I think Motherhood...

…is easier than I thought it would be…

…is exactly as I thought it would be…

…is harder than I thought it would be…

If you had to pick one, which would you pick?

And for mummies to be, etc…

…will be easy/hard/equally easy and hard

The reason I ask is, I have been talking to a few mums who go “Omg this motherhood/parenting thing is so much harder than I thought it would be!” To which I think, did you not think about it before having kids? Or whilst pregnant?
I have asked a couple of my friends about this and they have said that they honestly never thought about what it would be like… I even asked my mum who admitted it was much harder than she imagined as well, she hadn't really imagined what it would be like!

To me, I think motherhood is exactly as I thought it would be, equally easy and hard. So for me it’s not a shock to the system. When I found out I was UTD, I sought to find every little detail I could about everything and anything to do with kids and having them. I really looked into breast feeding as my mum and grandmother couldn’t breast feed and I really wanted to give it a go. I knew that for a few months I would probably be very sleep deprived with them waking a few times a night. I knew that during the day they would sleep on and off… The possibility of reflux, colic, food allergies/intolerances… The list goes on…

So how are you finding it compared to what you thought it would be like or what do you think it will be like?

(I hope this makes sense as it made for an extra sleep deprived night because I couldn't stop thinking about it!)

I think it is going to be horrendously hard which is why I have put it off for so long.

I'm with you on the friends thing nkap9. I am amazed at the number of my friends who have gone into it blind expecting it to all be fun and easy and then crash and burn.

The link doesn't work Jazzy

bummer try this http://sh*tmykidsruined.tumblr.com/page/1

not sure how to do it.......but it is so funny & there are probably some you have happen also

ETA try the sh*t word with out the * as I think that is an OB thing & that is why I can not put up the link sh*t lol

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I think it's easier, but also harder. It's a lot easier than I thought, because my girls are so cruisy and relaxed, but when we have a bad day....it's way way harder than I imagined. And you can get frustrated a lot easier, because they don't understand. I get cabin fever, because "outings" need to be precision planned...we are going out this afternoon and I have been planning it for the last 2 days Just to try and fit in everything I need/want to do, between fitting in their needs...man it can be difficult!!

I never gave it much thought TBH but when I did I imagined it would be really demanding and hard work. I never thought of smiling happy babies and bliss etc. So I was pleasantly surprised because DD#1 was a textbook baby and very easy.

Unfortunately it lulled me into a false sense of security and having 2 is much much harder than I expected it to be. Especially as DD#2 is a demanding baby who doesn't seem to need sleep.

is harder but so worth it thats only because of the issures james has but outherwise i woulnt change it for all the money in the wirld

At first I thought it was harder than I thought it would be, now that I'm in the swing of things and the 'motherhood gene' has kicked in I think it's a bit easier than I thought it would be. As someone else said, I still find it hard that 'popping out' is now like a full on mission with prams, bags etc involved but I think I've taken to it a lot better than I thought I would! and the 'easy' moments far out way the 'hard' ones

For such little people babies don't travel light.

I think its the same as how I thought it was going to be.

I found it not as hard as everyone warns it will be. I didn't think it was going to be as hard as people warned me it would be - but I just nodded and smiled and didn't tell them that just in case it was!

I didn't get sleep deprived. I think its probably just to do with how I am though. I am naturally a night owl so had no problems with getting up in the night to Jude who fed every 1 and a half hours for the first five weeks of his life. I'm usually worse in the mornings (would rather feed at 2 or 3 at night than 6 or 7 in the morning) but I had no qualms sleeping in with Jude beside me as long as I needed/wanted. I wasn't stressed about getting up and trying to be the perfect mother and housewife.

If I didn't want to, I didn't do any housework. (People used to advise me to forget the housework and I would reply that I hadn't bothered with housework BEFORE I had a baby - why would I worry about it now!?). I have a super super supportive DP. I managed to get a baby who didn't have reflux or colic or any of those nasties and was pretty cruisy. He still doesn't sleep through the night most nights but I don't really find it a problem.

Like everyone I have some bad days or bad hours where things seem a bit tougher or things keep going wrong but I had those BEFORE I had a baby so nothing is new.

It will be lots different with a newborn and a toddler (or a newborn and a few other kids) when we get around to having more. But I'm confident my lazy, go with the flow attitude will get me through once again