Working mums.......

How did you prepare your babies for going into care when returning to work? I am returning to work in just over a week and Im unsure if I should prepare him by leaving him with his carer for an hour for a few days next week or just treasure the time we have together while Im still at home (as you can tell Im sooo not ready to go back and wish soooo much I didnt have too)..

Also wondering how long does it takes for babies to get used to being away from you and how long will it take for me to get over this guilt?

 

You don't ever get over the guilt, however it does get a little easier I think. I cried as soon as I got off the phone from being told I had the job, and I mean cried!!!! Everytime I looked at my son, thought of him cuddled him I would cry. This went on for days until I finally secured and decided on who I was leaving him with. If you can be completely confident that where you leave bub is safe, nurturing and secure I think that is a big help.

I am now 4 months into working and whilst I miss being at home with my DS, I also enjoy the contact, stimulation and of course the extra money.

Remember that whislt you will be tired and at times frustrated try to make quality time with your little one. You will beign to appreciate a lot of things you currently take for granted. Our weekends are precious and we always try to do something really special together as a family. Even if that means just a walk in the park together, all laying in bed together to watch a movie and falling asleep, going out for pancakes etc etc.

I also take a lotto ticket occasionally just in hope!!

All the very best

kels I think guilt sums up a mother - you feel guilty if you don't worka nd guilty if you do.

Perhaps leaving Alize with his carer will help you too with the seperation. also teaches alize its ok to go as I come back. If hes like rhyley he is stil ok to go to ppl and Alize knows this lady.

Its not easy but it'll be ok.

deharn wrote: Everytime I looked at my son, thought of him cuddled him I would cry.

OMG that exactly how I am at the moment. A friend of mine who Alize has seen pretty much everyday of his wee life is having him so I cant complain about that.

I might try a comb of what Teresa and Emma said and do it on the last couple of days of next week. Oh gosh its all so overwhelming sometimes Ahh such as life or should I say "such as motherhood".

Maya wrote: AnnC wrote: kels I think guilt sums up a mother - you feel guilty if you don't worka nd guilty if you do. Absolutely! Babies should come with a warning: Caution: You will worry so much you will be old before your time

Hmmm I wonder how many new wisdom hair have appeared since I got the job