Help needed.

Hi There

I am in need of some advice, DS is now 5 and a half months old round about. Ever since he was newborn he has been very demanding, i never had a problem with it because i loved how he liked to spend heaps of time with me But now it's getting very hard, he is teething which makes it harder but he just needs my attention all day long, ill give him toys to play with and thatl only keep him occupied for so long and so will anything else.

For some reason he is only happy sometimes during the day, he seems to cry alot and im not too sure why. Plunket dont seem to have any ideas really on how i could change it or what i could do to help the situation, he is normally fine when he is either in the car or his pram but it would be good to go and visit someone and he play happily on the floor but for some reason unless im holding him and walking around with him he loses the plot. I have tried leaving them him their for abit but he seems to nut it pretty quick and it takes me ages to stop him crying if he is doing something he dosnt want to do or somewhere he dosnt want to be.

Half of the problem could be because up untill now i never used to let him cry himself to sleep or anything like that, i would always tend to him and make sure he was happy, but he is a very demanding baby now. I never let him cry for too long because i just cant but it's sad to see he's only happy for a short ammount of time, i wondered if any of you ladies have had the same thing or experianced it and have some idea's ?

It also dosnt seem to be wind or reflux, he used to be bad with his wind but im sure he has grown out of it now, he just seem's very unsettled and unhappy

lol! R used to tummy thrust to try and get over. took him a while to realise head and legs go first... then the tummy lol.


and with the front pack - is he 'crotch-dangling'? apparently is really uncomfortable for them (and can do things to their hips n stuff) but if you have a Moby wrap (or access to a friends one) you could try the front carry in that? (you can hve them facing you or facing out, but you can tuck their legs up like a yoga lotus position and its more comfortable coz they are sitting on their bum against you, instead of hanging and leaning forward?)

Just because it's been International Babywearing Week:

Babywearing is your friend - a front pack isn't necessarily that great (I wouldn't think much of being carried around by my crotch either), try a wrap, a sling or a SSC - that way he gets to be close to you (so he can learn that security, meaning he won't get as much separation anxiety) and you can still get stuff done. There's lots of info on the Slingbabies website

ETA LOL snap to the previous two posters

Edited by weegee

I would try an oesteopath, or maybe a chiro as rachndean said.

Also, would recommend you read The Attachment Parenting Book, especially the bit about high needs kids. Some children just need a lot of attention and love, and the book has some good ideas.

My nephew was just like that until about a month ago. He would only be happy if Mummy had him. He would go to someone else including Dad but only for a limited amount of time before he wanted Mummy back and he hated tummy time or anytime where he didn't have contact with Mum - even bedtime!! He is now 6 months and for the last month has done a total turn about - very affectionate and happy to EVERYONE and is now a Daddy's boy too much to my brothers delight. I think my SIL has been a fantatstic Mum and hasn't really worried about it too much, has been there to give the attention her son needed and now he is happy and secure to be a bit more independant.

Great adive, thank you so much :) Do you recon i try the Osteopath or the Chiro practor, ive never been to one so i have no idea what they do lol or how much they cost....

I took DD to an osteopath when she was newborn, for reflux and wind/colic issues and he was great!! He charged $60 though, but man it was worth it!!

But if you dont think its wind or reflux etc then an osteo might not work, but if you want to pay that much(most of them dont come cheap) then go for it! Its worth a shot

This could be completely off topic but I found my DD spent most of the day grizzling and rather unhappy when she wasn't getting enough sleep during the day.

Is it possible he needs more sleep during the day and is just getting a bit overtired?

It could be because he is tired, he is really bad to get to sleep during the day, sleeps all night and during the days he's up for about 2 hours and then down for a sleep, but if i put him down earlier or later it seems to make him more grumpy, but most of his day sleeps are only about an hour long