.
I'm no expert so have no idea about the PND, but can tell you how I felt going back to work after having Jake - guilty as hell. And while I don't think it was depression, it was that we are all here for you to rant and rave to! After I had my own breakdown (screaming "i can't bloody do this" at hubby and running into room, slamming door), have decided to have a morning off a week - where I can do whatever I want and hubby looks after the kids. Somethng like this help you?
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Posted: 06 November 2006 at 2:36pm |
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Thanks ladies i have the appt tomorrow at 10.15am so ill let you know how i got on afterwards.
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Posted: 06 November 2006 at 3:33pm |
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Hope everything goes well. It sounds like you might (also?) need some more adult company, maybe at home since Ella is refluxy.
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Posted: 06 November 2006 at 5:40pm |
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If you don't like counsellers much, one of my friends is actually a psychologist and she's awesome and normal.. nothing like the typical ones you get and she's online most nights if you wanna chat with her
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Posted: 06 November 2006 at 5:47pm |
Aww Jess! 
Must be something in the air huh? Hugs to you mate
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Ok i need some help here please
