How do I choose?

If you really like this mw then maybe you could ask to also meet her back-up mw incase she will not be avail. and make sure you feel comfortable with her also, if you find that during your preg you are not happy with your mw you are able to change only prob there is if your 1/2 way thru alot of the mw may already be booked out. It is a tough decision, I made a bad choice for my 1st mw but wasnt fully aware until I found my last mw who was wonderful in every way. Good luck choosing, ring a few once you have your dates and have a chat and see how you feel about them, also meet them if you are stuck between 2, and don't feel pressured by them to use them.

I had chosen a miw here in lower hutt who was nice to negin with then at my second appointment wasnt right for me and her back up and i didnt mesh right we literally didnt like each otehr.
I was upset as I was 17wks and theres a real shortage of them here in lower hutt.
I was lucky enough my friend recomended her midwife, she was booked though but went out of her way to find me a midwife and I love the midwife she found me, and she happened to be my back up so I was very excited.
When you meet your midwife you will know from how they tlak to you, explain things etc whether you get along with them or not. No matter how far along you are into your pregnancy if you dont like your midwife you have every right to change.
You want one who will keep you well informed, be willing to answer any queries you have etc, and most of all one you can get along with who isnt pushy. You need to make sure you know their stances on birthing and breastfeeding also. As my first midwife I ahd with Haleigh was a little pushy on the breastfeeding side of things when I had real trouble and switched to expressing she wasnt very happy, and even less happy when I went to formula, so you need to know oyur midwife will support you with no matter what decisions you make.
Good Luck with finding a midwife, and all the best for your scan.
Let us know how you get on

That's right you want a m/w who is not too busy or even if she is still take's the time t oget to know you and spend a little time just chatting. I think it is really important that a m'/w takes the time to gwt to know you and your partner. That was one thing about our m/w she was willing to just chat a little about random stuff as well as baby stuff so we got the scence she was or is more of a friend then anything else I know that even tho I am not PG if I needed anything at all Liz would make the time to see me. Even tho I knew she was busy she never made me feel rushed or anything one time she just came and sat with us for about 2 hour's just chatting.

Oh yeah and includes' your partner as much as possible. Some m/w have a habbit of for gettign that Dad is as important part as much as the Mum's.

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I agree with being able totalk about your mw about anything, my one I had with Haleigh was basically like talking to a friend, she had a wicked sense of humour to which made it easier on DF during the labour.
The midwife we ahve at the moment as soon as I met her she treated me like a friend, which was great cause it made me feel less nervous after a bad experience with the one I had originally contacted.
Yeah I agree with having one who includes your partner the whole way through it, some forget that they get jsut as nervous about the big day as you do.

I wasn't too thrilled with my first midwife who worked through Auckland Hospital, but I had to change halfway through my pregnancy anyway as we moved to the North Shore - toniellis from here recommended her m/w to me (Jill Allen) and she is fantastic !! Also got lucky that she was able to fit me in at such a late stage. We just got along really well, and she was happy to really include DH in appointments etc.

I've started to look, as I've been over here for two weeks staying with my mum while my tooth was pulled.

Heaps are booked out, but I'm pretty sure I'll get one soon.. Hopefully.

It's nice to be over here with family, the only thing is I miss DP cause he's still in Thames till we move. But I have to go back over to Thames this weekend so that I can see the midwife next week. Then only a few weeks to go before we move FINALLY!

We are going to stay with my stepsister for a few weeks till we find our own place. I'm SO sick of moving

Wow Monique you're 20 weeks now! HALF WAY! Oh god that means I'm 25 weeks.

I am really pleased with my MW and backup too! They also have another pair of MW's that work with them who a friend had, so if you are in Akld round Mt Wellington to more East I would reccomend Pregnancy Care Midwives in GI.

You guys are all lucky to have a choice (not meant in a mean way). Here our GP is our LMC, then when we go into labour we go to the hospital where one of three midwives will be on duty, they call the GP when birth is getting near so we have a doctor present for the birth in case of complications (cos we are 50 mins from nearest big hospital). No option for water births or home births either. We are really lucky tho that our midwives are lovely (not everyone agrees with me on that tho!) and we get to stay 5 days and the food is great! Oh and they take bubs at night and give you a sleeping pill if you want

Sorry a bit OT...

Lol! I have the same team but in reverse! I have Hilary as my main one, then Yvonne as my back up - they are both really lovely and on to it. Good to see another positive reccomendation for them!