Spitting food out

Looks like I have a second picky eater in the house...ironic coming from parents who love food! Ashley started out great. I did BLW + some traditional spoon feeding and she was into everything, except potato. However, many, many colds later (she's had around 13) and we have a picky eater. She will play with anything but doesn't actually eat much of it. If I spoon feed her she spits everything out.

Since one particularly nasty flu virus, she's been having a bottle every night, sometimes having up to 300mLs of milk a night. We've tried to pull back on this but we just end up with a lot of screaming and not much sleeping.

I'm not sure how to move forward since she spits everything out?

She is having 2 breastfeeds a day plus 2 or 3 bottles. I wanted to move her to a cup by now but if she drinks from a cup she spits it out and thinks it is very funny.

To be honest I don't think she associates food with filling her tummy. I tested it recently. When she was really hungry I offered her solids and she only ate 3 tsp. I then got her out of her chair and offered her formula and she drained an entire bottle.

She is 13 months now. She loves the cup for water but if I put milk in it she just spits it out again.

If I give a little milk first she won't eat any solids at all.

She's been gradually getter harder at night too. Like now it is 2am and she's been crying for an hour. I've tried breast, bottle, co-sleeping, cuddles, new nappy, pamol but nothing works. She just yells. We thought it was a hunger thing but we seem to be having more and more nights when nothing will do. She'll have a small drink, settle for maybe 10 mins then get all worked up again so hve another small drink etc. The time awake each night is getting longer. She is happy as larry during the day. Had ears, throat etc checked again yesterday but they are all fine.

Depends on when she asks. Sometimes milk is 10mins after, sometimes more like 2 hours

Maybe she is filling up on too much milk, because at 13 months she only really needs two breastfeeds or two bottles.

Id probably start the tough love on her Fiona, only 2 breastfeeds or 2 bottles(not sure if you were still going to wean her), and then just give her food on her tray and if she doesnt eat it tough, and try again next meal, she wont starve herself, I think shes just being a monkey because as you said, she was a really good eater to start with.

I agree with Deb though, she is still young. Bella has milk in her sippy cup AM and then water rest of the day and then milk in her cup at night. She has a snack, then lunch and then a snack, and if she doesnt eat it, tough.
Alot of her food gets thrown on the floor lol.
I also give her what I know she loves at every meal, like banana, raisons, along with the sammies or what ever shes having for dinner, that way I know shes eating something.
She refuses to be spoon fed, she spits it out, so I just dont go there, she feeds herself.

Edited by Sheza

Caden still has 2 cups of milk a day as well Deb.

but yeah thats basicly what I mean as well, just offer her lots of snacks, and dont worry as she will eat if shes hungry, even if she picks at it.