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AngieBaby 
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Posted: 26 August 2011 at 2:39pm |
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Hi Everyone.
We're really sad to have been told of some OHbaby! members who have met through OHbaby! and then created a 'secret community' on facebook. We really value you chatting here on our forums and would love for you to stay here please as we don't want new members being directed elsewhere when these forums are here for everyone to communicate. If there is anything that we could do to work on the forums to have you stay here - e.g. closed groups etc that others 'can't see' then please do let us know as we're keen to keep you with OHbaby! where you met your friends and support this family owned business.
Thanks very much!
Angela
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catisla
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Posted: 26 August 2011 at 3:40pm |
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I am not a member of the secret group - but i dont have a problem with it (from what i have heard they are not asking anyone else to join anyway).
However, i don't like the idea of 'secret closed' groups on the forums. It would be very off putting to new posters - these forums can appear quite cliquey as it is sometimes, especially to someone new to them.
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AngieBaby
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Posted: 26 August 2011 at 3:44pm |
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Thanks Catisla
I've just been looking through the posts and the conversations are being completely moved to facebook and any new people to those groups are being told to go to facebook :( (boo hoo!)
If we can do better - we want to - if you can think of how this site could be improved to stop this happening - then we're keen to know - the more mums chatting here the more ideas and advice and community for all new people to draw wisdom from :)
Thanks :)
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Posted: 26 August 2011 at 4:03pm |
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must be a different group to the one i was thinking of then - i had noticed 'general chat' was a bit quiet recently!
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Posted: 26 August 2011 at 4:04pm |
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Due in threads :) not recent ones :)
Is there anything you can think of that we can improve? Always open to making this site even better for you all ;)
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Posted: 26 August 2011 at 4:08pm |
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I personally dont post as much because of the censorship that has happened over the last 12 months or so. I find it much easier to post in closed fb groups because its like minded people who dont get their knickers in knots every time someone dares to have a differing opinion.. sadly there really isnt much admin can do about that (perhaps not being so quick to hit delete for the minority...).
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Posted: 26 August 2011 at 4:10pm |
I don't post as much as I used to due to working full time again and that my children have grown up and I am "over" the baby and toddler stage.
I will say that deleting post on the confession thread over a year ago, caused a lot of people to be angry with OhBaby! as we felt like this was our home and we could say what we wanted, then to be told those sort of posts weren't allowed made people upset over the whole thing.
As for there being an exodus, I would expect that after people are over that stage of life they move onto other things. After I got married I left NZWP as I had planned my wedding, I came to OhBaby! as I had young children and now I have older children I have moved on to the next stage of my life.
OhBaby! is where I met a number of woman I call friends, but as we are over the "baby" and "toddler" stage of our lives we don't post as much as we used to.
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Posted: 26 August 2011 at 4:19pm |
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Hi Mummy of princess -
this is really good feedback thanks
What if we created the ability for you to create your own group like on facebook (on our forums) that would change your mind? We could do that :)
Mummy_becks thanks for your feedback :) good to know.
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Posted: 26 August 2011 at 4:19pm |
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ah - the 'due in thread'.
I am a member of a group of May 2011 mums that formed on facebook out of this - the main reason for setting up the group was to share photos amongst ourselves really. Once we had been posting a while we all became facebook friends - we don't use the group much at all to be honest and most o four posting is done on here. As the forums are public it is also a good place to reveal things that you wouldn't be happy sharing with just anybody, or something that you wouldn't want your boss/parents/DH to know about
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Posted: 26 August 2011 at 4:36pm |
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Thanks Catisla
Have been pm'd some feedback on just the same thing :) posting pictures :)
We're just testing some new forums software at the moment that will allow people to have albums, tag people, and comment on peoples comments etc so we might be able to offer what you're looking for :) yah!
If any of those groups would like to offer to test it with us that would be AWESOME! :) please pm me :)
Thanks so much for the feedback and letting me know :)
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Posted: 26 August 2011 at 4:39pm |
I agree with Mamaofprinces. A closed FB group is easier in a lot of ways as you simply don't have to deal with those who take offence to every.written.word.  And then there's the stalkers...... lol 
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Posted: 26 August 2011 at 4:47pm |
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Im part of a "secret" closed FB group and its not actually a group for us to sit around and be everything that OB is,eg kid related,its a bunch of Friends who met on OB most of us years ago,that have formed close friendships and for whatever reason spend more time on FB than on OB these days.
| still come on OB a fair bit,maybe not as much as I did but thats because I don't feel like I need to as much,I feel a lot more confident this time around than I did with my second,now I like to come on here to see how others are doing...but its not a "this place or that place " type scenario,the majority of us in the FB group aren't there to prove a point against OB,its just somewhere completely private for a bunch of friends to hang out and share personal joys and saddnesses that we dont want to share on OBs more public forum.
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Posted: 26 August 2011 at 4:48pm |
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Thanks Emmecat
We definitely have that ability now...So can implement it if you are interested? I just need some PM's to get them rolling :)
The new forum software we will release after testing will also allow albums etc
closed etc etc etc
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Posted: 26 August 2011 at 4:50pm |
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Thanks 'The Kelly'
That's really good to know....
Wwe can create an intimate group setting on OHbaby! for you if you were interested in that - just PM me :)
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Posted: 26 August 2011 at 4:57pm |
Its not unrealistic to have people out grow OB and move on, FB is simply another form of social media for groups to use, I personally belong to several FB groups which are closed/secret as the members don't want the information shared publicially. Which is the one thing OB can't protect is a members privacy, as a public forum anything posted here is open for anyone to read/see.
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Posted: 26 August 2011 at 5:04pm |
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Yep agreed caliandjack - it's just when new members to the site are told to go to facebook instead - it's a bit off :)
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Posted: 26 August 2011 at 5:35pm |
I also think if OhBaby! had of made a restricted section in the forum like it had been asked a number of times then older members may have stayed.
As for the due in threads, I think it is a secrecy think people don't know they are pregnant and people are stalking the message boards to find out info on them to take back to work/family etc it could make people very uneasy about the easy access people have to the message boards.
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Posted: 26 August 2011 at 5:49pm |
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interesting mummy_becks :) how do you reckon we could manage that better? Make those groups closed?
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Posted: 26 August 2011 at 6:05pm |
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Its a tough one really, I like that everything is open here, I just choose how much I share as I know it is an open forum.
I found Ohbaby by doing a search on infertility and a post came up on google... If we start closing everything off then you will reduce the foot traffic as those discussions wont show up.
I really dont see the problem with people setting up closed groups on fb, they still come to the other sections to discuss related topics.
I guess it really comes down to what your vision of the forums are?
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Posted: 26 August 2011 at 6:10pm |
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It's great that new software is being developed, I guess the thing with FB is that you can have groups of people with common interests other than just being due in the same month or having the same age children etc iykwim? I belong to quite a few private groups on FB and in my case (for example), many of them are AP oriented, which on a more 'mainstream' board like OB doesn't always go down well. I can't count the number of times I've seen threads get nasty because of a difference in opinion in not vaxxing/vaxxing, extended BF/FF etc..... just as an example. In the private groups I belong to, I needn't worry about someone taking my written word the wrong way or judging my parenting as we're all (more or less) parenting in that manner iykwim?
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