Mummys boy!!!

DS is 20 months and a absolute Mummys boy. His first and fav word is "Mumma!" too!

He is breastfed, but from 11 1/2 months the breast feeding has been more on my terms cos I was physically getting sick all the time from being so run down, and getting more and more stressed by the sleep deprivation from demand feeding day and night.
It was DH who suggested night weaning at that point, but I really didnt think it would work. It did, and DS was still waking about once a night for quite a while but had learnt to be comforted by DH,...and now he sleeps through 12 hrs most nights.
We did it gradually by first having DH in the romm sitting next to us while I bf DS to sleep,... then gradually moving to DH reading a book to DS while I fed him, then reading a book to him after his bf,...then DS sitting on DH lap reading the book after his bf, etc etc...then eventually I could feed DS, pass him to DH kiss him goodnight and leave the room then DH would read the book and put him to bed and he would go to sleep himself. The whole process took 2 weeks.
DH would then get up and settle DS with cuddles in the night instead of me going in and bf him. The first night I endded up feeding him once when he wouldnt settle, then he didnt need it after that. There was a dramatic improvement in his sleep, with him mostly only waking once a night and just needing a quick cuddle after that.
If he wont settle for either of us then I do still feed him, but its usually only when hes sick.

I have been back at work for one 9hr day since DS was 5 months old tho, so he is used to being apart from me in that time, but is with me the rest of the time- and with either Daddy or Grandma whirl Im at work, depending on what day of the week it is as I do shift work.

I don't have a mummy's boy, but I sure have a mummy's girl! She's been 3-4 days in care since she was 7 months old, and weaned since she was 16 months but she STILL wants me over DH all the time.

We tried all kinds of things to get her to be ok with DH settling her - kindof getting urgent now, with #2 due in 10 days time! We have had a breakthrough recently where we can now get her to hop out of the bath with me and go to bed with Dad about 5 nights a week. Sometimes he has to offer a whole list of her favourite stories until he finds one that appeals today, and off she'll go. But some nights she just gets hysterical so it's back to me again. Night wakings she still usually cries for "mummy, mummy, mummy" and if she keeps that up for 5 minutes or so without settling then I take over from DH or we'll all still be up in an hour or more. Usually she snuggles into me and goes straight back to sleep.

I've tended to take the approach of trying to encourage DH to be the one that goes to her when she falls over or takes her fun places etc when he can, and she's gradually shifting her affections to include him a bit more. If he's not around, she still gets my attention.

So anyway, I haven't got it figured out myself, but if I do, I'll let you know

We have an interesting variation on this problem... My 20 mth old DD is very happy with her Dad, he looks after her a couple of days a week and she adores him (she also goes to an in-home carer a day a week). When he goes to put her to sleep she will happily go down and settle herself to sleep, but lately when I put her to sleep she just wants to be cuddled ALL the way to sleep - screams and crys if I try to separate her from my shoulder and put her in bed. Its only been happening for about the last month and it seems like its separation anxiety all over again. Only its only happening with me and not DP!

We have exactly the same approach with putting her to bed etc so I don't think its that he responds less to her and she knows she can get away with clinging to me. She is definitely still Mummy's girl when she is tired or upset, so I figure she just doesn't look for comfort from DP like she does with me, and doesn't go through the same separation anxiety.

Oh and our sleep turned to crap for a little while too over the last month. I read somewhere that it often does around 18-19mths when there's a peak of separation anxiety. I think we are over the bad sleep now, but the clinging is driving me nuts!

My boy is very much a Mumma's boy! he hurts himself it's me he runs for even if they're out the back playing boy stuff!

Mum's are knowing as cuddly & comforting.

I'm finding that leaving him with Mum for a little time he's starting to get used to being without me, absolutely adores them but still has a little bit of a cry for me. When he asks to stay with them he's fine.

He will come out of it, My boy adores his Daddy now, I'm chopped liver now when Dad comes home cause as soon as he walks in the door they start playing games. The kids hide & he has to find them, then they usually play ball or what ever. So maybe get DH to start doing real boy things with him, he'll still want Mumma but he won't be over you all the time.