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caraMel
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Topic: Swearing Posted: 22 January 2007 at 5:12pm |
I'm having a problem with a few of our non-baby friends swearing around our kids.
I've worked really hard since having Ella, at stopping swearing and only have the occasional slip up now. (I was terrible before). DH never swears and rightly, feels very strongly about Ben and Ella hearing those words.
I don't want to make our friends feel embarrassed or upset by putting too fine a point on it, and usually I just make a joke by saying something like "I get the blame if Ella uses those words so please don't teach them to her" but you know how it is if you're not used to watching yourself, they keep on coming out.
Some of our friends are really awful for it but after mentioning it to them once we both feel a bit uncomfortable about repeating ourselves.
I need ideas please, how do you all deal with swearing around your children?
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miss
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Posted: 22 January 2007 at 5:17pm |
I will be interested in seeing the responses to this!
I have a total potty mouth, but I think one of my best skills as a teacher  is that when kids are around the bad language seems to totally disappear! So I don't find it an issue switching personally because it is automatic for me (the worst slip up I ever made was 'shut up').
Yet other people seem to swear around kids without any thought, which surprises me and makes me wonder what I will do whn we get there.
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Posted: 22 January 2007 at 5:39pm |
I'm like you, make a point of totally not swearing at all. So it bugs me when others swear, although I don't have many friends who do in front of the kids so I've never had to deal with it as such. Basically as far as I'm concerned, people are going to swear in front of my kids because that's just how it is. My grandma always swore in front of us but that didn't make me a swearer. But... if someone is in my house and swearing more than just the odd 'slip up' I will make an issue of it and ask them to stop.
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mummy_becks
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Posted: 22 January 2007 at 7:19pm |
We have a few friends with children that swear around the children and it is so annoying. Andrew has picked up on some of the words and his fav at the moment... yep fu*k off. It is so not right. We have told Andrew it is naughty to say those words and nobody should say them at all.
I will admit that I do have the odd slip up every now and then but not enough for Andrew to be saying something like that. His daycare even picked up on it and have told him the same things as us.
If you can try and make Ella aware that it is bad and then she may let the other people know that they are bad words.
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Posted: 22 January 2007 at 7:26pm |
I think this is a tough one. I actually will try and keep my mouth if we are at their house. In my own home I would have a swear jar and anyone and everyone that swears must pay a Dollar.
The kids will catch up on it and will catch the adults out and when you are at their homes they will also catch the adults out and it will make them more aware and at the same time teach your kids that swearing isnt the right thing to do.
Well at least I hope it will work when we reach that stage of the game.
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Posted: 22 January 2007 at 10:28pm |
oooh, I have a potty mouth, but JJ is such a parrot now, I am making a real effort not to be so filthy. It REALLY snots me when people think its HILARIOUS to try to teach your bub to say "Ass hole", like on meet the fockers and I caught my stepson trying to teach JJ $hit yesterday. gggrrr
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Posted: 23 January 2007 at 12:08am |
I just say "language" to them and give them a cross look. My DH and I, and my family don't swear, and most of our friends with kids don't either so its only a couple of single friends that do and they're really good about stopping and apologising if they slip up.
Just have a thing that you say, like 'mind your language' or give them a non swear word like 'don't you mean fudge?' and do it every time. They'll soon get the hint.
I think the best way to do it is lead by example. We don't swear so DD doesn't- on the odd occasion she has come out with something I don't make a big deal just shake my head and say- no we don't say that and she stops.
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Posted: 23 January 2007 at 12:18am |
I told the current extra flattie that I'd wash his mouth out with soap if I heard the 'F' word once more  I'm charming!
I do laugh about it... but have been giving an awful lot of stern looks lately. I just make sure I remind them to tell me if I swear too. (Yep - potty mouth here too!)
But at the moment I'm having more of an issue with "Don't" and "Shut up" and "Get out"... I'd rather hear swearwords at the moment!
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Posted: 23 January 2007 at 11:03am |
We've got a couple of friends whose every 2nd word starts with an "F" when they each get on a roll... and there's lots of other words chucked in there that I just don't like to hear in my house. I've noticed that they don't watch their language around her one bit because she's not yet speaking... but I don't want her hearing it either! Just remember, you're the parent and it's not going over the top to 'tell off' friends who (unknowing as it may be) are accidentally training your child in a way you don't want them living. Ain't nothing wrong with a 'hey guys - quit the swearing around my baby'.
And these 2 guys also have other friends with kids who have got them saying "firetruck" instead (they've got a whole assortment of replacement words too) - it gets kinda funny hearing talk about "and this firetrucking big house..." etc.
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