Baby on Large Boat

Hi all,

Question for the mum's out there ... this summer we are having our first baby and we have been invited on an overnight trip on a large boat for a wedding (sleeps about 60 people so very large). If baby arrives on due date, he/she will be about 2 - 3 weeks old at the time and I just wonder what the opinions out there are of whether or not we should accept the invitation.

I have looked on the boat/ship website and they say they "do not encourage infants on board".

There will be some getting on and off via a aluminium runabout...

What do you all think?

Bx

The other things I'd also suggest you think about;
Will you be feeling like you want to be away from home with a baby that young? We went to an overnight wedding when our DD was 7 weeks old and I only just felt happy doing it. Although they do sleep most of the time so that is a plus.
Are you happy exposing your very young child to all those people (and their diseases)? Because lets face it, everyone will want to cuddle and kiss your darling.

Don't get me wrong though. No way am I judging you wanting to go! I was just really surprised at the difference between what I thought I would want to do (when we RSVP'd) and what I actually felt comfortable doing once I had that tiny little thing in my arms.

Edited by thesaff

We went to a wedding when DS was 10 days old. It was an overnight trip. We took my parents with us so they could help out with DS while we were at the ceremony, they stayed in our motel room across the road with him and I popped back and forth for feeds.

We had to take a HEAP of stuff. It was just two days but we had a suitcase for DH and I and one for DS with complete changes of bedding, about 8 changes of clothes, nappies etc etc. (he was a really spilly reflux baby though so we always had to have heaps of extra everything). We only just fit into our hotel room, let alone a wee boat cabin.

 

And like you say, I was exhausted and sore still. We ended up leaving the wedding at about 8.30pm as I was just so tired. Unfortunately you wouldn't really have that option being on a boat.

 

Don't let me put you off though, that was just my experience and you won't really know how you feel until you're doing it.

I personally didnt really leave the house for the first 10 days after baby arrived (by choice, it just felt right) so I cannot imagine being interested in an overnighter with no chance of escape!!!

Yes baby's are very portable at that age but what if you go two weeks over, or have a c-section or have a nasty tear or take some time setting in to BFing etc. Personally I felt the first six weeks were a huge adjustment, not the least of which your hormones will be crashing down to normal levels.

If it were a 'normal' wedding I'd say RSVP yes now and just see how you feel a day or two before hand but I'm guessing the whole boat thing is going to cost a fair bit of money so would be more fair on the couple to say now if you gut instinct is that it doesnt sound like much fun.

in my opinion... i wouldnt go.

there is a lot going on emotionally, pysically...your v-jay jay will be sore, you will be exausted with sleep deprivation, your boobs will be like balloons, you may have feeding issues, baby not sleep well, colic or wind ... at least at home if you feel the need to hibinate in your PJs for 3 days you can.. (trust me i did) theres no pressure to socialise.. you may have family and partner support etc

I dont want to burst your bubble.. just think about it and all the possibles...

and have you considered going over your due date as many babies do .... then what
would you have to pay in advance... no refund ??

good luck with your decision.
Maybe next summer instead ?

If you want to go, definitely go :) We went boating with some friends when DD2 was 2.5 weeks old, I really enjoyed myself